Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage or Loss ~ May 08 #2

[Mel A]

Wow! I go away for 1 week and i've missed an entire closed thread, took me a while to re find you all.
Me I've been in Sydney. All work and no play. But I'm back in Melbourne and at 8 DPO. So, smack bang in the middle of the TWW.

Good signs, I had slight spotting at 2 DPO or was that 3, thats another sign i've totally lost my ability to remember stuff. Plus I sneezed today at work, and had the tight pain in my abdomen.

Not reading anything into this, but thought i'd share so you can all wait the next week with me.

to the newbies, my thoughts are with you.
to everyone else, remember to smile.

ing. Mel

[jenushka]

What a busy thread! We are definitely a chatty bunch aren't we? I'll try and get to everyone...

Mel A - I hope the signs you had are signs ... less than a week of the 2ww to go.

Abbey - I DEFINITELY get that feeling each month. I think its my poor brains way of motivating me after being let down by AF - its what keeps me going. Thanks for the link on maca powder

Acria - great to hear you are having some fertile signs, have fun bd'ing and fingers crossed you catch that eggie!

katiegirl - thanks for dropping in and keeping an eye on us! I hope evrything continues to go well...

where theres hope - sorry to hear how your mind has been treating you lately... I do know from experience that google does not play nicely when you're feeling a bit worried about something. This is a great place to get it all out ... Hope you are feeling better soon

vanaithi - i hope you get some answers soon. Good luck for whenever you decide to test again

issy - wow... o time does come around quickly. Enjoy the rest in the lead up to next week - sounds like you'll be busy! At least you have a more than co-operative dh

mollycat - sorry to hear about the leak in the house - hope the builders managed to get it all done before the rain.

AJC - oooohh, did you buy the hpts? gl for whenever you decide to test and make sure you tell us the result!

Canary - the suspense is killing me! What time is it over there? Have you tested yet?!! Fingers crossed for you hun

jen - like everyone else has said - you make me laugh! I know this is a delayed reaction but 5 times in one day??!! You go girl! The first and only time dh and I were that active in one day was 8 years ago!! I think we're still in shock. And I'll be pulling out all stops this month to catch the eggie and enjoy ourselves at the same time, so thanks for the tips on watching "movies"! Candles, massages and maybe a bit of "grooming" a la Brazil (ouch!) could be on the cards too. I'll stop there before I get even further into tmi land! You are just such a crack up, make me smile and always have a kind sincere word whenever anyone needs, so thank you

Krystielove - Welcome and . What you are going through is so incredibly difficult, but you are in the right spot now - the ladies here are so completely understanding and supportive. I hope you can get some answers with your hormone levels soon

To everyone else - I hope you are either doing ok with witchface AF/going well with the bd'ing and catching the eggie/not going too insane in the 2ww/or that you get your bfp if you are testing soon!!

AFM - I changed my flights yesterday - now flying to Syd a week after I was going to (always knew I would!!). Thank you all for your advice and opinions and for making me feel like I wasn't too obsessed, rather dedicated (thanks Jen!). DH was really good about it too, and told me he thought I should change them as well. He just keeps saying "eye on the prize" in a bit of a jokey way but am glad to see that motivated approach from him as well this cycle Other than that I'm on cd 3 (ho hum!) - am eating LOTS of sushi and smoked salmon and caramel sundaes and drinking wine and enjoying the good bits of not being utd.

Oh yes, and in case anyone else ever needs to know - my research on St John's Wort/sperm showed that it does have a strong demonstrated effect on sperm motility, viability and their ability to penetrate an egg. DH had finished on it anyway as of last weekend and it should be out of his system soon... wished we'd done the research before he started taking it...

BBC News | Health | Herbal remedies may reduce fertility

Take care and for you all...

[~ Mylitta ~]

Hi everyone

Jen - Thanks for the explanation on DSD, lol. I have two DSS (hopefully that's the correct abreviation for step-sons hehe). They are 8 and 11 at the moment and they are both wonderful. I always gotten along really well with them and since DH and I got married about 2 months ago they have started to call me "mum". I never dreamed that they would make the choice to start calling me that! It's pretty special

Canary - Thank you for the welcome and good luck with your test!

AJC - Good luck if you are testing tomorrow!

Where there's hope - I was trying to place blame on myself for a while too, but I've decided to trust my obstetrician who has assured me that there is nothing I could have done any differently. I'm sure it's the case for you too sweetie.

Acria - I knew exactly what you meant I'm just thankful that there is a place where we can all come where everyone understands each others situation and can sympathise. It really helps knowing that there are people out there that care and can hold you hand (even virtually over the internet, lol) through tough times and help you see the sunshine after the rain.
Oh, and how was Christine Anu and Deni Hines?

[Acria]

Krystie - they were great Had a big singalong and just wished I had a glass of wine or 3, or 4 But I have a good feeling about this month, so I'm determined to do everything 'right'. Did the groceries this evening and Blackmores now have a 'trimester supply' of their pregnancy and breastfeeding supplement, so Dh picked one up and put it in the trolley. Very unlike him..he must really be feeling ready for fatherhood. I told him 'I like your optimism!' So yeah..feeling positive!

Abbey - yes, I get that feeling too! In fact I'm feeling it right now! Here's hoping it's accurate female intuition

Mel - Any signs out of the ordinary are good signs as far as I'm concerned. Particularly feelings in the abdomen. Fingers crossed.

Jenushka - I'm glad to hear youchanged the flights. I was worried you'd end up regertting it if you didn't, and missed your fertile period. And thanks for that info on St John's Wort, it's good to know, and I'm glad that you know one way or another for sure now.

Issy - thanks for the direction towards maca powder..if this cycle isn't a successful one, I'll probably look into it.

Lisa xx

[Canary]

Hi Everyone,
Thank you all so much for your good luck messages and support...

....They worked, it was a BFP for me this morning!

[jen805]

Canary-- I KNEW it!!!!!!! Oh, I'm SO happy for you!!! :woot: Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!


I thought I was going to throw up while I was waiting for your post to come up on the screen! You would think it was my BFP, or something! Huge to you, hun--I'm truly so very happy for you! I think I'm going to go vomit now...

[smilanatu]

Canary So happy for you!!! Congratulations!!!

[mollycat]

Canary - i've got goosebumps reading your post, how wonderful. What a way to start the weekend, getting great news like that.

AJC - hope your news turns out just as wonderful

Jenushka - glad you changed your flight, and glad DH feels the same way - you would always have had "what ifs" about this month if you didn't, have lots of fun

Extension Update - the roof is on - yay - it did rain yesterday morning while they were putting it up, and as soon as they finished the sun came out (murphys law), the other side wall is on except for a few boards at the very top, which they'll finish on tuesday before ripping out the old back wall. I've got so much stored in the new room at the moment it's going to take ages to empty it back out on Monday - (all the stuff out of my old laundry) I love walking around in it and mentally placing furniture. Oops not suppossed to have real furniture out there yet.

Jen - I love your little maths problem (maybe we should print them out and hang above our beds) DH spent last night away for work but will be back this afternoon. Glad your DF is being so helpful - I think mine wants this as much as I do but we're not quite as active as you two, he's just so tired at the moment he leaves for work before daylight and often it's dark before he gets home again, has tea and falls into bed.

[AJC]

jenushka - you'll be glad you changed your flights when you're staring at your BFP!!! Cross Fingers.

Canary - thinking about you and hoping you've got yout BFP!

I chickened out and didn't buy the hpt's today because I knew if I bought them I would use one tonight and if it's BFN I would kick myself for being so impatient. Will wait and if temp still up tomorrow then will buy one and test tomorrow or Sun. I am just worried that by taking b6 this month it's increased my LP by more than expected. Have been deliberately staying back at work for an hour or two each night this week so by the time I get home eat, walk the dogs & shower it's time for bed and no time to think about ttc.

Hugs and babydust for everyone.

[jen805]

Canary--Ok you're first on the list because you'll be awake before the Aussie gals. So..... did you POAS? Between you and AJC you're both going to give me a heart attack! The suspense is killing me! I'm praying so hard that we hear some great news today!!!


AJC--We're dying to know! Please, please, please, be a BFP!!!


mollycat--Sorry to hear about the rain and the leak. Hope the weather's holding up for you and everything gets finished asap! Happy O and hope you enjoy your BD fest this weekend!
+ =


issy--I have been feeling particularly naughty this week, but DF is loving it! The movies haven't stopped, so while DF has always been a BD freak, he's even more obliging during these times. I've heard he even thinks about it at work! Hope you have a great weekend!


Vanaithi--Sorry to hear about your BFN's. Praying for you that your cycle gets back on track! Stay away from the bellybutton and I think you might be just fine!


Where there's hope--I, too, obsessed over what went wrong, what did I do?, what could I have done differently.... TTC really took the focus off the self-blame and the endless questions. I decided I had to take it easy on myself and just focus on TTC rather than continue playing the blame game. Even if there had been something that I could've done to change it, it's too late now so there's no point in dwelling on what might have been. I can change what I do now to try to prevent any future problems, but even that's no guarantee. You're in my prayers, hun! Please go easy on yourself right now, and remember to give yourself time to get past this dark time!


Acria--Sorry to hear about your BFN! Didn't I read somewhere that you're O this weekend?


Abbey--Praying that your gut feelings are right, and this is your month! Good luck, can't wait to read of your BFP!


Mel--Hope your TWW flies by! Your signs sound really promising--especially the momnesia!


jenushka--I'm so glad to hear you changed your flight! Hope your dedication is rewarded with a BFP!! 5 times in 1 day is pretty out of character for us, but more along the lines of what DF dreams about! It was so sweet, too, because I wasn't even going to tell DF that I was fertile and will be O, and he actually asked! He took a look at my charts and everything! He even tried last night for a second go-around, asking if I needed more spermies! Now that's dedication! Good luck with the movies--toys come in rather handy, too! (naughty me!)


KrystieLove--So sweet to hear of your DSS calling you mom! I met my DSD's when they were 3 and 6, so they've actually been calling me mom for something like 6 years. But it was their decision, something they wanted to do. It caused a lot of drama with their mother for a while, but she's over it now. Not long after my m/c we got custody of my younger DSD (11 yrs.), but the older one still lives in Vegas, so we don't see her as often. I think sometimes it's harder to be a step-mom than a mom! Have you found that to be the case? Hope things are well with you, hun!