Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage or Loss ~ May 08

**Vanaithi** · May 7th, 2008, 12:15 PM

Thanks AJC, I think Im going to try to relax now... whatever happens happens right.

i think i mean the achy feeling is the stretchy-pully one youre discribing... sort of pulsing or throbbing or something... oh well...

just looking forward to tomorrow when the bt results come back to make sure the hcp is outta my system.

Goodluck to all!

**AJC** · May 7th, 2008, 04:33 PM

vanaithi - I haven't experienced pulsing or throbbing in that area. Did you follow the post op instructions (no dtd for 2 weeks & no baths etc). I'm sure you did and all is fine, your body is probably just adjusting to not being pg anymore and hopefully preparing itself well for next pg which will go to term and you will have healthy bub!

I do actually get a really sharp shooting stitch type feeling when I do a big stretch, but I've always had that even before ttc. It might be something that's not related to ttc. Probably just another one of those 'unexplained' things in the ttc world!

I hope you bt comes back with 0 tomorrow - do you mean hcp or hcg?

**Trac73** · May 7th, 2008, 06:04 PM

Hello Ladies

I have just spent the past half an hour writing a post and have lost it so here we go again.
I am not able to do personals at the moment as there is so much happening and i am having troule keeping up but i am lurking and checking on everyone.

Well i am 8 weeks and 4 days and have had my first ultrasound and everything was perfect. There was an extremely strong

(first check 180bpm second check 164 bpm). I saw my doctor yesterday and already i have high blood pressure and they are keeping an eye on it as i had it with my daughter and ended up in Hospital about 4 times. I have been having dizzy spells as i am standing on my feet for 8 hours a day with a half an hour lunch and my boss refused to give me a chair. My doctor asked if i could reduce my shift so i went to talk to her about it and she basically told me that if i wanted to work there it had to be for a full day. So now i am unemployeed but with a healthy bub.

I want everyone to know that i am thinking about them and sending them plenty of

I hope you all don't mind that i am still here as i am to scared to move onto the PAML thread

**bettyboop** · May 7th, 2008, 07:29 PM

how you alll doing, my chart is really strange this cycle , now waiting for AF to arrive.

**plc1805** · May 7th, 2008, 04:45 PM

Hi ladies - i have been lurking but not had good chance to post for one reason or another. At the moment i have a screaming kid at my feet so i am going to make this quicker than i would like. I got my results and it was 957 hcg. So i think that that is ok but i just don't feel anything which is really really concerning me. My doc was a lot more chirpy when i spoke to him on the phone so feel a little more encouraged to continue with him. Huge hello to you all - i think of you a lot and apologise profusely for the lack of personals (which is going against my nature at the moment!). Take care and babydust and sticky vibes to you all!!!

AJC - ur such a champ being there for the girls above when u were so down urself previously - good on ya girlfriend!!

**jen805** · May 8th, 2008, 03:13 AM

OMG, I just clicked on the wrong button and just lost my whole post!

I guess I'll give it a go again.... Grrrrrrrrr!

Vanaithi--Wish I could help you answer your questions, but unfortunately, It's pretty confusing for me, as well. Have you been to fertility friend to make a chart yet? It helps quite a bit in keeping track of where you are in your cycle at the moment. I've actually had some difficulties with my charting, but I don't temp, and I also can't tell any difference when I've attempted to check my cervical position--it always seems the same! lol... I also don't really ever check my CM, except for the one day last month when I had watery CM, and I realized I was O'ing. I know my chart would be much more accurate if I were temping, and many of the other women here do temp so I'm sure their charts are way more accurate. Good luck to you on your BT!

AJC--Hope things are well with you! All this charting talk got me checking out yours--looks like you BD'd at just the right times! Praying you get your BFP this month! Oh, btw, I agree with plc--it's not easy feeling so positive for others, when you've felt so down about your own situation! You're awesome!

plc--Hey mama! Great BT results! Glad to hear your doc is coming around! I'm counting down the days till your u/s!

Trac--Isn't it SO frustrating when you lose everything like that?!?! 8 1/2 weeks! :woot: SO relieved your u/s went so well and you got to see a strong

Wow, so you quit your job? Good for you for sticking up for yourself and your little one! Now make sure you take it easy!! And of course we don't mind that you're still here--please stay! You're always welcome, even when you're 8 mo's!!

bettyboop--Sorry your cycle's so wacky--mine was that way, as well. It's very frustrating, isn't it? Looks like AF's due soon, right? After that, it's party time, eh?

Good luck, hun!

smilanatu--Hey girl! Any signs yet, or is it still too early? I'm in a pretzel position--got everything crossed for you!

To all those in the

I was going to switch over to the other thread to get everyone's name, but this is the point where I lost my post last time, so you all know who you are, and here's a little more

For all of us waiting for AF to pack her bags, lets hurry up and get this party started!

**smilanatu** · May 8th, 2008, 03:59 AM

Good afternoon ladies...no time for personals (my desk is STILL piled high from last week) but I wanted everyone to know I am lurking...reading...trying to keep up...thinking about you all!!!

getting

to everyone!

**AJC** · May 8th, 2008, 09:42 AM

Morning everyone

Trac - so fabulous that your scan went well. Shame your boss isn't very understanding, your healthy bub is most important so you look after yourself. You can visit in here as often as you like.

jen - thanks for looking at my chart - I guess it does look ok so far. Even if no BFP at the end of this cycle if I finish with +opk (check) and a longer LP (cross fingers) I'll be happy. And when/if af arrives this cycle, am going to take a leaf from your book and have a strawberry dacquiri.

bettyboop - your chart does look a little out of whack but they are not huge irratic jumps and drops so I'd say your body is just getting back to normal and preparing for next months BFP.

plc - glad to hear hcg was good. Lots of ladies don't get symptoms, a good friend of mine is about 30wks at the moment and she had no symptoms hardly at all in the first tri. Bub is just being gentle on you.

Hugs and babydust for everyone (and sticky vibes for the Mums to be)

**tempus moriendi** · May 8th, 2008, 10:55 AM

Hi everybody! AF is still here, but I started taking clomid again today, so it all starts all over again!!!

jen805: woot woot for enjoying a coctail during nasty AF

Vanaithi: do you cross check temps with your cm? I highly recommend it because you get a clearer picture of what's happening with you. (cm is related to estrogen, temps are related to progesterone)

plc1805: hope your blood tests go well (because you get more than one, right?) *cross fingers*

tina_k: sending cyberhug

Trac73: boo hiss to your evil boss. But I'm glad bubs is strong!

**jen805** · May 8th, 2008, 11:31 AM

AJC--

you won't get to drink a strawberry daquiri any time soon, and also for your longer LP!

tempus-- :woot: You should have one, too, just since you can! Good luck with the clomid!

pbstar & tina k---

for you both! Hope you're both doing well!

**Vanaithi** · May 8th, 2008, 03:12 PM

Hellooo ladies...

hcp hcf? something or rather like that that means the pregnancy hormone... bit tired today & cant think of what it is & cant be bothered finding out! but you know what i mean...

i havent been to the docs to get the results of the hpg / & the other healthy bt yet, i will go today, hopefully there's good news... either it's 0 which is good but even better would be if its high like im pg again! i wish!

i havent been charting my temps. i've tried the opk i think 3/4 times in the past few days... got various results... first time it said fertile i think, then infertile then infertile... i have no idea wats going on. oh well. i think i will be buying a pg thermometer thing tonight at the docs & start charting my temps.

i've registered onto some website that charts ovulation... its called ovulation-something-or-rather...

**Where there's hope** · May 8th, 2008, 03:38 PM

* child mentioned *

Dear ladies

I hope you do not mind my joining your thread. I have been lurking on various forums since my MC on March 31 trying to learn what I can from people who have been through the same sad situation.

I am 37 (almost 38) and was fortunate to fall pregnant and have a trouble-free pregnancy giving birth to DD at 35. Because of the 3rd & 4th degree tearing (sorry TMI) DH and I were told to hold off delivering for another for 2 years. So we tried again last year and again conceived, only to lose the baby in September to a Trisomy just before 14 weeks. I had a D&C and it took a long time for my body to recover. We were told we were unlucky and to try again, managing a BFP early this year. Everything was going well, though there were unexpained high progesterone levels at the start. We saw a perfect HB at 7 weeks. Just after 10 weeks via ultrasound my OB said the baby had stopped growing at 8.5-9 wks. I was sent to have a D&C. This time my recovery was very quick. AF, though only two days, returned bung-on 28 days. We did BD last Sunday (Day 7)and it caused spotting - don't know if I should be concerned. So here I am on Day 11, after this first AF, charting, really keen to TTC, but my OB says if we do not wait for a 2nd cycle, I will have 3 times the miscarriage risk! I have googled and googled and the advice I keep coming up with seems to be just to wait for one cycle. My OB said it was to do with hormones in the follicles.

Also, this may sound a little premature, but we are about to embark on IVF with PGD. While we have been able to conceive I am really worried about the quality of my eggs.

Sorry to have laboured on, and I realise you are not doctors, but I would value your take on this. Any thoughts appreciated.
Thanks!

**jen805** · May 8th, 2008, 11:31 AM

AJC--

you won't get to drink a strawberry daquiri any time soon, and also for your longer LP!

tempus-- :woot: You should have one, too, just since you can! Good luck with the clomid!

pbstar & tina k---

for you both! Hope you're both doing well!

**jen805** · May 8th, 2008, 11:36 AM

AJC--

you won't get to drink a strawberry daquiri any time soon, and also for your longer LP!

tempus-- :woot: You should have one, too, just since you can! Good luck with the clomid!

pbstar & tina k---

for you both! Hope you're both doing well!

plc--Thanks for the invite!

**jen805** · May 8th, 2008, 11:43 AM

AJC--Here's

and

that you won't be drinking any daquiri's any time soon, and to a longer LP!!

tempus-- :woot: you should enjoy one too, just since you can! Good luck with the Clomid, I hope it helps!

pbstar & tina k--

for you both! Hope you're both doing well, and are cheering up a bit!