milla - I know how you feel...I've been here a few weeks now and still struggle trying to keep up with everyone.
Everyone please know I do think of you all even if I don't always do persies.
jen - back at ya!!
adele - Sounds like a beautiful day yesterday. DP sounds wonderful too. At least he is sharing it all with you and not holding it in like a certain bloke I know. You are my inspiration right now (and angel too *waving*)...that you are able to be so strong. Although if you don't want to be there is no reason in the world that you have to be. I think it was actually you who told me that when I first joined.
jenushka - Good on you for being so zen. There's not really anything else to be...stressing won't really achieve anything. Hope all goes well with our appointments.
21 - Hi! *wavin*. You're DP sounds great...very supportive. Mine was not thrilled about BB in the beginning. He thought it was upsetting me even more. He's accepting it now, but still grumbles a bit when I tell him what everyone is up to. He'll come around though.
AFM - Feeling a bit low today. I didn't sleep very well last night. Must be still adjusting to daylight savings which started last weekend. Why they had to start it a whole month early, I'll never understand. Then today, a former colleague popped in to say hi. He asked me when I was going to have babies. I'm never sure how to answer that question. I did tell him what has happened, though.
I was just wondering if everyone was aware that October 15th is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day
There is a Wave of Light that happens each year. Everyone is invited to light a candle on October 15th at 7pm in ALL Time Zones, ALL over the world. If everyone Lights a candle and keeps it burning for at least one hour, there will be a continuous WAVE OF LIGHT OVER THE ENTIRE WORLD ON Octovber 15th
There is a web site you can go to which obviously i cant give you any links but if you google the date you will find it.
For me I will be wearing my pin and I will burn my Candle all day
The official colours are blue and pink so maybe on that day we could also type in those colours......
I believe the key to what we have been through inorder to make it just a little easier for the next person is AWARENESS...... The more we talk a about it the more we are there for others so that they dont feel so alone the more strength we can give to people to help them deal with it. To me that is the first step....... Once that happens the second step is why...... I dont believe why can really be answered because there is not just one answer..... but when we starte with AWARENESS we start the ball rolling and we help to make it easier for others.
Angel - well said. So true, the more people that talk about m/c the better. With more support we are all able to cope better. It's such a private pain, that often leaves one feeling helpless and a failure. With awareness and understanding this may take some of those "feelings" away and give everyone the support they need.
Wouldn't it be great if our doctors or hospitals could give our support sites (such as this) or people that we could talk to. Even if it is only a name for us to contact when we are ready.
I know that without the wonderful ladies on this site, I would not have coped. My own mother lost two babies (one between her first two children and the other between my sister and myself), even she does not talk about those pregnancies or lost children very often. I know that she didn't understand the way I was feeling when I m/c. I can only imagine when she was having babies the thoughts would have been "it's okay, you'll have another one". Sometimes it's just not that easy.
Jen - had trouble looking for somewhere to looks like the witch has found me. I'm so over it.
Dellydoo - for you and DP. Sounds like a beautiful way to say goodbye.
Mollycat....... I just had this vision when you mentioned that AF found you and you saying its not fair..........I had this vision of "mature" ladies... myself well and truley included ....... having AF turn up.... and it turning us into 2 year olds..... stamping our feet and screaming... throwing a "terrible twos" Tantrum (no smiley to picture this so you will have to use your imagination...... these big grown ups stamping their feet.... screaming.... like an oversized 2 year old.)....... Ohhhhh sorry...... maybe its just me ...... but it cracked me up. and still is
Angel Babies yep. I'm here stamping my feet. You made me smile. Thanks.
Actually, just asked DH if he was OK (he had a not so great day at work). He said yes, I told him I'm not.
HI guys!
just a question im on CD22 of a 28 day like clockwork cycle and im experiencing shooting pains up my cervix and alot of thick white lotion like discharge, could this possibly be symptoms, i dont expect pregnany ever again at this point but was just wondering if anyone experienced this at all.
ME 21 DP 21
TTC#1 for 2 years
one blighted ovum
CD 22 of 28 day cycle
currently undergoing fertility testing
I agree with angel and molly about the need for awareness. When I m/c all I could think about was that I didn't know anyone this had happened to. Until BB I had no one I could talk to who could understand.
hi lydia...i've had shooting pains up my cervix on and off since my m/c, but not with any discharge. I don't really know what it is but its occurring less and less frequently. Now it occurs around O time and during my period. Whenever I've mentioned it to my GP, she just made sure it wasn't infection, but didn't seemed to concerned about it otherwise. Sorry, I haven't really helped much.
Actually, I'm wondering if anyone else experienced worse period pain following m/c. I always got cramps the first couple of days. Now I have much worse cramps the first day or two and they come and go right through. Hmm...maybe my body is still adjusting
21 - one of my first pregnancy symptoms (especially with my first pregnancy) was thick white lotiony discharge, around the date AF was due. I had cramping on and off, don't remember if there were any shooting pains though.
Hannah- after my first m/c (natural m/c), AF was quite very light (only 2 days). Then I got pregnant again and m/c again (this time with a D&C). My first period after the D&C was very heavy, especially on the first day, but I didn't have any cramping. I am now going through the 2nd AF after the D&C and so far everything looks "normal", but I've realized that I have quite a few cramps (which I never had before). Weird...
AngelBabies . thank you for posting the info about the awareness day. I agree with everyone else, once you realize that you're not alone, things get a bit less difficult to bear. I had the urge to talk to everyone about my m/c's and I heard so many heartbreaking stories about m/c's and stillbirths. One of my friends (she is already in her 60s now) said she has had 2 m/c's and a stillbirth and it almost ate her up. In those days there was no Internet and no online communities and people just didn't talk about it.
Oh, and AngelBabies, you are SO right about AF showing up...mine did 3 days ago and I hated her for it (I always hate her. I'm looking forward to the weekend when she will have said her goodbyes and I hope to not see her again for 9 months!!!!
back at ya!!
Good on you for being so zen. There's not really anything else to be...stressing won't really achieve anything. Hope all goes well with our appointments.
looks like the witch has found me. 
I'm so over it. 
....... having AF turn up.... and it turning us into 2 year olds..... stamping our feet and screaming... throwing a "terrible twos" Tantrum (no smiley to picture this so you will have to use your imagination...... these big grown ups stamping their feet.... screaming.... like an oversized 2 year old.)....... Ohhhhh sorry...... maybe its just me ...... but it cracked me up.
and still is 
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