21 - one of my first pregnancy symptoms (especially with my first pregnancy) was thick white lotiony discharge, around the date AF was due. I had cramping on and off, don't remember if there were any shooting pains though.
Hannah- after my first m/c (natural m/c), AF was quite very light (only 2 days). Then I got pregnant again and m/c again (this time with a D&C). My first period after the D&C was very heavy, especially on the first day, but I didn't have any cramping. I am now going through the 2nd AF after the D&C and so far everything looks "normal", but I've realized that I have quite a few cramps (which I never had before). Weird...
AngelBabies . thank you for posting the info about the awareness day. I agree with everyone else, once you realize that you're not alone, things get a bit less difficult to bear. I had the urge to talk to everyone about my m/c's and I heard so many heartbreaking stories about m/c's and stillbirths. One of my friends (she is already in her 60s now) said she has had 2 m/c's and a stillbirth and it almost ate her up. In those days there was no Internet and no online communities and people just didn't talk about it.
Oh, and AngelBabies, you are SO right about AF showing up...mine did 3 days ago and I hated her for it (I always hate her. I'm looking forward to the weekend when she will have said her goodbyes and I hope to not see her again for 9 months!!!!
hannah--Sorry to hear you're feeling so down I hope you sleep better tonight. So you're the one stealing all our daylight! DST is about to end over here... gets dark by 7 now. I've had fluctuating periods ever since m/c... some are really light, while others are extremely heavy and clotty ( sorry ). When it's heavy, I've noticed that my cramps are much worse. I'm sure your body it just trying to get itself back to normal.... hope it happens quickly for you!
Angel--Thanks for the Remembrance Day info. Ordered myself a remembrance pin this am, and also one for a girl that helped me out with the bookfair, and also with the 6th grade fundraising... I believe she had 3 or 4 m/c's. Just thought she might like it.... Think I'm going to buy a big candle when I go downtown, as well, so that I can keep it lit throughout the day on the 15th. Thanks, again, Angel!
mollycat--Awww, hon, I'm so sorry that d@mn witch found you! How the hell did she get through my force field? You go ahead and throw a tantrum all you like--you can't always be strong, and I know it's frustrating how long you've been dealing with this! Hope you feel better!
Easha--I know I'll be there on Friday! *raising hand* Hey, your temps still look good, so chin up! Don't give up just yet!
Milla--Hope AF is taking it easy on you! Good luck this next cycle, hope it brings you your BFP!!
smi--Good Thursday morning to you! Tomorrow's Friday!! Can't wait!
Krystie--Always thinking of you, and hoping you feel better soon! I'm SO sorry you've been so I have to be honest and say I don't envy you! I would love to be pg, but just can't get myself to look forward to m/s no matter what! Little Chyan's already making her presence known in a big way--which is a good thing, but can't help but feel sorry for you for feeling so ill! Love ya and miss ya Pill Girl! Hope you can make it to Friday chat! *kiss*
Mollycat and hannah - big hugs girls, you sound like you both could do with some so plenty coming over your way
Just to say that I am quite open about my m/c's IRL. Purposefully done so that it gives an opening to anyone who might be "in the closet" on the subject. It is far more common than I ever realised before I m/c.
I'm planning to chat tonight, although the fact that i am already up at this time and I can't sleep might make things a touch difficult. I would like to at least try to come on for a bit. Jen - how has our day-light savings affected you? We have gone forward an hour so does that mean I need to stay up til 11.30pm (new time) instead of 10.30pm? Someone pls enlighten this mush of a brain.....lol.....!
Jen & PLC - thanks I just wish AF would show up a little quieter (if she really has to visit at all). I think having the headaches just makes it so much worse. I'll try and join you in chat (if I can work out java - for some reason it doesn't like my computer) although I also have the problem of staying awake long enough
I know I still find it hard to talk about my m/c to most people as i'm still very emotional. Maybe when I finally am pg again, then it will be easier.
Milla - let's hope that when AF leaves you she doesn't come back for a very long time.
Just popping in to say hi everyone i'm off to the clinic soon for my scan and feeling really nervous. Hopefully all will be well and we'll be right to have this IUI on Sunday. Back later with personals...
plc--I, too, am pretty open about my m/c's. I mean, I don't bring it up to miscellaneous people or anything, but if someone asks, or just depending on the topic of conversation, it has come up. I often talk about "the awesome site" I joined.... most people just listen and the conversation keeps going. Some people who really listen actually ask what kind of site it is. But I'm always bragging about my girls! The time here hasn't actually changed yet, so things should still be the same... I think ours changes in early Nov, but it is getting darker earlier. I was also curious what would happen to our chats, and whether they would be affected when time changed. Hope to see you up and awake in chat--don't forget to take a nap today!
mollycat--Ooooh, yeah, try to stay up for chat!! That would be awesome! I had a little problem with Java at first, but there's troubleshooting you can do to try to fix it. It wasn't working for me at first, and then all of a sudden, it just was, so I was stoked! Maybe your DS1 can help you! Sorry to hear about your headaches... I hope you feel better soon.... Damn witch....she must have pulled a 007 or some Mission Impossible move to get thru my force field! Wish I could give you this in real life
Megsmum--Good luck with your scan! I've got everything crossed for you! Saying lots of for you and for Fred!! I pray you get to move forward with the IUI on Sunday! Keep us posted! Hugs!
dellydoo--I'm so sorry Adele I know how terribly hard it was for you to hear that Charles was perfect.... but no matter what, he would've been perfect to you! So just hold on to the fact that you can produce normal, healthy babies.... you're very lucky in that aspect! Hope the FS helps get your cycle to her liking, and good luck with the FET transfer next month. I it brings you your BFP!!
jen - I did sleep much better last night thanks. Although I did wake up with DH's knees in my back, usually its the other way around. . How goes the 2WW? At least your keeping busy.
easha - Here's hoping this month
plc - Thanks for the
molly and milla - Next month is our month!!! I'm all for taking hold of the broom and belting the witch back. A ought to do nicely.
megsmum - Good luck with your scan.
dellydoo - Not sure what I can say. I hope you find comfort in the fact that Charles was perfect, but I'm sure he was perfect to you anyway. I hope the FS can help and goodluck with FET next month.
Yesterday a former colleague came by to catch up. He asked when I was going to have babies. Its a fair enough question, but I haven't figured out an answer yet. I've decided to just tell the truth. (Besides he's a physician so I didn't expect any WTF comments). People need to know and I have resolved to refuse to spare them the embarrassment of hearing it. If the question makes me uncomfortable, why should I not answer it plainly and simply, just so that those who ask don't feel uncomfortable?
plc - honey I remember that chicken soup recipe so well! It is so lovely to see you again - thanks so much for your support.
Mollycat - I am so sorry darling - AF arrives on her freakin' broom and proceeds to belt us with the handle.
Hannah honey - I hope your pain eases - my first period was actually OK but I think that was more to do with being on a mountain in the lotus position (well cross legged anyway; until my ankles got sore).
Milla - I am with you on the 9 month AF holiday. Enough ALREADY.
Easha - "just keep going" is our silent mantra - well that and "Die evil AF witch die". I hope you are wrong about her this month sweetheart.
Angel Babies - Thanks for the remembrance day update - you always share these wonderful things with us - thank you. I was howling with laughter at your toilet tanty!
21 - Thank you so much - he truly is an angel
Jen805 - Honey - I hope this is your month
AFM - we got the autopsy results on Wednesday morning and I think you guys will understand how hard it was to hear that Charles was perfect. He was fully formed and everything was normal. It was a spike in infection in me that caused the m/c. I feel so sad but also hopeful because it means that we can make beautiful, normal babies. I just need to hold on to them.
Went to see FS yesterday and she is not really happy with my endometrium this cycle (7mm) so she is taking over my cycle (back on syneral) after I surge and looking at FET transfer next month.
Love to you all
Adele
Megsmum - wishing you all the best for your scan this morning
Dellydoo - maybe we should take hold of the broom and belt her back Sorry to hear about Charles' result. It gives you an answer and hope, but doesn't make it any better at the moment. All the best with your cycle next month.
thanks hannahd for the info, also I had my d and c in may and since then every period i have had has gotten worse! i never had cramps before the procedure now i get sore breast sometimes 2 weeks before ( i hate it coz i always think its a pregnancy symptom) and cramps before, during and a much much heavier longer period. I think my body changed after thats all i can think of!
also milla thanks for the info, it gave me ...slight ....hope
now im on CD 23 and the sharp pains are more frequent, i sometimes get them while i HAVE af but never before and it started a week before its due so im stumped, since d and c every month im always 28 days but keep getting different things happening! i am not going to test unless i am late, im going to start vitamin b6 next cycle and it will be my 2nd cycle using the fertility monitor ( didnt get a peak this month) so hopefully that will help! good luck guys! also I found out my partner may be going to the middle east for an army term in Feb 2009 and we dont know whether to keep actively trying or just see what happens or stop all together! so confused!
tried to post yesterday, but laptop was playing up!
Megsmum - good luck with the scan today, for you.
Dellydoo - I am lost for words, but please know my thoughts are with you.
to everyone else
AFM - Starting to get a little nervous with my nuchal scan on Monday, this is the final big test for me and just hoping everything works out. I have plans to fly to Cairns on Friday to see my beautiful niece for her 1st birthday, really want to be there for her big event so I'm ok.
larz - GL for Monday. Am sure Bub is doing fine. Can't wait to hear how it all goes cause I just know you're going to be beaming when we hear from you.
The news is all good from me One 20mm follicle and a 10mm one, so we are right to go for the IUI on Sunday! Thank goodness, I thought we'd never get there. Fred has to the most slow growing follicle in history LOL But crikey you should see me now. When she had taken my blood, the nurse put a bandaid on my arm because it had just about stopped bleeding. So I got up picked my handbag and then gushed blood everywhere All over me and the floor! And yesterday I stubbed my little toe on a chair and it's really sore today too. So I now have a hobble and a bandaged arm as well Oh well, we have finally gotten there, so I am very happy and relieved.
larz - All the very best for your scan! Stay positive, all will be well!
21 - I hope the pains are a good sign I've never had anything like that so can't really help, but anything is possible. Good luck!
HannahD - Good on you for telling him, I'm at the stage now where if it comes up I just tell people about my m/c too. I agree with the other ladies, if we just hide it then the subject will always be "taboo". It's amazing (but really sad) the number of ladies who tell you that they have also had one whe you tell them about yours. I hope your cramps ease up soon.
Jen - Thanks for that cycle buddy Will be joining you in the TWW on Sunday - finally!!
dellydoo - I'm so very sorry about your darling Charles hun I wish I could say something to help. All the very best for your FET, you will have a baby to hold soon I'm sure!
mollycat - Stupid AF!! I'm sorry she's knocking you around You'd think she'd know she's not wanted by now!! I get the horrible headaches the first couple of days of AF too, so I know how you feel.
plc - Hi there!
Easha - I hope AF stays away for you!
Hi to everyone else that I've missed! Hope you all have a nice weekend!!
Megsmum - so happy for you, glad everything went well. everything for you during your TWW. Nothing worse than wondering if your are PG or not for 2 weeks, wish they'd discover an extremely early pregnancy test!!
AJC - Thanks for the well wishes, I really do believe everything is fine, but I sometimes wont let myself believe it because I'm worried about jinxing myself. Scan is at 8am so I'll be on here straight away to tell you all the news. Still haven't told my friends, I've been avoiding them as my bb's and tummy are so big it's hard to hide.
My next BT result has come in. E2 was 126 on Tues (after 4 injections). On my increased dose of Puregon, it was 490 this morning (after a further 3 injections). Considered a steady but slow increase.
My guess is I either have a small group of small follies or a couple of developing ones. I have another BT and my first ultrasound on Monday. Decision will likely be made that day as to whether to continue my initial forray into IVF.
Feeling a bit flat - I thought the result might have been higher
mollycat....funny that you mentioned that DH had a bad day..... If I m in tanti mood and I see that DH doesnt look so good... I listen to whats wrong with him.... if my tanti is more important then I tell him it is..... ..... then I tell him when i m finished with my Tanti then he can have his... normally tell him I was in tanti mode first so he will just have to wait his turn..... only one tanti at a time. If his is more important then I put mine on the backburner.... but when it gets brought back out its normally a double tanti scarey stuff
HannahD... I think we all do.....some of us try to be all "mature" and stuff and keep it to ourselves... others..... like myself i must confess.... chuck bigger tanti s
Jenushka...Huge Congrats..... for a smooth 9 months
Easha... Friday nights are Friday nights.... its my social night of the week.... in years gone past it might have meant night clubs or drinkies..... now it means loggin onto the computer to chat to a group of weird women all around the world...... hmmm hold on a sec... i m one of those weird women.... I m in QLD so no time change here.
Milla.... I think its the same for pretty much everyone.... you feel so alone.... My DH, while he isnt to impressed when I dont answer him cause i m busy on here....... loves this site... he knows that without finding this site I wouldnt have managed to the degree that I did. Knowing that your not alone, knowing that you are understood is a vital part of the process. You are treated as if something is wrong with you because you are so destressed...... you feel so bad.... then you find this site and realise those people who were making you feel that there was something wrong with you..... are the ones that have NEVER lost their child or children. They have never been through it. So for those people.... a big tongue sticking out at you (sorry... am I being a 2 year old again...... my bad)
I just sent you a PM Please please please don't give up hope yet!! I will be over the weekend for lots (but not too many) of follies growing. At least you have had a rise in E2 and have got a bit more time left to do more injecting. Hang in there, and I've got everything crossed for you!!
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. I'm looking forward to the weekend when she will have said her goodbyes and I hope to not see her again for 9 months!!!!
I hope you sleep better tonight. So you're the one stealing all our daylight! 
DST is about to end over here... gets dark by 7 now. I've had fluctuating periods ever since m/c... some are really light, while others are extremely heavy and clotty ( sorry 
). When it's heavy, I've noticed that my cramps are much worse. I'm sure your body it just trying to get itself back to normal.... hope it happens quickly for you!
You go ahead and throw a tantrum all you like--you can't always be strong, and I know it's frustrating how long you've been dealing with this! 
Hope you feel better! 
Can't wait!
I have to be honest and say I don't envy you! I would love to be pg, but just can't get myself to look forward to m/s no matter what! Little Chyan's already making her presence known in a big way--which is a good thing, but can't help but feel sorry for you for feeling so ill! Love ya and miss ya Pill Girl! Hope you can make it to Friday chat! *kiss*
i'm off to the clinic soon for my scan and feeling really nervous. Hopefully all will be well and we'll be right to have this IUI on Sunday. Back later with personals...
The time here hasn't actually changed yet, so things should still be the same... I think ours changes in early Nov, but it is getting darker earlier. I was also curious what would happen to our chats, and whether they would be affected when time changed. Hope to see you up and awake in chat--don't forget to take a nap today! 
That would be awesome! I had a little problem with Java at first, but there's troubleshooting you can do to try to fix it. It wasn't working for me at first, and then all of a sudden, it just was, so I was stoked! Maybe your DS1 can help you! Sorry to hear about your headaches... 
for you and for Fred!! I pray you get to move forward with the IUI on Sunday! Keep us posted! Hugs!
. How goes the 2WW? At least your keeping busy. 
this month
ought to do nicely.
Sorry to hear about Charles' result. It gives you an answer and hope, but doesn't make it any better at the moment. All the best with your cycle next month.
to everyone else
All over me and the floor! And yesterday I stubbed my little toe on a chair and it's really sore today too. So I now have a hobble and a bandaged arm as well 
Oh well, we have finally gotten there, so I am very happy and relieved.
..... then I tell him when i m finished with my Tanti then he can have his... normally tell him I was in tanti mode first so he will just have to wait his turn..... only one tanti at a time. If his is more important then I put mine on the backburner.... but when it gets brought back out its normally a double tanti 
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