TTC after Miscarriage or Loss ~ February 08 #2

[STARRYSKY]

hey nickster, I so totally agree with berecca, if you feel like you need to have the extra attention and monitoring, you should get it, (I know I need it! and Im still stressing!) is it easy enough to find another GP there? I hope so, you deserve better than that.
jodson

Tina-k have you had af since D&c? I only ask as I have read that it can take awhile.....for me 5 wks till af showed.

angelbabies and all you lovely ladies, wishing you all the best of luck this cycle, I want you all to come and join me soon!

I had my 2nd bt yesterday, Hcg came back at 4264, so more than doubled, but I am still freaking out, I want some morning sickness so that this feels a bit more real! (I hope i regret that statement...soon...!)

fingers crossed for all, hope you dont mind me dropping back in occasionally, let me know if it is uncomfortable............I will understand.....
xxxx

[AJC]

Starrysky - am just speaking for myself here but you are welcome anytime. I often actually stalk the PAML thread just to reassure myself that there is hope.

Nickster - I think your doctor should be a little more understanding and at least send you for bt (progress to check hcg) and reassurance ultrasound at 6wks.

Tina - I think a week after af due is a bit too long to wait (sorry's Tina's DH!) 3 days is a fair compromise (at the most). Good luck, fingers crossed for you.

ll80 - glad time out has been positive for you. DH and I had time out before our latest ttc attempt and I think we're both better for it. We're both much more relaxed and positive this time.

berecca: am glad it isn't just me who considered taking a month off to avoid a Santa baby. DH thought it was a good idea though because then at least he will get Christmas off for once. It's awful when bd gets a little bland but what our DH's don't seem to understand is that we don't choose when our bodies are fertile - if only?!?!? Am glad you feel better for talking to each other about things.

Am still not sure what my body is doing - am thinking that the elevated temps today and yesterday are just because I'm not feeling that well - hayfever . I guess we'll be able to tell over the next couple of days. Still going to try to keep up the bd over next few days just incase the egg hasn't flown.

A big hello and Hugs to everyone else.

[Jodsan]

Tina, you should be able to test the day you are due and be in with a reasonably good chance of success. Boys just dont get it, they dont have the same instincts and hormones. It's easy for him to be objective about it but you are living with it. Not going to tell you what you should do but my DH would be told its my body and I will test and he has to just be supportive now matter how neurotic I am!

Nickster - I would go to another doctor. This is a very exciting time and it would be good to not have to spend it worrying. You need the peace of mind of knowing HCG is going up.

Af arrived for me, which confirmed what I already knew. Back to day one, this is going to be a very exciting cycle, I just know it!

[Baby Angels]

Firstly Nickster.......... There is absolutely one person who needs to be comfortable with how everything is going and that is you. You look in the mirror or you look at your tummy and YOU decide what YOU are comfortable with. This is your Pregnancy... your baby and YOU have to be comfortable. Dont let ANYONE dictate or control how you feel during your pregnancy and guess what.... I ll be here for you the whole way through regardless of what s going on through your journey or mine.

Starrysky..... I m speaking for myself here. I have absolutely no problem with you hanging around. I confess to sneaking over to your "new" thread just to check how you are going... some people could call that stalking.....LOL I was thrilled to see your HCG levels increase that much. I will confess.... reluctantly.... that it did bring back thoughts of my angels because the lack of increase in HCG was my key point. But having said that in a strange way that was good for me. Sometimes I get distressed that I have actually coped with my loss as well as I have.... Sometimes I wonder if I have coped too well. Watching a HCG level jump like that when I went for test after test praying that mine would go up further, it hit me and yes it brought a tear or two.... BUT I was greatful for the tears and I was THRILLED for you!

So I am hanging by you and Nickster the whole way through.... at times it might be difficult for you or for me but thats what we do...... we are here for each other! You have no idea how THRILLED I am for you both

Now as for DH s ... DP s .... and DF s ..... They can frustrate the absolute life out of us sometimes.... I know (and you all know) that mine drives me insane at times.... BUT.... Whilst their loss of their angels is different than ours it is still a loss. We may not understand their loss and what they feel and they may not understand ours.... but the absolute bottom line is these are the men we chose to be with. These are the men that we love...... The men who are the fathers of our angels and hopefully soon, the fathers of our children. Maybe ll80 you have the idea.... to have a bit of time to think about what they actually mean to us. I look at my DH sometimes and I wish to a degree that I could turn the clock back... back to when we smiled, laughed more.... and sex was sex not BD but that s not something I can do... nor would I because I treasure the 10 weeks I had with my angels........ but I can try to regain the closeness that we did have. I can try and focus on what is wonderful about him and not focus on what frustrates me.

Goodness I feel like Im preaching to a degree tonight.... my appologies.

StarrySky and Nickster..... HUGE HUGS and everyone else..... GROUP HUG

[pbstar]

morning girls

just a quick question- i am 4DPO and i have had a temp drop this morning, i figure this is too early for an implantation dip so do you ladies think this means i am definitely not pregnant this month?

starrysky- me too, you are so welcome and i really enjoy hearing how you are going, gives me hope...and i too have to admit i drop in on the PAML thread to get some reassurance

angel babies- am def going to take your advice on board about DH and TRY to be a bit more understanding of him too.... it's so true what you say and makes me realise that his downsides are all part of what i love about him and wouldn't life be boring if we were all perfect

nickster- agree with the girls on the doctor issue, it's worth finding someone understanding and am sure it would make a huge difference to your emotional state

jodsan- sorry to hear about AF, GL for this month

hugs to everyone else and some for all

[Katiegirl]

Morning everyone.

Jodsan sorry to hear about AF. Though taking a positive look, at least you know that your cycle is returning which will make charting easier. That is what I try to tell myself when AF rears her ugly head.

Tina - can you please send your email again - I can't find where you posted it. Sorry I haven't gotten back to you. Still happy to catch up if you would like. I live in the inner city and work out in the East - so both easy distances from you.

To all the discussions about partners. I think it is very common for them to get sensitive about having BD 'dictated'. I have had to work very hard at keeping it relaxed so that the whole process does not feel like a chore.

Well I am now 17DPO - expected AF on Sat. I must be very patient because I am still certain AF is on the way and will not test until Wed - if AF is not here by Wed than I think I have reason to test.

Nickster - I also agree that you need a dr who will understand your anxieties. I have changed Obs for that very reason. I liked my old Ob but I just decided that I wanted a fresh start and his relaxed manner would not suit me this time. Do whatever you need to in order to feel confident as your pregancy progresses.

Good luck to everyone else. I hope you all had lovely weekends.

[tina_k]

Katie girl, my email is tinabishay@hotmail.com
would love to meet with you and any other melbourne girls who want to join us!
apart from today, im free this week, so pop me an email and well organise something!

AF due today, so ive decided to test on Wed if it hasnt come..just not feeling anything like i did last time, and i can feel PMS pain coming on, so not looking good, but its not over till we see AF right!!!!