TTC after Miscarriage or Loss ~ February 08 #2

[Katiegirl]

Morning everyone.

Jodsan sorry to hear about AF. Though taking a positive look, at least you know that your cycle is returning which will make charting easier. That is what I try to tell myself when AF rears her ugly head.

Tina - can you please send your email again - I can't find where you posted it. Sorry I haven't gotten back to you. Still happy to catch up if you would like. I live in the inner city and work out in the East - so both easy distances from you.

To all the discussions about partners. I think it is very common for them to get sensitive about having BD 'dictated'. I have had to work very hard at keeping it relaxed so that the whole process does not feel like a chore.

Well I am now 17DPO - expected AF on Sat. I must be very patient because I am still certain AF is on the way and will not test until Wed - if AF is not here by Wed than I think I have reason to test.

Nickster - I also agree that you need a dr who will understand your anxieties. I have changed Obs for that very reason. I liked my old Ob but I just decided that I wanted a fresh start and his relaxed manner would not suit me this time. Do whatever you need to in order to feel confident as your pregancy progresses.

Good luck to everyone else. I hope you all had lovely weekends.

[tina_k]

Katie girl, my email is tinabishay@hotmail.com
would love to meet with you and any other melbourne girls who want to join us!
apart from today, im free this week, so pop me an email and well organise something!

AF due today, so ive decided to test on Wed if it hasnt come..just not feeling anything like i did last time, and i can feel PMS pain coming on, so not looking good, but its not over till we see AF right!!!!

[Katiegirl]

Hi Tina

I will drop you an email. And yes I know how you feel - I have been having AF-type pangs for the last 4 or so days and still nothing! I just know it is coming but this delay just seems to cruel! I won't even allow myself to think I may be pregnant.

[tempus moriendi]

Haven't been on in a couple days, and around here, you miss two day, you miss a lot! But I had to work a couple nights ago, then last night went to dinner and a show with my BFF from college (ditched the DH's and DK's, neener-neener!)

But anyhow, I'm 12dpo, tomorrow I have a dentist appointment and am thinking about POAS because I'm a big chicken when it comes to dental pain and always have nitrous oxide, even during routing cleanings (a big no-no during pregnancy). Or I could just suck it up and go anesthesia-free, then test on Tuesday...

Hearing all you ladies talk about your charts is making me want to join Fertility Friend and do it too (talk about peer pressure,LOL!)

Jodsan: I'm so glad about your grandfather pulling through, but sending cyberhug about that nasty ol' bfn.
And it's actually my grandfather who's sick, but right now he's status quo.

plc1985: hope you enjoy your visit w/MIL

Angel Babies: you got a great sense of humor! LOL at your swimming sperm post

AJC: my guess is your temp went up a little from being sick. But you need three high temps in a row before you can consider yourself in the luteal phase (or phase three or premenstrual or whatever you method calls it.)

berecca623: IKWYM about obsessing--been there, done that. But it's good to get some balance in your life, too. and think about other things-- just for your own peace of mind and stuff. Fertility problems can take over your whole mind if you're not careful. Sending encouragement vibes
PS if there were a guy manual, guys wouldn't read it anyway...

nicksterUK: it seems most docs don't take the first mc very seriously. i think because it's usually a one time thing. and i'm praying yours was! but would you feel comfortable pushing your doc a little harder for tests if you're really worried?

ll80: sound like you have a great attitude towards TTC. Best of luck.

tina_k: your hubby sounds like me--I always used to test 20dpo. but my FS wants me to test 14dpo. good luck!

STARRYSKY: actually, I find you inspirational--you went through what we did and are having a happy outcome. drop in anytime IMHO.

pbstar: when your temp goes up it should be at least higher than your previous six days. Then you need to see if it stays up for at least three days. It should not go lower than any of those "pre-shift six" readings. hope that helps.

Katiegirl: good luck.

[pbstar]

Hi TM

Yes my temp went higher than the prev. 9 days and stayed there for 3 days, then today it dropped a little, only one of the prev 6 days temps was higher than today, the rest lower...any insights?

just need to have a little vent...

a friend at work just annouced her daughter's pregnancy- every day i listen to this friend complain about her daughter because she is so messed up on drugs etc and can't be bothered working and is baiscally just a no hoper...the boyfriend is no better, just got sacked from his job at a fast food store... the only reason this girl is keeping the baby is because she has had abortions before and doesn't think she should have another...

just gets to me how unfair life is, why someone like that is blessed with being able to have children so easily and doesn't care and has no way of giving them a decent life...

anyway could never says all this to anyone in real life so just needed to get it off my chest

xo

[Jodsan]

Oh pbstar, big hug It's not fair when people get pregnant who weren't even trying. But is does sound like this girl needs a wake up call with her life, a bubs will certainly do that and may help her turn her whole life around. Fingers crossed anyway, for the sake of the baby.

Your time will come, very soon. Chin up.