TTC after Miscarriage or Loss ~ February 08

Magda · February 14th, 2008, 08:22 AM

Hoping Soon: CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!! I am soooooo happy for you. I know that you are going to have a happy and healthy 8 months.

Canary: I hope you are feeling better.

TM: I am so sorry for your lost.

Berecca623: That is wonderful you are almost there, at the end of the 2WW period. I can't wait to be in the 2WW, I think I have one more week.

Luna: How are you doing? I hope you are doing better.

Hi Angel Babies: I really enjoy your posts, like you I have quit the smokes and I have cut down on coffee, I just love coffee.

To all the other ladies Hi, hope everyone is doing well, sorry if I forgot anyone but by the time I got to Hopingsoon's awesome news I forgot everyother posts I read.

As for me I start TTC tomorrow, I am nervous (no not about doing the deed) but just about getting it right, timing, the right days, good strong swimmers, ovulating, you know the whole mechanism of everything doing it's thing, nature.

You see I am crazy.

Have a good night girls, I am off to a sushi dinner have to have it tonight because when I get preg in a few days I won't be able to eat the stuff for 9 months.

**plc1805** · February 14th, 2008, 10:06 AM

Hopingsoon - CONGRATS hun!! So very very pleased for you!!!

Sending you loads of

Hi to everyone else and praying the dust settles on all of us!!!

**Luna** · February 14th, 2008, 01:26 PM

Hopingsoon - congratulations!!! I knew it! I could not believe that you could hold off testing as long as you did. 28 days past O with high temperatures and you still did not test??? When I read that I KNEW you are going to get

I cannot believe how happy this makes me feel, it is silly, almost as if it was personal.

Magda, and everybody else that gave me such kind words lately, thank you so much, I am better now, and this BFP (although not mine) put me in an even better mood.

**Katiegirl** · February 14th, 2008, 02:23 PM

HopingSoon - congratulations on the BFP. I am so excited for you. I hope the next 8 months are uneventful and relaxing!!! It is so lovely to see someone in 'our team' get this news. It gives us all a good lift and some much needed hope.

**STARRYSKY** · February 14th, 2008, 03:30 PM

CONGRATULATIONS HOPING SOON!!
So very happy for you!! wishing you all the best for a totally uneventfull 9 months, sending you lots of

come on girls

we can do it, soon it will be our turn!

Happy Valentines day to all

how romantic a valentines BFP!!

**bettyboop** · February 14th, 2008, 05:20 PM

wow congrats hopingsoon
ajc when are you going to test, looking good
hi to everyone else
had app today , went well, blood test were all normal , showing that i have been 0ing that part was good, lining is thin but looking back i have always had a thin lining,2.5mm, hoping AF show in the next week or aBFP would be great, might be ashermans again , hoping not, i will have a blood test in 1 week if BFN the he will organise an op to have a lookaround asap.i was so pleased to have him on my side.

**berecca623** · February 14th, 2008, 06:51 PM

Congratulations hopingsoon am very happy for you!!!

Well tested today even though days til AF is due, just thought it would be a good Valentine's Day present. Unfortunately it was although not losing hope as it is still too early I know!

New things today on top of all the others that give me hope. Eating dinner with mum tonight, had sweet chilli sauce in it. Normally have no problems but tonight could really taste it and was burning my mouth.

Also, and sorry for TMI, but checking for CM (I have to do internally) I felt quite swollen / spongy inside. Good signs????

**AJC** · February 15th, 2008, 08:06 AM

Berecca: I was thinking the same as you - was feeling pg this month but was just my mind playing tricks on me BFN & spotting this morn so it's all over for this month. At first I thought I was going to get upset about it but I am ok - much to my surprise. I wasn't happy with my temps this month anyway so I would have been worried that everything was ok if I had got a BFP. One more cycle before I start clomid. I said to DH if it doesn't happen naturally maybe it's for the best and the clomid will help keep the bub snuggled in tight for 9 months this time.

Bettyboop - so glad to hear things are finally looking ok for you and the doc is on your side.

**tempus moriendi** · February 15th, 2008, 10:46 AM

Thanks everybody for your kind wishes. Funeral is Saturday. This is just one of those things you live through one day at a time.

Anthonysmom: I'm so sorry, was he really old, seeing that he was your mother's uncle? Hopefully he was peaceful. And IKWYM--you've already been through a loss and now here's another one.

hoping soon: so very, very happy for you and I'll be praying very hard. Keep us posted!

nicksterUK: sorry about BFN. Keeping fingers crossed for next month (after AF shows up...)

Magda: best of luck!

bettyboop: didn't know you had asherman's before. can they do anything for a thin lining, like some med or supplement?

**bettyboop** · February 15th, 2008, 09:30 AM

what a long TWW

**bettyboop** · February 15th, 2008, 01:10 PM

the doc said it it was really bad luck to ashermans the first time but a second time would be really bad luck, still hoping that is not the problem, he said he can fix it if it not to bad.he told me there is one way of making the lining thicker is to take viagra, has anyone heard of this?

**Baby Angels** · February 15th, 2008, 04:44 PM

I have no idea where to start so I decided I wouldnt. It would take me so long to reply to them all and the replies would be outdated......LOL.l

Soooo I m back.... no more motels for me now for at least 6 weeks. I tried the "o" pee sticks.... kept coming up negative so I m supposidly not "o" but hubby was so good to me on Valentines day that bit of Jiggy was the call anyway

Temps arent dropping and its saying no to "o"...... Oh well.

I ll catch up as normal over the next few days.

Ohhh by the way, I picked up my babies from the crematorium and they stayed at home while I was away with their older brothers....18 & 16. I actually did a lot better than I thought I would.

**AJC** · February 15th, 2008, 05:25 PM

Hi - I'm sorry but I feel like no one understands me better than you ladies.

Firstly - af arrived this morn after my boobs and a few other signs had been telling me I was pg since 7dpo. Ok, I could deal with that - then MIL sent me a picture sms of DH's cousins baby who was born today. Ok I'm happy for them but it's a good idea to play down the whole baby thing with someone who is having fertility issues. I thought she would have known better and I know she wouldn't mean to hurt me but I'm now pi**ed off so poor DH is going to have to go through it all with me when he gets home. A friend from school recently had a bub and her Mum was so tactful when she spoke to my Mum, it really makes a difference.

Then to top it off gardening has been my therapy through the whole ttc/m'c thing and someone has stolen 3 pots out of my front garden this afternoon. I have little pots scattered through my garden and they took the pink frangipani and two azaleas! Bas**ards! I can't believe it. There was a delivery slip under the door from a courier - I know you can point the finger without proof but those pots have been there for a good 12 months so is it just a coincidence that my pots disappear the one day that they call and no one is home!

I am trying to be calm as I know it will catch up with them (karma is a beautiful thing) but GGGGRRR!!!!

On a lighter note I have decided that we only have one more cycle before I start clomid so I think a nice OS holiday will be a good idea. We both have time off in 3 weeks and were just going to drive up to QLD but bugger it - we'll splurge and go to Singapore or something. Orchids are my absolute fav so I've always wanted to go to Singapore - plus we might get a flight in the big huge new Singapore Airlines A380.

I'm so sorry but as I said I really feel like majority of the few people in this world who understand what I am going through are in here. Thank you XX

P.S The Oyster Bay Sav Blanc I'm drinking at the moment does make me feel a little better too, he he he.

**pbstar** · February 15th, 2008, 06:47 PM

hi all

just wanted to say hello and wish everyone TTC good luck and lots of

i am fairly new to all this but learning quickly...i miscarried my first pregnancy early Jan and after reading all of your posts and insights i have really stepped up the efforts in ttc again- starting temping and charting and i am finding it all really helpful...if anything it just helps to keep me focused on the few things about ttc that are in my control...if that makes sense. i think there is still a big hole in me that i am trying to fill but reading all of your posts helps me feel like i'm not the only one who feels that way

anyway fingers crossed we all have some good news soon.

**STARRYSKY** · February 15th, 2008, 06:51 PM

welcome pbstar, sorry you had to join us, and sorry for your loss.
I am glad we could be of some assistance.

**plc1805** · February 15th, 2008, 08:15 PM

Hi pbstar - welcome and hope you feel as comfortable in here as I do!!
AJC - sweety, what a day! Commiserations on the crap. Be kind to your hubby

And.... I am envious of your holiday and equally envious of your Oyster Bay Sav Blanc - a very nice drop!! Enjoy!!

**Canary** · February 16th, 2008, 01:47 AM

Hi everyone,
Just a few quick messages, i dont think I can remember everything I wanted to say to you all.

TM. So sorry for the loss of your FIL. I'll be thinking of you tomorrow.

Hoping soon.

Oh my Goodness, I love the way you just casually announced your BFP at the end of a calm and collected sentence. CONGRATS girl! I so knew you were going to have a BFP. That's, what, the 2nd BFP in 2 weeks on this forum???? I'd love to use loads of exciting emoticons, but the pop up blocker is stopping me.

AJC... Sory about AF and so, so sorry that the theives have taken your lovely plants. I know that I would be really cross if someone took something that I had planted with care and attention. I know what you mean about Karma, though, I like to imagine what nasty events will befall these villans.... (evil laugh, he, he)

pbStar- welcome to the forum and sorry for your loss. I hope that your journey here is a short one

Betty. I am really pleased that you have found a good doc to take care of you.

Hi to Barbara, Nickster, AngelB, Laura, Brecca, Starrysky and Magda and sorry anyone I missed.

I had a great valentines day. Ate lots of lovely (and expensive) seafood, drank way too much wine and then followed it all with a chocolate binge! It was a wonder that I had any energy left to BD after that feast, but DH and I struggled through!

I am having trouble with the old CM examination. To tell the truth, I have never really looked at it before. Right after AF, it was a bit watery (which is supposed to be fertile, isn't it? ) Then it seemed to go away completely, and more recently it has been 'normal', or, erm.. a bit like just white tacky stuff. Defo not EWCM. In fact, I dont think that I have ever noticed anything like egg white coming from down there. Maybe I'll have to look out for the watery stuff again. Has anyone got any advice on this please??

**pbstar** · February 16th, 2008, 05:16 AM

hi canary

i was just reading about the CM here
Fertility Friend Handbook - Fertility Charting For Pregnancy Achievement

Mine is watery right before the EWCM so you might want to check out the watery stuff again, maybe you missed it or it looks similar to the watery stuff

there is a section on that page further down about what to do if you have no EWCM- may be you need to change the way you are checking for CM? do you take temps as well?