TTC after Miscarriage or Loss ~ February 08

**bettyboop** · February 15th, 2008, 09:30 AM

what a long TWW

**tempus moriendi** · February 15th, 2008, 10:46 AM

Thanks everybody for your kind wishes. Funeral is Saturday. This is just one of those things you live through one day at a time.

Anthonysmom: I'm so sorry, was he really old, seeing that he was your mother's uncle? Hopefully he was peaceful. And IKWYM--you've already been through a loss and now here's another one.

hoping soon: so very, very happy for you and I'll be praying very hard. Keep us posted!

nicksterUK: sorry about BFN. Keeping fingers crossed for next month (after AF shows up...)

Magda: best of luck!

bettyboop: didn't know you had asherman's before. can they do anything for a thin lining, like some med or supplement?

**bettyboop** · February 15th, 2008, 01:10 PM

the doc said it it was really bad luck to ashermans the first time but a second time would be really bad luck, still hoping that is not the problem, he said he can fix it if it not to bad.he told me there is one way of making the lining thicker is to take viagra, has anyone heard of this?

**Baby Angels** · February 15th, 2008, 04:44 PM

I have no idea where to start so I decided I wouldnt. It would take me so long to reply to them all and the replies would be outdated......LOL.l

Soooo I m back.... no more motels for me now for at least 6 weeks. I tried the "o" pee sticks.... kept coming up negative so I m supposidly not "o" but hubby was so good to me on Valentines day that bit of Jiggy was the call anyway

Temps arent dropping and its saying no to "o"...... Oh well.

I ll catch up as normal over the next few days.

Ohhh by the way, I picked up my babies from the crematorium and they stayed at home while I was away with their older brothers....18 & 16. I actually did a lot better than I thought I would.

**AJC** · February 15th, 2008, 05:25 PM

Hi - I'm sorry but I feel like no one understands me better than you ladies.

Firstly - af arrived this morn after my boobs and a few other signs had been telling me I was pg since 7dpo. Ok, I could deal with that - then MIL sent me a picture sms of DH's cousins baby who was born today. Ok I'm happy for them but it's a good idea to play down the whole baby thing with someone who is having fertility issues. I thought she would have known better and I know she wouldn't mean to hurt me but I'm now pi**ed off so poor DH is going to have to go through it all with me when he gets home. A friend from school recently had a bub and her Mum was so tactful when she spoke to my Mum, it really makes a difference.

Then to top it off gardening has been my therapy through the whole ttc/m'c thing and someone has stolen 3 pots out of my front garden this afternoon. I have little pots scattered through my garden and they took the pink frangipani and two azaleas! Bas**ards! I can't believe it. There was a delivery slip under the door from a courier - I know you can point the finger without proof but those pots have been there for a good 12 months so is it just a coincidence that my pots disappear the one day that they call and no one is home!

I am trying to be calm as I know it will catch up with them (karma is a beautiful thing) but GGGGRRR!!!!

On a lighter note I have decided that we only have one more cycle before I start clomid so I think a nice OS holiday will be a good idea. We both have time off in 3 weeks and were just going to drive up to QLD but bugger it - we'll splurge and go to Singapore or something. Orchids are my absolute fav so I've always wanted to go to Singapore - plus we might get a flight in the big huge new Singapore Airlines A380.

I'm so sorry but as I said I really feel like majority of the few people in this world who understand what I am going through are in here. Thank you XX

P.S The Oyster Bay Sav Blanc I'm drinking at the moment does make me feel a little better too, he he he.

**pbstar** · February 15th, 2008, 06:47 PM

hi all

just wanted to say hello and wish everyone TTC good luck and lots of

i am fairly new to all this but learning quickly...i miscarried my first pregnancy early Jan and after reading all of your posts and insights i have really stepped up the efforts in ttc again- starting temping and charting and i am finding it all really helpful...if anything it just helps to keep me focused on the few things about ttc that are in my control...if that makes sense. i think there is still a big hole in me that i am trying to fill but reading all of your posts helps me feel like i'm not the only one who feels that way

anyway fingers crossed we all have some good news soon.

**STARRYSKY** · February 15th, 2008, 06:51 PM

welcome pbstar, sorry you had to join us, and sorry for your loss.
I am glad we could be of some assistance.

**plc1805** · February 15th, 2008, 08:15 PM

Hi pbstar - welcome and hope you feel as comfortable in here as I do!!
AJC - sweety, what a day! Commiserations on the crap. Be kind to your hubby

And.... I am envious of your holiday and equally envious of your Oyster Bay Sav Blanc - a very nice drop!! Enjoy!!

**Canary** · February 16th, 2008, 01:47 AM

Hi everyone,
Just a few quick messages, i dont think I can remember everything I wanted to say to you all.

TM. So sorry for the loss of your FIL. I'll be thinking of you tomorrow.

Hoping soon.

Oh my Goodness, I love the way you just casually announced your BFP at the end of a calm and collected sentence. CONGRATS girl! I so knew you were going to have a BFP. That's, what, the 2nd BFP in 2 weeks on this forum???? I'd love to use loads of exciting emoticons, but the pop up blocker is stopping me.

AJC... Sory about AF and so, so sorry that the theives have taken your lovely plants. I know that I would be really cross if someone took something that I had planted with care and attention. I know what you mean about Karma, though, I like to imagine what nasty events will befall these villans.... (evil laugh, he, he)

pbStar- welcome to the forum and sorry for your loss. I hope that your journey here is a short one

Betty. I am really pleased that you have found a good doc to take care of you.

Hi to Barbara, Nickster, AngelB, Laura, Brecca, Starrysky and Magda and sorry anyone I missed.

I had a great valentines day. Ate lots of lovely (and expensive) seafood, drank way too much wine and then followed it all with a chocolate binge! It was a wonder that I had any energy left to BD after that feast, but DH and I struggled through!

I am having trouble with the old CM examination. To tell the truth, I have never really looked at it before. Right after AF, it was a bit watery (which is supposed to be fertile, isn't it? ) Then it seemed to go away completely, and more recently it has been 'normal', or, erm.. a bit like just white tacky stuff. Defo not EWCM. In fact, I dont think that I have ever noticed anything like egg white coming from down there. Maybe I'll have to look out for the watery stuff again. Has anyone got any advice on this please??

**pbstar** · February 16th, 2008, 05:16 AM

hi canary

i was just reading about the CM here
Fertility Friend Handbook - Fertility Charting For Pregnancy Achievement

Mine is watery right before the EWCM so you might want to check out the watery stuff again, maybe you missed it or it looks similar to the watery stuff

there is a section on that page further down about what to do if you have no EWCM- may be you need to change the way you are checking for CM? do you take temps as well?

**hopingsoon** · February 16th, 2008, 08:42 AM

Hi

Tempus I will be thinking of you and your family on saturday.

Thanks for all your kind words. Now I am just really nervous. I haven't told my husband incase something happens again. Last month with the miscarriage my temps didn't really increase much and this time they have gone really high and stayed high so I am hoping that is a good sign. I also had a lot of cramping last time too. This time I am having a bit of pain but I don't know how I would really explain it. It isn't cramping but it isn't normal either. Has anyone had anything like this.

I hope everyone gets bfp's soon.

**AJC** · February 16th, 2008, 09:30 AM

Tempus: My thoughts are with you & your family today.

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Canary - I have no idea with the CM either. The only time I think I have had EWCM is usually after bd and is probably, well you know what. Sorry TMI. I started checking my cervix position this month but I don't think I'll do it again. Didn't really help and no matter how clean your hands are I don't think it's the best thing to do along the hygeine lines.

Hoping soon - my last pg I had a pulling stretching type feeling which sort of but not really (if that makes sense) felt like af feeling too. I asked doc about it and she said it is normal and usually goes away around 6 weeks. I also found a little paragraph in the 'what to expect' book which says the same thing - and that some people are more in tune with their bodies hence they feel any little twinge more.

I realised this morn that they had taken a 4th pot - this nice one I had at the front door full of water with frangipanis floating on top. I actually ended up calling police assistance line and reporting it - I know it's no big deal like having a car stolen or a break in but at least if anything else goes missing then I've reported it.

pbstar - welcome. Look forward to getting to know you but hope you're not here long

**Brockstar** · February 16th, 2008, 09:40 AM

I'm a newbie in this thread, just thought I would pop in and say g'day and see what everyone is up to.

We suffered our 1st m/c 2 weeks ago, and are having a hard time

However, as this bub was so wanted and so needed, we have decided that we would ttc straight away and see what happens. I personally think that having something positive to think about will also help me start healing.

So, a question: m/c 2.2008, d&c 3.2.08, no AF since. OB did say anything up to 4 weeks for AF to arrive, but the waiting is really taking it's toll. So, we bit the bullet on Wednesday 13.2 and did the BD. I guess we just wait now?

RIght now I feel ill about the fact that we did BD, because we are still grieving, but we were away for a few days, we'd had a couple of drinks and things were just DIFFERENT iykwim.

**pbstar** · February 16th, 2008, 12:51 PM

hi brockstar

i think you just have to do what feels right for you...our doctor told us to wait until AF before we started TTC again but we didn't want to, we started about a week and a half after the D+C

i got AF last sunday but i am glad i didn't wait to ttc until then- i think it helped me having something positive to focus on and it helped us stay connected to each other...

good luck and i hope you don't have to wait too long for some good news.

**Banx** · February 16th, 2008, 01:28 PM

Hey Girls,

Just dropping in to let you know that there is hope for all of you out there!

I have had 2 m/c, My most recent one was in Nov 07..

I fell pregnant 9 days after it and now i am 3 days away from 12 weeks...

Good luck and Baby Dust for everyone TTC after M/c or loss

I know what it feels like.. Brings tears to my eyes..

Luv B
xox

**Baby Angels** · February 16th, 2008, 03:08 PM

Banx..... I am so glad to hear from you and congratulate you on getting to the 12 week mark.

Brockstar...... Your greiving girl..... Everything is going to be or feel different. It feels different in the morning when you wake up, it feels different in the middle of the day when you stare blankly out to nothing.... mentally miles away....... EVERYTHING is different..... All I can say Brockstar is TIME......One day at a time, dont push yourself, dont try and do it at someone elses pace, you take your time and do it your way. I lost my angels New Years Eve and New Years Day. I was an absolute mess and now..... the fog has lifted, each day is brighter than the previous one. ONE DAY AT A TIME.

Hoping....... fingers are crossed for you.

As for CM..... NO CLUE.....my little programe I use insists I am now at my most fertile stage.... My CM says I m not, my temp hasnt dropped and the last pee stick said that I wasnt "o"........ NO CLUE IN THE WORLD..... so to play safe..... its been BD BD BD and tonight it will be BD..... keeps a smile on hubby s face

**bettyboop** · February 16th, 2008, 03:11 PM

hello to all the newbies, i am now 11dpo

**berecca623** · February 16th, 2008, 03:40 PM

This time tomorrow I am going to know one way or the other.

I have brought another HPT and am testing tomorrow morning with FMU. AF is due Monday afternoon (I am very regular even down to approx time, in THAT way I suppose I am lucky) and I want to be prepared if AF is indeed on the way. However all those signs, never happened before. I just keep mentally chanting "Don't get your hopes up yet, don't get your hopes up yet!"