TTC after Miscarriage or Loss ~ March 08 #2

[mmteacher]

Jen805~Thank you for your prayers and kind words-I feel lucky to have found support here!

Fiona~Yes, I think you can only get Clomid from your OB-I take 100mg days 5-9 and prometrium from days 14-21 also...I secretly hoped for twins too-as soon as I got a BFP I was wishing for them...Next time I am just wishing for healthy, but twins would still be a great bonus! I had to TTC for 12 months and then do hormone therapy for 3 months because I had irregular cycles before my doctor would put me on Clomid...It worked though and hopefully it will again!

Berecca~Thank you for the advice...I think I am going to go with it...I remember right before I got my BFP last time, I went to a birthday party for a little one and my DH and I were the only couple there without kids and I had a very hard time then...I can only imagine that the pain of it all would be so much greater this time around and I know most of the women there will be moms. I am sitting this one out-being selfish just once for the sake of me! Congratulations on your BFP-I am so glad for you that things feel right-it gives the rest of us hope!
Sending you

MMteacher

[Katiegirl]

Berecca - congrats on finally getting the confirmed BFP. How far along are you?

Saw my ob today and got to see the heartbeating away again - so all good news. Ob said it looks healthy and he is happy - which makes me extremely happy. It is quite emotional for DH and I to see the heartbeat - and the few seconds it takes for it to come clear are agonising. I have a good feeling about this baby - and like you Berecca I think we are both going to have full terms.

Hope everyone else is well.

[fiona264]

mmteacher Thanks for the info. I thought you could only get it from an obstetrician, but wasn't 100% sure.

Jodsan Sending you all the luck in the world. Take care of yourself and think positive.

Natty Thanks, yes still trying to lose those dreadful kilos. I went crazy after I miscarried, like I didn't care what I put in my mouth. Slept alot and generally felt sorry for myself. But, I turned around recently and concentrated on trying again after so long.

Berecca So happy for you. Congratulations and Good Luck.

prayingandhoping Sending positive vibes to you .....

[ll80]

Brecca - so glad that it's all confirmed. As katie said, it's all gonna work out fine for you both. *big thumbs up* heheh

Natty GL this mth, you're not out of it yet, probably too early to show up properly

fiona, I'm sure any yoghurt is just as good, I just prefer the plain, odd for me considering i have a very advanced case of "sweet tooth"

me- well I am pretty relaxed atm, feeling kinda ambivalent about everything, which is strange for me. I haven't even worked out when AF is due yet, my cycles have been longer than normal since the m/c so I am not 100% sure anyways.
Trying my hardest not to get excited about anything, but I would be lying if I said I haven't been day dreaming about being pg and having a little bubba again. Would just be a slice of heaven at the moment.
DP has a job interview tomorrow or friday, the only one to make it to second stage interviews, so *fingers crossed* as it would just take a huge load off our shoulders.

That's about it on my end.

Hiya to you all.

...Laura

[Baby Angels]

I go away on Holidays, come back and there are new people in here........ I dont want new people in here..... I want this thread to be empty one day..... I DONT WANT ANOTHER PERSON TO KNOW THE PAIN WE KNOW!

To everyone new in here..... WELCOME WELCOME WELCOME.... but I wish you wernt here. Every single person in here knows far to well your pain and for many of us its a wound that is still fresh and painful every day. But here I go again, I m going to sound like a broken record to those that have been here a while. ONE DAY AT A TIME! and very importantly.....Look after YOU! dont try and do everything you think others think you should be doing. Allow yourself to greive. Allow yourself to take it all ONE DAY AT A TIME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Once again, you are all welcome to click on the link below, Angel Babies, I made the web site to firstly honour my angel babies and in the hope that it makes it just a tiny bit easier for the next person who has to face the loss of their baby. there are some beautiful songs, video clips and poems. You are all more than welcome to look through it and I hope it helps.

Now as for personals... Goodness this is going to take a while.

ll80..... not only did I beat AF up with her broomstick I swore at her too..... big made up swear words.... big like you ve never seen before. I m talkin HUGE. Fingers crossed for DH..... bet you ll be glad to get him out of the house

Natty, fiona, jodsan..... far far far to many new members of our family in here. I know your not new new but i still wish you wernt here.

Katiegirl.... good to see a familiar face that is carrying the torch of good news.... huge hugs hun.

mmteacher... Ohhh I just hate seeing so many names in here.

berecca623... you stick it to them girl......LOL..... of course you were right.

Jen, prayingandhoping, tina..... Ohh seriously..... There are just to many people who have had to join us in the last few weeks.

Magda....pee away I say girl...... AF was due for me last Saturday. From Friday onwards I was peein and peein and peein..... goodness we talk some lovely stuff dont we...... anywayyyy Friday I POAS BFN.... Saturday I POAS BFN Sunday I POAS BFN Monday I woke up at 2.15am i was that sure.... POAS BFN.... Then about 6 hours later.... knock knock on the door.... Good Morning Aunty Flow.... so GLAD to see you .... my theory... who cares if you POAS....if it works for you then it works for you and thats all that matters.

plc1805.... Birthday Buddy.... huge hugs.... missed you. more details girlfriend.. what have you been up to... I saw you come in and check up on me in the 2WW.... I spyed you.... thank you... huge hugs .... I ve got them keepin the seat in the corner warm for me.

Betty Boop.... getting to the point where you and I have been around for a while now.... starting to feel old and not just in age.

AJC... Huge hugs to you too Now whats this about a bit of chuck chuck... hmmm waiting for more information....


Now Nickster and Starrysky.... I know your both out there somewhere...... HUGE HUGE Hugs to you both.

Well as for me... goodness. I think DH and I are going to take a little break. If we dont take a break from TCC then I think it will end up being taking a break from each other. Its not him, its me. Everything was being expected of me and when you give its great but when you dont recieve its not so good. Sometimes you just have to put your foot down and say no. No i dont deserve to be treated this way, no i will not put up with it and no you have absolutely no right to do it. So i be basically said that we have a relationship to work on before we can consider bringing a child into that relationship. Now I know to well that our current issues are a result of what we have been through with IVF and then the loss of our angels and now a road of TCC that seems to not end. So we are getting back to basics and concentrating on each other. We even sat there tonight and watched our wedding DVD together to see how far removed we currently are from that. I love him, I love him dearly but I love myself just as much and sometimes you just have to say NO. People will treat you how you ALLOW them to treat you.

So its not sad faces, its a smile... a smile that I might be able to fix my realationship with my husband so that we can conceive a child into a family of strong love.

Having said that, I ll still be popping in to see you all, goodness... i couldnt stay away on my 8 day holiday....

GROUP HUG

[jen805]

Angel Babies--I think working on your relationship is a great way to take your mind off getting pg! I'm told that's when it happens--when you aren't even trying. Glad to see you're standing up for yourself!

Natty--So sorry for your BFN. There's no words I can say to take away you paid, but my heart truly feels your pain. Praying for a miracle for you next month! God bless....

Not really sure how my cycle works, so I'm not really sure when AF is supposed to show up. When we decided to TTC it took about 6 mo's from the time I stopped the pill to get pg. During that time I only marked the starting day of my period, not how long it lasted. I don't even know when I'm O'ing. Any way to figure all this out without actually purchasing an O'ing kit? I guess if AF shows up I'll at least be able to calculate how long my cycles are. I had never really worried about getting pregnant then, I figured it would happen when it was supposed to. Then it did, and it just never even occurred to me that I would m/c. Now I'm so confused with when I'm O'ing, and how long my cycles are, and whether or not I should even worry about it. I just feel really selfish b'cuz I want to be pg right now! I don't want to wait, and I wish that those of you who have to wait, didn't have to wait! Sorry, just feeling a little anxious and needing to vent. Thanks to you all for listening and understanding!

[smilanatu]

Technically I could test today, but I am too chicken! Tomorrow is AF day (provided everything is finally back to a sense of "normal) I have no AF symptoms...not 1 pimple and I ALWAYS get 1 or 2. I feel a teeny bit nauseaous BUT I am sure it's nerves!

[jen805]

smilanatu--Hoping and praying you get a BFP! Good luck!