TTC after Miscarriage or Loss ~ March 08 #2

[ll80]

Brecca - so glad that it's all confirmed. As katie said, it's all gonna work out fine for you both. *big thumbs up* heheh

Natty GL this mth, you're not out of it yet, probably too early to show up properly

fiona, I'm sure any yoghurt is just as good, I just prefer the plain, odd for me considering i have a very advanced case of "sweet tooth"

me- well I am pretty relaxed atm, feeling kinda ambivalent about everything, which is strange for me. I haven't even worked out when AF is due yet, my cycles have been longer than normal since the m/c so I am not 100% sure anyways.
Trying my hardest not to get excited about anything, but I would be lying if I said I haven't been day dreaming about being pg and having a little bubba again. Would just be a slice of heaven at the moment.
DP has a job interview tomorrow or friday, the only one to make it to second stage interviews, so *fingers crossed* as it would just take a huge load off our shoulders.

That's about it on my end.

Hiya to you all.

...Laura

[Baby Angels]

I go away on Holidays, come back and there are new people in here........ I dont want new people in here..... I want this thread to be empty one day..... I DONT WANT ANOTHER PERSON TO KNOW THE PAIN WE KNOW!

To everyone new in here..... WELCOME WELCOME WELCOME.... but I wish you wernt here. Every single person in here knows far to well your pain and for many of us its a wound that is still fresh and painful every day. But here I go again, I m going to sound like a broken record to those that have been here a while. ONE DAY AT A TIME! and very importantly.....Look after YOU! dont try and do everything you think others think you should be doing. Allow yourself to greive. Allow yourself to take it all ONE DAY AT A TIME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Once again, you are all welcome to click on the link below, Angel Babies, I made the web site to firstly honour my angel babies and in the hope that it makes it just a tiny bit easier for the next person who has to face the loss of their baby. there are some beautiful songs, video clips and poems. You are all more than welcome to look through it and I hope it helps.

Now as for personals... Goodness this is going to take a while.

ll80..... not only did I beat AF up with her broomstick I swore at her too..... big made up swear words.... big like you ve never seen before. I m talkin HUGE. Fingers crossed for DH..... bet you ll be glad to get him out of the house

Natty, fiona, jodsan..... far far far to many new members of our family in here. I know your not new new but i still wish you wernt here.

Katiegirl.... good to see a familiar face that is carrying the torch of good news.... huge hugs hun.

mmteacher... Ohhh I just hate seeing so many names in here.

berecca623... you stick it to them girl......LOL..... of course you were right.

Jen, prayingandhoping, tina..... Ohh seriously..... There are just to many people who have had to join us in the last few weeks.

Magda....pee away I say girl...... AF was due for me last Saturday. From Friday onwards I was peein and peein and peein..... goodness we talk some lovely stuff dont we...... anywayyyy Friday I POAS BFN.... Saturday I POAS BFN Sunday I POAS BFN Monday I woke up at 2.15am i was that sure.... POAS BFN.... Then about 6 hours later.... knock knock on the door.... Good Morning Aunty Flow.... so GLAD to see you .... my theory... who cares if you POAS....if it works for you then it works for you and thats all that matters.

plc1805.... Birthday Buddy.... huge hugs.... missed you. more details girlfriend.. what have you been up to... I saw you come in and check up on me in the 2WW.... I spyed you.... thank you... huge hugs .... I ve got them keepin the seat in the corner warm for me.

Betty Boop.... getting to the point where you and I have been around for a while now.... starting to feel old and not just in age.

AJC... Huge hugs to you too Now whats this about a bit of chuck chuck... hmmm waiting for more information....


Now Nickster and Starrysky.... I know your both out there somewhere...... HUGE HUGE Hugs to you both.

Well as for me... goodness. I think DH and I are going to take a little break. If we dont take a break from TCC then I think it will end up being taking a break from each other. Its not him, its me. Everything was being expected of me and when you give its great but when you dont recieve its not so good. Sometimes you just have to put your foot down and say no. No i dont deserve to be treated this way, no i will not put up with it and no you have absolutely no right to do it. So i be basically said that we have a relationship to work on before we can consider bringing a child into that relationship. Now I know to well that our current issues are a result of what we have been through with IVF and then the loss of our angels and now a road of TCC that seems to not end. So we are getting back to basics and concentrating on each other. We even sat there tonight and watched our wedding DVD together to see how far removed we currently are from that. I love him, I love him dearly but I love myself just as much and sometimes you just have to say NO. People will treat you how you ALLOW them to treat you.

So its not sad faces, its a smile... a smile that I might be able to fix my realationship with my husband so that we can conceive a child into a family of strong love.

Having said that, I ll still be popping in to see you all, goodness... i couldnt stay away on my 8 day holiday....

GROUP HUG

[jen805]

Angel Babies--I think working on your relationship is a great way to take your mind off getting pg! I'm told that's when it happens--when you aren't even trying. Glad to see you're standing up for yourself!

Natty--So sorry for your BFN. There's no words I can say to take away you paid, but my heart truly feels your pain. Praying for a miracle for you next month! God bless....

Not really sure how my cycle works, so I'm not really sure when AF is supposed to show up. When we decided to TTC it took about 6 mo's from the time I stopped the pill to get pg. During that time I only marked the starting day of my period, not how long it lasted. I don't even know when I'm O'ing. Any way to figure all this out without actually purchasing an O'ing kit? I guess if AF shows up I'll at least be able to calculate how long my cycles are. I had never really worried about getting pregnant then, I figured it would happen when it was supposed to. Then it did, and it just never even occurred to me that I would m/c. Now I'm so confused with when I'm O'ing, and how long my cycles are, and whether or not I should even worry about it. I just feel really selfish b'cuz I want to be pg right now! I don't want to wait, and I wish that those of you who have to wait, didn't have to wait! Sorry, just feeling a little anxious and needing to vent. Thanks to you all for listening and understanding!

[smilanatu]

Technically I could test today, but I am too chicken! Tomorrow is AF day (provided everything is finally back to a sense of "normal) I have no AF symptoms...not 1 pimple and I ALWAYS get 1 or 2. I feel a teeny bit nauseaous BUT I am sure it's nerves!

[jen805]

smilanatu--Hoping and praying you get a BFP! Good luck!

[Natty]

Arrrghhh - I cant believe it - I POAS this morning and got a . So my head wasnt playing games. DH just said "oh well dont get excited because I dont want to see you upset like last time and I dont want to be upset either". Which I know he is right but he could at least have given me a hug. I know our m/c really affected him as well - he has been a total saint since, but.....

I just knew those vivid dreams werent normal for me. No other signs though but I guess I am only about 11DPO.

Angelbabies - you are so right about getting your relationship right and making sure you are treated the way you deserve to be. I waited two years to get our relationship right before we started TTC and I feel a lot more relaxed about everything and better about bringing a child into our family knowing that DH and I really do love each other. Our relationship was pretty bad at one point hence the two year wait!

Jodsan - did you test I am dying to know...

To all you lovely ladies - thank you so much for your support. I hope to see that you all have BFP very very soon.

Natty

[tina_k]

angelbabies: as always, thank you for your inspirational words
i think you have the right idea, getting your relationship as strong as it can be first. all the best...
also, did you mention that there was a 2WW area on BB?

smilinatu: good luck with testing...let us know how you go!

jen805: i know exactly what you mean when you say "i want to be pg right now"!!! - me too!!!!!

hi to everyone else...

as for me, i feel much more positive this month, so fingers crossed that we will get some +ve news, i think im up to CD20 of a 33 day cycle, so well and truly in the 2WW

[Trac73]

Hello Ladies

Wow i haven't been here for a week or so and look how much i have missed. I am still catching up on everyone so there will be no personals this post.

Welcome to all the newies i hope your stay here is short and supportive

Hello to everyone else...............How are we all doing? How are all our ladies going with all the BFP's?

What's been happening with me.............Well i have been a bit blaize about the TTC this month even though i had promised my self i was really going to focus on it as i really would like a BPF this month but as it has turned out my mind has been in other places. I don't even know if i O'd this month let alone BD around the right time. Well i am keeping my fingers crossed that this is a BFP month but if not it really is my own fault for not concentrating on TTCing.

Well sending lots of and positive vibes for more

[Jodsan]

Natty - Yey, yey, yey, yeeeey!!! Congratulations! Crossing my fingers it is a sticky one, sending you some

Angel - This TTC really does take its toll on everything around us, and definately on our relationships. Taking a break sounds like a really good idea, just to be two people in love again. Just enjoy your time together for now, you'll know when you're ready again. Good luck, will be thinking of you.

Definately AF for me, heavier than I've ever had before, absolutely no chance it is implantation. Only a 25 day cycle this time, really strange. I was feeling fairly confident that I'd conceived too, I'm wondering whether I may have and it didn't implant properly so I am having an early mc. Dont know? I have made an apointment to see my unreal doctor next Friday (she usually takes a month to get into so I'm lucky) to show her my chart and see what might be going on with my body. Thinking I probably need a break from TTC now too, too many disappointments and it just seems too hard on my poor body.

Good luck to all of you for your next cycle, hope you dont have much longer to wait!