TTC after Miscarriage or Loss ~ March 08

[Jodsan]

Hi everyone, thanks for all your support, aweful day yesterday, first time I have seen my Dad cry Glad its over though.

Geez I'm feeling grumpy and hormonal today, I am due to O tomorrow but it's really coming on strong. I must have some weird hormonal balance, after my really lumpy boobs leading up to AF, I have had the worst stomach/uterus/ovary cramps leading up to O this week. I usually only have slight ovary pain for a couple of hours when I O but it's going to be more difficult to detect this month (I dont do temps). Bit annoying since we were trying the 2 day cut off to TTC a girl. Does anyone else get this full on hormonal lead up? Is it normal?

Smilanatu - I'm so sorry for your loss, fingers crossed for you this month sweetie

AJC - big hug sweetie . Hoping all the pregnant women at the resort did rub off on you and you get a BFP this month.

Brockstar - It's sounding really promising, sending you lots of

Tempus - Good luck hatching the eggies this week!!

Trac - Thinking of you and your dad sweetie. Now you take some time out for you and get busy BDing

Seenabeena - Welcome, but I am so sorry for your loss. I feel the same way as you, mixed emotions, terrified and excited about the prospect of a BFP again. We're all here to offer support and cyberhugs, hope you get a BFP really soon.

Big hello to everyone else, sending you lots of

[plc1805]

Hi ladies!!

Jodsan - so sorry that u had such a crappy day yest - I remember the first time I saw my dad cry - you don't forget it. I have been known to get that full-on hormonal lead-up. More recently I was getting it with avengeance 2-3 days b4 AF - would want to just drink on my own and drown my sorrows. It hasn't happened since I had my lap. But during O time it varies - sometimes more pain, sometimes more nausea, sometimes it feels like AF. Take care of urself hun.

tina -got to hold my friend's 2nd bub today (3 weeks old) and that was a great fix!! It was like I was imagining holding the bub I lost (2nd m/c) in june who would have been born a little earlier in Jan. Nice but sad.... U def need to bd at o time love. Another tip for when ur folks are over - I'm not necessarily recommending it by the way but my sil tells of the charming way my bro puts a cushion over her face (I'm sure she can still breathe) to stop any noise she might make DTD (sorry if TMI) but I laugh cos my sil is always more vocal about stuff like that and my bro is always so mortified - lol!! GL!

AJC - chin up hun!! u need to vent - see below, I'm having a vent myself!

Brockstar - take care of urself hun.

danielsgirl - the boat sounds just like what the doc ordered - how wonderful!!

Hi to smilanatu, tempus, trac, seenabeena, starrysky, katiegirl, mel a, bday buddy and all you other lovely lovely ladies.

as for me, bit down, not one of my more cheery days. a friend of mine had a baby a month ago and came to visit today. I got my fix with lots of hugs. our boys are around the same age and she had her DD 19mths after her first which is the kind of gap I wanted between bubs 1 and 2. you and I know that, huge understatement, timing can be really off about these things (sigh) and they don't come as quickly as we would like. but then my friend said she wants to have the same gap between bubs 2 & 3. Ever since she said that I have felt so down - what she is doing is exactly what I wanted to do - and I just hate my circumstance and my own body in times like these. Tomorrow will be better and I will feel more positive again but today I feel my old sad feelings (a bit like being kicked in the teeth). thanks guys - just have to vent - want to cry tho.

[Katiegirl]

Hi to everyone. I hope you are having lovely weekends.

TM - good to hear about your lap and I hope all goes well this cycle.

PLC - sorry to hear you are a bit down. I always get a bit sad when I hear people talking about their baby plans. I think it might be partly because for all of us, our plans are tinged with sadness and anxiety, and yet other people talk about it like it is so easy. We of course know how this baby business is anything but easy! So big hug and I think you are amazing to be so strong.

Well I have had an up and down day. When I woke this morning and went to the bathroom I noticed a brownish smear on the paper (sorry TMI). I of course got worried. I check an hour later and it was there again but only when I wiped. I then started to get worried and burst into tears with my mother. It just felt so hard, and I didn't feel I could stand more stress. Thankfully it appears to have stopped and I have been to the toilet a million times to check. My sister told me that she always get a brownish mucous in the early stages and then it goes away, so hoping that is all it is. I am anxious and I think I will call my Ob when I get back to Melbourne on Monday. I am glad I am here with my mum as I don't think I would have liked having DH's dad and best friend around at a time like this. I am trying to stay positive and not get too worried.

Sorry for lack of personals - I just had to get that out. I am praying like mad!

Good luck to you all on the 2WW and for those approaching O. I am praying for some more BFPs in here.

[berecca623]

Jodsan - I'm really sorry you had a crap day and saw your father cry, it is not a nice sight and you always feel helpless. However having said that maybe he really needed it? I think we sometimes underestimate the power of a good cry for men seeing as they rarely show such emotion! Hope things improve for you!

PLC - I'm glad you enjoyed your day but I totally sympathise with you. Especially after gf just having had her 2nd and already talking about timing for her 3rd! Chin up sweetie I am sure it will happen for you soon! For ALL of us soon!!!

Katiegirl - try not to stress too much and if you can't stop thinking about it go to your doc, I am sure there is something they could do to check it all out! My bff had that happen to her twice and is now happily and healthily 16 weeks pg, nothing bad at all! I am sure that is all it is for you, something inactive and nothing to worry about!

As for me I have FINALLY finished weekend school, now just have to catch up on 2 weeks worth of lectures, readings and lab activities for 2 subjects, that and complete all 4 online activities that are marked plus find time for 4 assignments! No wonder I haev had no time to post on both of these forums (also TWW). Tomorrow morning is POAS for me so either way I will know what to expect for Monday! Wish me luck

[nicksterUK]

Yay Berrecca!! SSSssoooooo Happpyyy for you !!!!!! xxxx

for you and the rest of the BFP gang!
Plenty of room for more- fingers crossed those TWW xx

Well, I say plenty of room- I can't do any of my trousers up! Been walking around with buttons and zippers undone. Went clothes shopping today (not fun on Saturday especially with the local footie match on!) Anyway, I'm a total short ass and also very slim (don't hate me!) so the maternity stuff is just hopeless! Ended up buying one pair of trousers which I'll have to chop about 6 inches off the bottom and wear a belt, plus a few 'non-maternity, just bigger sized' tops to hang over my undone buttoned ordinary trousers. I want to bloom- not splodge!!
LOL

[AJC]

Berecca - I just logged on because I was dying to know what your pg test said - I was soooo happy when I saw your news. Wishing you the happiest and healthy pregnancy ever!!!!

[ll80]

Big Congrats Brecca!! I hope everything goes smoothly!!!

NIckster--Happy to see you're getting all spodgy!! hehe enjoy it it's the only time you don't have to feel guilty about it. Just go with the flow!!

Hi to everyone else.

Nothing much to report here, same old same old!

Good Luck to everyone in the TWW!!

..Laura

[tina_k]

berecca: thats so geat, congratulations
katiegirl: how are you? hope all is ok and you are feeling fabulous! let us know how you go with OB, my fingers are crossed for you, im sure all is ok
nickster: im so glad your getting spodgy, i cant wait till im there! enjoy it!
PLC: its hard isnt it, when others have what you want.

My SIL is coming to visit tomorrow. I havent seen her pregnant yet, and im really scared how im going to react. Shes now 20 weeks, which means i would have been 22. Last time i saw her was 2 days after my D&C when shw thought that was the best time to announce to me infront of the whole family that she was pregnant, and expected me to be happy for her. Needless to say, i burst into tears! Any suggestions as to how i can see her tomorrow and get through it without becoming hysterical? i just cant think about her without thinking about my loss...

[Natty]

Berecca - that is awesome news. Congratulations. Wishing you a wonderful pregnancy!

[Katiegirl]

Hi everyone. Quick update - called Ob this morning and he said that he wants me to have a scan. He said that it was probably not a concern but that a scan is needed. So have booked one in for 3:30 this afternoon. Thankfully DH is home from work today so he can come with me. I am terrified and nervous but hoping for the best. Not sure what they can see at 6 weeks?

Sorry for lack of personals - will write again later.

[plc1805]

tina - I know how u feel - a mother from mother's group (not the one prev mentioned) but the 1st one to have the 2nd round of bubs was a couple of weeks ahead of me before I had my 2nd m/c. Everytime I saw her and how big she was getting, I couldn't help but think she was living my dream and I was a failure. Also, she knew she was having a boy and the pathology found I had m/c a boy (even tho, like u, I had a blighted ovum and it was so early, they could still find out that info). I just put on a brave face and didn't give her the satisfaction of knowing I was affected in anyway especially cos she kept asking, in a pity-like manner, how I was going. I just said "Yeah fine" and smiled. I didn't want her pity when she was holding the goods and I wasn't. I didn't want to give the impression of "poor her, she is having problems" esp as this was my 2nd m/c - it was no one's business but mine and DHs. Get's me a little angry to think she could do it and I couldn't but I think she is the sort of person that makes me react like that. Anyone else - I still have been brave with but not as defiant, if you know what I mean. Tina - you'll find out what works for you but I just couldn't stand people pussy-footing around me and that's why I have chosen to show strength even when I want to scream out loud for having gone thru this injustice. GL hun - I really mean it.

[AJC]

Kategirl - They say it's only red/fresh blood that you are meant to worry about. Hugs to you, I'm sure everything will be fine - take it easy and do something to spoil yourself tomorrow.

Berecca - Good luck tomorrow

Plc - Hugs for you. It's so tough when those close to you are having babies when it 'should' be you too. We have a friend coming to visit next weekend with their 3 mth old - I know it's going to be hard but I really want to be happy for them.I'm sure they won't expect me to be jumping for joy but sometimes I wish people could step into my shoes just for 30 seconds so they know how I feel.

Jodsan - I never used to get hormonal pre-o but I have the last 2 mths - even spotting around O time which is weird for me. Am also very hormonal post O too, last month my boobs were so tender I had myself convinced that I was pg and when I poas and got BFN I was gutted! This month the tender breasts are back but they're not going to trick me this time! Who knows what my body is doing. I wish our bodies were like computers and came with programs that explain how they work?!?!? If only.

Tinak - our first angel bub was conceived at DH's parents place. We felt a little gross about it at first but we figured if they knew they'd be so happy they were going to be grandparents that they wouldn't care.

Hope everyone else is enjoying their weekend. for all!!!

[Natty]

Hi Ladies

Wow so much gets posted in such a short time!

Brockstar - hope DS is feeling better. Your u/s sounds promising. Sending you lots of best wishes for it to be positive!

Jodsan - sorry about your GF funeral. They always take a lot out of you so be sure to look after yourself the next few weeks.

Seenabeena - sorry that you are joining this group because it means you had to suffer the loss of your little one. But as I have found the ladies here are wonderful.

Trac - hope your Dad is feeling ok. I so wish you get a BFP both for you and DH and your Dad.

Tempus moriendi - sorry to sound ignorant but was is a hysteroscopy? The four follicles sounds positive - isnt that eggs that are ready to be released? If so, I hope that a little swimmer meets one of them very soon!

Danielsgirl112 - sorry to hear that you too are joining this group. Take your time to grieve and remember to look after yourself.

AJC - dont you hate when wherever you go there are pregnant women? I work in a hospital with a large maternity section and ever since my m/c it seems like the number of pregnant women attending the hospital has quadrupled. Even just seeing a pregnant woman from a distance is like having an ice bucket thrown over my head (even though I am happy for them!)

TinaK - when DH's mum comes over for 2-3 weeks we always BD in the shower - she cant hear because the exhaust fan is on!

Plc - isnt it so hard when all your friends are having babies when you wanted/planned on having them? I have had to revise the 'gap' between DD and our next baby about ten different times for various reasons including m/c and it makes it so hard when you see your friends doing what you want your life to be doing. Your day will come though - when it is right for you.

Bec - another ignorant question - what is POAS? Good luck with the 4 assignments? What are you studying?

I actually have a TTC question. I have been BDing nearly every second day with DH and have been using OPKs every day since Sunday (Saturday night now). We BD'd on Friday, Sunday, Tuesday and Friday but nothing showing on the OPK's (not even a faint line) but on Wednesday night I had CM which I normally have right before O (and I am pretty sure it wasnt swimmers - sorry for TMI!!). I wont describe it because its gross but it is something which I normally have happen so I am assuming from that it was O. But then how can it be if I havent had anything show up on the OPK? I dont temp chart because I can never remember so CM and OPKs are the only way I know....

Hope you are all having a great weekend.

[berecca623]

Natty - POAS is **** On A Stick, elegant I know!!! I am studying my second year of a Grad Dip of Psychology, at the moment I am a teacher, working fully time. As for your question, when are you using the OPK? Sorry for the question for a question! I would safe keep doing what you are doing until you do get a + OPK and keep going until a - OPK, make sense??

Good morning ladies, such an emotional day for me today!

Woke up at 6am to take my temp which hasn't dropped, and then took 20 min to convince myself to get up and POAS even though I was busting for the loo

Anyway then took another 10 min to get the courage up to look and see and imagine my shock and surprise when I saw I woke up DH straight away, and needless to say at first he wasn't all that impressed! and his reponse "let's just wait and see". Very safe of him but I understand!

I am so happy, excited, elated, amazed, nervous and a tad scared! The pg line was fainter than the other but easily seen at a distance. It is darker than my last pg. I have decided to be positive as possible for this pg and hope this also helps it to stick. Next step is booking the ob, I don't want to miss out.

Anyway there is my news, albeit I am still pinching myself to make sure it is true!

[plc1805]

Berecca - already posted on 2WW but had to congratulate u again!!! Ur DH has good grounding but don't allow urself to miss the joy of a BFP!! Well done!!