TTC after Stillbirth/ Recurrent Miscarriage or Loss after the First Trimester May 07
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Mel - that is excellent that your appointment went so well. I hope so much that you get a bfp this month and then you won't have to go through all the other stuff. But if you don't at least there is a plan now and you will be preggas in no time! It is great to have some positive news isn't it. I hope you are feeling better after meeting with FS. I have everything crossed for you and that this is your month! Good luck tonight with the counsellor. I hope everything goes ok. Thinking of you
Deb - LOL! I love the names. I am having 3 hcg shots over the next 2 weeks so my last will be next Thursday which is 9dpo. So I'm not sure if this will affect my hpt. I say that I won't use the tests but I am a test junkie and I haven't had my fix for so long now!!!!!! I think I might sneak a couple in
Alex - happy anniversary. I hope you managed to smile and enjoy your day. I can understand that the news about Madeleine has upset you. It is just so awful and to be so close to home is heartbreaking. My thoughts are with you and her family.
Hey ladies, it is so great to hear all the good and postive news in here.
Lynn: Whoo bloody Hoo, I am so excited for you. I know this TWW is going to be tough but I can't wait until you get to the end and get that magical BFP that you so deserve. Now get thee to bed a procreate
Mel: Your FS sounds wonderful, and it sounds like he is taking your concerns seriously. That must be really validating. Also I am glad that it doesn't seem like DH's are an issue. He must feel so much better knowing that. Another Whoo Bloody Hoo.
Deb: IKWYM about the tiredness, I still find I am zonked by 5.00pm. I have can't imagine how nervous, excited aprehensive you must be feeling about your scan. Actually come to think of it I can imagine it because for my first 10 or so scans I would get so nervous and worked up that I would almost faint. You will be ok babe and I know that this baby is going to be so H&H and growing into a little person inside you. BTW I love the name Col, it is just gorgeous, I can't wait until you go for your scan and Col has a wonderful strong hb.
Bailey: Are you going to go and get the BT that Lynn mentioned? I think it sounds like a good idea. It just means that you can tell if you haved O'd because OPK's are very hard to use and can be unreliable if you don't POAS at the correct time to catch the surge.
Tommysmum: Good luck tomorrow hun. I was a mess when I collected Harry mind you it was the day after the memorial service so I was a mess 24/7. It is hard seeing the urn for the first time, it makes it really real if that makes sense. Now though I find such comfort in talking to him and giving him a kiss every day. As soon as I get home in the afternoon I go and see Harry, give him a kiss and tell him I love him. I do it as soon as I wake up also, I guess it is a ritual that brings me a sense of comfort. I hope you are Ok. Give that little man of yours a kiss from me.
Klee: Hey babe, good to hear from you. I am sorry that you missed O but don't beat yourself up too much. How sweet is your nephew. To say Happy Phoebe day is just the most special gift a precious little child could give. What an insightful little boy.
JLK: Has your doctor given you any advice about getting your Iron levels up? I hope it doesn't take too long. Good to hear from you anyway, we missed ya.
HeybackO: I know what you mean about that poor little girl Maddy, I can't even begin to imagine the evil people who would harm an innocent child. Those poor parents must be only just holding on. I hope so much that she is found safe and well. I hope your anniversary was ok anyway and it is good to hear from you.
Well I have had a better day today. I got talking to work about my maternity leave and return to work and it looks as though when I do go back I will be able to most if not all of my work from home. Means Lil' Spring and I can be home together for as long as possible. I am feeling better and a little more organised. I know how lucky I am to have such a family friendly employer (well I work for the government so I am lucky in many ways). DH will be home in 24 sleeps and I am so excited about seeing the Sydney girls this weekend that hopefully the next few weeks will fly.
I agree with Bailey's suggestion, we should get all you interstate (oh and international) girls to come to Sydney and have a slumber party. OMG that just sounds like so much fun. In all honesty though, sometimes you can get flights for crazy cheap prices like $59 and I am more than happy to pitch in to get you all here.
Oh well, I am going to go and eat some more wheat biscuits (yes, you guessed it, the constipation monster is back) and go to bed.
Spring - Look at your ticker - time is just flying by. Easy for me to say huh? Glad to hear that you are feeling better. That is excellent news about your work letting you work from home. Fantastic that you can stay home with your babies.
Mel - Sounds like you got some good news today. Good to hear that your FS is so understanding. Hopefully you won't need to see him again Let us all know how you went tonight.
Lynn - Another Woo Hoo for you today. A very long 2ww, but hopefully a happy ending. See you tomorrow.
Tommysmum - Was good to talk to you today. See you in the morning.
Hi to everyone.
Well I am on day 532 of my cycle....well thats how it feels anyway. I have a feeling I may have already ovulated even though the OPK's haven't given me a clear positive. My temps have been just slightly higher the last 3 days and at the moment there is no CM to speak of, so maybe I already have?? I might take up the BT, but I might wait and see if AF arives in the next 10 days. There seems to be so much positive news here lately, I am feeling a little positive too.... that's it, I am jumping on the good-news bandwagon!
Spring - So glad your having a better day... how lucky are you with the work at home opportunity! Well I think it is great, you deserve some quality time with lil Spring, and with the second wage you can spoil him/her rotten
Lynn - Hope you are busy resting and away!
Bailey - You probably have O'd and it is just not showing, but you have been like a crazy woman so surely you have the best chance of catching the egg! GL - will be sending vibes your way.
Well it has been a good night, the counsellor from S&K came and she is so lovely. She was so easy to talk to, gave us lots of things to think about and also showed alot of interest in DH and how he is dealing with his grief. I showed her the poem he wrote me for Mother's Day and she is going to publish it in the next newsletter and dedicate it to the Nicholas which he was stoked about. She has given him the idea to start writing down his feelings to get them out. She gave me a couple of things to think about as well. She also gave us some advice on how to help the kids through (the older 2 anyway). She gave me so much information to read through and I really enjoyed just sitting down and talking, she told us about her own situation and I felt like I could relate to her. I have to say S&K are the most caring organisation, they have support for grandparents, family, siblings everyone and it is great. I am going to tell my mum about it. Anyway, I feel really good at the moment and feel like just talking with her and DH so openly was like a weight lifting, and it was nice to hear DH talk about himself for a change.
Tommysmum - how are you? I have been thinking of you all afternoon. I know it is very hard to finally bring your baby home because it is not how you planned. It brings up so many emotions. Give Tommy a big hug from me
Mel - I am so happy that you go so much out of the S&K counsellor. It makes me so happy to hear that you are feeling really good at the moment. As we all know this journey is a rollercoaster and I hope that you stay on this high for a long time. That is great that DH's poem is going to be published. I would love a copy of the newsletter when you get a copy.
Jo - how are you going? I hope you are doing ok :hugs:
Bailey - LOL at your CD. I am with ya sista! it is painfully frustrating isn't it!?!? Well there are a few of us in the 2ww so hopefully by the end of this month, the porky little pig will have worked his magic and there will be alot of BFP.
Klee - hope you are doing ok today. Thinking of you
I hope everyone else is well. Big hugs to you all.
Hi ladies - I am only away for a couple of days and we are onto a new thread already. I will try to keep up but apologise if I miss anyone out - I have read all the posts and are thinking of you all.
Tommysmom - I hope you are okay today and picking up Thomas's ashes was okay. To be honest I have not managed to go and fetch my Thomas's ashes and we are probably not going to bring them home. We want to spread his ashes at the childrens cemetary - I feel that way he can play with the other children (just my opinion). I think you are all very brave for taking your babies home!
Spring - That is good news about maternity leave, and it is good to hear you doing so well. I think it is a great idea to get everyone together in Sydney - could be very rewarding in many ways.
Lynn - It is good to hear the IUI went well and I have my fingers crossed in this 2ww that it has all worked.
Mel - It sounds like the counsellor really helped you and DH - that is such good news that it was worth it.
Bailey - I could never get OPK's to show a positive result (except when I used one as a HPT!!). Maybe you should go for a bt or just DTD every second night until either the symptoms kick in or AF arrives.
I have had a rather difficult week and feel really selfish for feeling down - my friend at work was pregnant the same time as me and my EDD was 5may and she gave birth on 11may. I am so happy for her and her daughter is gorgeous and healthy - but I was so upset as it bought back what I do not have. I hate feeling like this and try so hard to not let it show when everyone is excited - I guess it will get better soon but I am dreading seeing the bub for the first time in a few days. How do I get out of it without hurting my friends feelings and appearing really selfish??
Hi to everyone I have missed - I hope you are doing okay.
Tess
Tommysmum - How did you go with picking up Tommy's ashes? I hope you are ok.
Lynn - It was good to see you today. You look so skinny!! I am with you on the wait, that little porker better not let us down this month.
Mel - It is great to hear that the counseller was good and that DH got something out of it too. Wow, and he'll be a published poet too. I actually get that newsletter sent to me, so I am excited to see it there. It really is such a beatiful poem. How are you feeling now that you have spoken to the FS and have got a plan?
Tess - It is hard to see friends babies. My friend had a daughter a few weeks before we lost Asha and I just threw myself into it. I thought that since I couldn't avoid it forever, I just dove right in. But that is me, I completely understand that you don't want to see your friends baby. I think that you should just be honest with her and tell her how you are feeling and why. If she is a true friend, she will understand.
Hi to everyone
Well, a few of us went to the S&K's meeting today and as usual it was hard. There was new people there, which is so sad. I always feel a little down for the rest of the day, but I know that tomorrow I will feel better for having been.
Im not even sure if I could catch up with all thats going on in here! Ive been out for so long, I have missed all of you so much and do think about how you are all going every day.
Firstly DEB Oh My God you have no idea how happy I was to hear. I am going to be very positive for you and know that in seven or so months giveor take......that babe will be here and that is just the best news! so the scan is soon from what I have read mind you not to much I just want to post. How are you feeling I know I know dumb question but I do hope you are doing ok. Hows the rest of your clan?
Spring Is that tummy growing? I just want to see you and rub it Iknow how painful people are doing that BUT!!! Are you well? not working to hard I hope.
Bailey I hope all is well at your camp I do need to read and catch up Im coming in blind.
Mel How you going. Sounds like things are looking up for....and where can we read DH poem, I would love to read it.
Chelle Im not sure if you are around but Im so very sorry for your angel baby....I know words cant change things but know Im praying for you all at this time and hope the sun shines on you soon, my love is with you xxx
Lynn How are you today....on that lounge taking it very easy? I hope so!
To everyone else Im going to go back but not to far otherwise I will never catch up so please dont think Im rude. I hope your are well.
Well Ive just had DH BIG 40th and DS 9th birthday...and Im shattered to say the least. Life is pretty much go go go and now look forwqrd to our big holiday in Sept. Bailey I may need your help very soon can you let Lynn know if I can get your email so I can talk direct with you otherwise get mine off her I dont mind that either....sounds dumb but you know what I mean! Im going to post and try to read a little. Talk soon
Lynn - Unfortunately the up hasnt lasted long DH said something last night about Nicholas' birth that I didnt know, hadnt thought about more to the point, and although it didnt bother me too much I just cant get the "imagined" image out of my head and its bringing me down I wont elaborate on here for fear of distressing people. Also I think the TWW has started to get to me this month, I feel so tense and cant stop wondering did it or did it not work. Oh well I will get over it How are you feeling? Are you still relaxed and positive?
Tess - That's a really tough situation Tess, I have had people around me having babies since I lost Nicholas and have done the "right" thing by them and gone to visit and everything and in the end I dont think I did the "right" thing by me. I hope you dont mind if I am blunt, but I am going to be anyway... you need to do what makes you comfortable, you are a mother grieving the loss of her son, and you must protect yourself. If you friend is a good and true friend she will understand that you are not ready to see her little girl. Maybe you could just speak to her and tell her how happy you are that everything went well and that one day you will definitely meet her bub, but that at the moment you are still hurting so much because of Thomas and you just dont think you can do it. Tell her that as soon as you feel strong enough, and you cant say when that is, you would love to meet her daughter. Whatever decision you make, make sure you are doing what is best for you... best of luck with it all
Jo - Hopefully those iron tablets work quick smart and you can get back on the TTC train asap.
Hi to everyone else.
Mel
Last edited by Mel1977; May 16th, 2007 at 08:14 PM.
Tommysmum: I hope you are ok after today, big hugs to you babe :hugs:
Tess: Don't feel selfish about your friend's baby at all. I am sure she will understand if you don't want to see her baby just yet. That is a totally normal reaction. If she is a true friend, she will make you feel welcome to come and see her and bub at any time you feel up to it but she will also not feel offended if you choose to stay away. Just don't put yourself in a position which is going to upset. I hope you are ok.
Mel: Wow, the lady from the SIDS group sounds amazing. What an inspiring person to come into your home and offer so much of herself. I am glad that it helped you and DH and how proud must you feel that the poem Dh wrote will be in their newsletter.
Bailey: I understand your frustration babe, those OPK's are weird things. I think you have more than covered all bases IYKWIM. When are you going to do a HPT? I hope this 534 week wait isn't driving you insane.
Lynn: How you feeling, taking life easy babe? Well day one of the TWW down so look out BFP here you come.
Well I have been ok. Just tired and a bit cranky. I just want DH home and it is so close that it feels like so far away. I am going to go to be really early tonight, watch House and go to sleep so hopefully I have some more energy tomorrow.
Big hugs to everyone else, I hope you are all well.
Hi Mel, I am sorry babe we must have been posting at the same time. I am really sorry that you are feeling upset again. If you need to chat just let me know. I know what it feels like to have images going over and over in your head, there are a few images from Harry's birth that haunt me so if you want to share I am here. I am sending some huge :hugs: your way.
Thanks for the advice ladies (I appreciate you being blunt, Mel) - before she left work she asked me to visit her in the hospital once the baby was born and I told her that I could not do that as it would be the same hospital / ward that I lost Thomas. I do not want to go back to the place that has such bad memories. Thinking about things now you have put it into perspective we did have a big talk before and I told her how happy I was for her but sad for me - I am sure she will understand. I will wait until she comes to work and then say hello. Thanks again.
Mel - I am so sorry that images are coming back to you and it is hard. I am still waking in the night with new memories that scare me until I realise they are all over and I am not going through them again. There is nothing I can do to ease the pain but please take care and talk to your DH about how you are feeling.
Spring - Hope you enjoy your early night.
Flowerchild - Hope you are doing okay - how are you feeling?
TTC after Stillbirth/ Recurrent Miscarriage or Loss after the First Trimester May 07
Good luck tonight with the counsellor. I hope everything goes ok. Thinking of you 
are an issue. He must feel so much better knowing that. Another Whoo Bloody Hoo.
away!
vibes your way.
How are you feeling I know I know dumb question but I do hope you are doing ok. Hows the rest of your clan?
DH said something last night about Nicholas' birth that I didnt know, hadnt thought about more to the point, and although it didnt bother me too much I just cant get the "imagined" image out of my head and its bringing me down 
I wont elaborate on here for fear of distressing people. Also I think the TWW has started to get to me this month, I feel so tense and cant stop wondering did it or did it not work. Oh well I will get over it 
How are you feeling? Are you still relaxed and positive? 
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