thread: Trying to Conceive after Late Loss, Still Birth or Recurrent Miscarriage June '08 #2

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  1. #1
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    Dec 2007
    melbourne
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    hey guys!
    well, i hate to disappoint...i did'nt go to the ultrasound. I rang them this morning to ask a question and then i got a call back about 10 min later asking questions why i was having an ultrasound at 16 weeks. So of course i have to go through the history and they were ok with that after a few extra questions. After i got off the phone i just started crying and rang my DH who said just cancel it and go another time if you are not happy to go today. By this stage i was bawling cos i was so upset at the repeated questions of why this and that for everything i have had done so far and i rang them back and cancelled it and the poor lady was apologising and saying do i still want to come in as i sound like i need the reassurance and i said no, i was already a mess and i did'nt want the ultrasound to make me more emotional as i had to go to work straight afterwards. So, now i have the ultrasound next week on tuesday. So, i am sorry guys no news yet...but thanks heaps for your thoughts. I so, so, soooooooooooo needed them today. I think today was still part fear, part hormones and nervous stress all mixed together. And that is what the ultrasound was meant to relieve!!!! Probably worked out for the best, i lost jack at 17 wks,5 days, so next week i will probably need it more than ever being 17 weeks!
    anyone got some good news to share???cheer us up after this essay! lol! good temps, double lines, lots of DTD, anything will do!!!
    x jo

  2. #2
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    Mar 2008
    California
    1,665

    jo--Sorry to hear you rescheduled your scan, but please know you didn't disappoint any of us! You know yourself, so if you couldn't deal with it at the time, then rescheduling was the best thing you could've done for yourself! Maybe it's fate that you're waiting until next week and you just don't know it yet! Sending you lots of strength and positive, happy vibes--oh, and big of course!

    Wish I had some sort of good news for you--will hopefully know in a few days!

  3. #3
    Registered User

    Jun 2007
    Melbourne, Victoria
    500

    Jo - I am so sorry that they made you explain your the reasons behind the scan! I don't get why it was their place to be questioning it? Did you have a referral from your dr, if so then who are they to argue. You pay for it so give it to you!!! I am so angry on your behalf. I hate the fact that we are always having to explain ourselves to people as to why we do things differently. Ummm because we are different. So big hugs and I hope the scan next week gives you some peace of mind. And I am so sorry that you had such an emotional day yesterday.

    Sryan and Rozzie - good luck on your TTC journey. I hope it is a short one with a wonderful result soon.

    Rozzie - I didn't give birth (had a D&C) but my first AF was weird - it usually last for 5-6 days but this time it was only around for a couple of days. Even in Feb it wasn't back to normal. I know this sounds a bit TMI but I just put it down to the fact that I spotted so much after the D&C that my lining was probably not as thick and therefore AF not as heavy as usual.

    Hammi - good luck with you naturopath etc. I hope they are able to help sort out your cycle and get things working nicely. I have been seing a naturopath since Jan and in my first cycle she also thought my temps were 'sluggish' so she had me taking Vitex to help with progesterone.

    Jen - your camping trip sounds hilarious - apart from your son getting heatstroke. Just the idea of your driving mountains to get a signal makes me laugh. Your chart is looking promising, are planning to test at some stage? I will keep my fingers crossed for you. You can be like me and not test until AF is 5 days late!!! Mind you that one came back as negative but then the next morning I got a BFP - talk about messing with my mind.

    I am sick and had yesterday off, and I am planning on taking today as well. Just feel blah. So I think it will be a day of sleeping for me.

  4. #4
    Registered User

    Aug 2007
    Bridgewater Adelaide
    442

    Hi all,

    Jo I am so sorry you were made to feel like that.... You didnt disappoint us, but I so look forward to hearing your good news after next week.

    Well hopefully some more of us have some positive news soon. My temperatures are looking quite good. Hoping it continues to rise, rise, rise and I get a BFP this month.

    If I do get a BFP I will have to thank my natural therapist. I have never had so much discharge around ovulation - ovulated on day 13 and temperatures have risen better than every before.

    Fingers Crossed for everybody this month.

    I am also catching up with my Prof from Repromed on Wed next week, so I am looking forward to getting all my test results..... fingers crossed they are all good.

    Wishing everybody a fantastic day.

    xxx Sue xxx

  5. #5
    Registered User

    Aug 2007
    Bridgewater Adelaide
    442

    Hi guys,

    I have added my fertility friend temperature chart.

    Tell me what you think??

    xxx Sue xxx

  6. #6
    Registered User

    Dec 2007
    Sydney
    262

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    Ooh Sue your temps do look good. I hope this is it for you!

    Jo, I don't have a funny to share with you but I'm ready to cry with you. I called my ob's office to ask if they've had any news on Hamish's full autopsy results and still no - two months on. It gets better though, the receptionist went on to tell me that the last time they ordered an autopsy, it took NINE MONTHS for the results to come back because only one hospital in Sydney does them and they're overloaded. I said so I have to wait that long to TTC again and she said I should.

    So I booked in to see my GP right away and she had received a letter from my obs just summarising what happened to me and Ham and that it would take about two months to get his full autopsy results. My GP said that the receptionist sounds like she was just brushing me off and not inclined to chase the results at all. She said to get the hospital details and she will chase for me.

    I'm too upset to call the ob's office again. Every time I call I feel like I'm begging for charity. I'll write instead.

  7. #7
    Registered User

    Aug 2007
    Bridgewater Adelaide
    442

    Hi Hammi,

    I am so sorry you had to deal with that. I think sometimes that people who work within "baby industry" get immune to the fact that people have feelings!!! Or they don't understand or don't know how to speak to somebody who has been through a tough time.

    All I can say is that you have a right to know the answers and if you want to ring everyday to see if the results are in, do it!!! Dont ever feel that you should ring....

    I wish you all the best in finding out the results soon.

    xxx Sue xxx

  8. #8
    Registered User

    Dec 2007
    melbourne
    200

    hi everyone!
    thanks for al your messages! I do feel alot better today and for some reason have a totally different feeling (of excitment) for next weeks ultrasound. This may change as it gets closer but i think it also has something to do with the fact i am going to the other ultrasound place. (i have been going between 2 depending on appoinment avaliability) I think i will feel alot more comforted there and their style is alot more gentle AND less questions. When i rebooked i did'nt get asked once why the odd ultrasound. I agree Katie -i don't understand why they have to question so much, esp when my referral is from a specialist OB who uses that hospital (everyone knows him) and all my history is there! ARGH! I really hope you are feeling better soon, some horrible flu has just been going around and around, thankfully it has passed through all the girls at work so i should'nt get it again, esp after my 3.5 week stint! rest up - you deserve it!
    hammi - i am so sorry for your wait, when i had jacks autospy done it took a week due to the nature of his death. You have a right to follow up the results, 9 months i am sorry is ridiculous! Surely there can't be that big a backlog? keep on their case, don't let them be slack, this may be a matter of numbers and effort for them but you are dealing with losing your child. At least your other doc sounds like they will help you a bit more so i am happy you have more support from them.
    sryan - good luck with next weeks appointment. Those charts are unbelieveable! there is a whole world i was too lazy to visit and thank goodness after seeing them, i would have been obsessed!
    jen- i'll be thinking of you in the next 2 days. fingers crossed for you!!!!!
    for us all!
    take care guys!
    jo