thanks teagzz and hgirs. i feel so muc better though now. but yesterday i had a bit f a rough day cos he would have been 26 weeks old and i remember early on thinking that it would be such a nice time by now.sigh.but it's okay. we had him cremated and brought him home and they did lovely pictures for us i get to see him whenever.his name is Tosin.as you both know you never forget. hgirs congrats on your little Bub i'm so happy for you ! and teaggz, good luck to us