Jo- I do remember you and your little Madison. It would be hard to forget. Your story was so similar to mine. I didn't want to scare you with too much of my story when you were pregnant with Madison, so I didn't write very much to you. IUGR that starts as early as it has for you and I usually doesn't end well. My doctors were pretty straight about it right from the start.
I am sorry to hear that you do not have an answer either. I wanted a reason but I knew that I wasn't going to get one. I wanted something that they could fix. Did they take a closer look at the placenta? They did not find anything when we lost Parker but because Shelby held on so long the clots formed large sections of scar tissue on the placenta. It gives me a little hope for the heparin. I am almost positive that they will advise you to take the daily heparin shots as well. My regular OB told me that he would have given them to me even if my high risk doctor didn't find clots. I am happy that we will be TTC and pregnant around the same time. Most likely taking heparin shots together as well.

Parker 7/27/07 @ 22 weeks
Shelby 5/27/08 @ 28 weeks
bean 9/5/08 @ 5 weeks