TTC AFTER Late Loss/Recurrent Miscarriage/ Stillbirth 2010

[Lemonade]

Hi all,

thanks so much for your warm welcome - I really appreciate it.
I hope you're all having a good weekend. DH and I are in the hunter
valley so trying to just relax and focus on good things... And lots of good food.

Dory - thanks for the kind words - they felt like a comforting hug.

Charlie - I just wanted to let you know how much you helped when you replied
to my post in the early days. I felt so alone and sad and your post made
me feel so much more 'normal'. All your words and experiences seemed
to mirror how I was feeling and going through. I guess being only one
month apart in our loss puts us in a similar spot. I am sending you lots of positive BFP vibes. Hopefully I'll follow soon too. Xxxx

angelic- really appreciate the welcome

Gigi - what a tough time you've had recently but it seems you've marked the occassion in such a beautiful way. I would love to know how you managed with your friends birth and your SILs pregnancy. My SIL and really good friend are due on the same day I was. My sister is also 12 weeks now. I am finding it reaaly difficult especially seeing the growing stomach.

Chez- thx for the welcome. I hope you are relaxing and enjoying the rain.

The good news is that I thought I would do a preg test and OPK this morning and both were distinctly negative. So hopefully means my hcg is dropping and my body is getting ready for next round of o'ing.

Question- I would love to know what your experience with your obs was. Ours is supposed to be highly regarded in syd but she was there just after the birth and I haven't heard from her since and that was almost 7 weeks ago. No follow up call. Even now after my stressful week with my elevated hcg and I went for an u/s and blood tests and I asked the receptionist if the dr could call me but she never did. The receptionist always called withthe results. She's obviously very busy with other patients but my next pregnancy will probably have quite a bit of anxiety attached and I don't know how understanding she'll be if I can't even speak to her now. Do you think I'm expecting too much?

Ok, dinner time.

Happy Anzac day
xxx

[TeniBear]

Lemonade - that's quite strange, you'd think they would have made a follow-up appointment... Mine was made while I was still in hospital, but maybe that's because mine was a stillbirth and not a miscarriage? In legal terms, I mean - I'd class any loss where there's a properly formed baby as stillbirth, but that's me

Could you make an appointment anyway? Even just pretend you want a pap smear done or something and when you're there ask whatever you like? At my follow up, they threw a pap smear in because I was due for one before I got pregnant, so it could conceivably happen the other way .

Hopefully it all works out for you.

[Lemonade]

Thanks Teni - I have a follow up appointment booked with the obs this Wednesday which would be 7 weeks later.

I just was feeling frustrated as when I called to check with my hcg results last week and I was concerned about the results, I just got msgs from the receptionist that the doc wasn't concerned.

Anyway I'm just overly sensitive at the moment and just wanted to get some reassurance from the obs that everything is ok.

Hopefully she'll put our mind at ease on wed.

[blessedatlast]

Gigi - It sounds ike you had a nice peaceful day for DD's anniversary. It is such a hard day to get through..

Thanks everyone for your supportive words.. I am going through HELL at the moment. And dreading up and coming mother's day. Not only is it without my children, but without my children's father. At least last year, he knew Mothers day would be a hard day for me.. I don't know what to do this year.. I will keep stalking in here from time to time and I will definitely be around other threads

[crumpet]

Hi girls, selfish post sorry.
I am back and not going so well today. I am exhausted and DH has gone back to work after wed/thurs weekend of heartache. I am really tired, teary and sad. Feel lonely and angry. God how do we feel so much at once. I will be back later to reply to others and fill you in on what we did for DD's anniversary. I hate that it has come and gone.
Love and thanks to all for your warm wishes. xoxo

i dont know what to say hun, i just hope in time things gradually improve...... i cant say i know how u feel coz i havnt go to my due date yet but its fast approaching and i have no idea how im gunna deal with it....

crumpet - how did the interview go?? I'm sure you impressed them. The metallic mouth sounds promising!!! I'm crossing everything!!

it went well thanks hun.... i went back the next day for a second interview, was mainly to meet the other chiro and it went well, so who knows!!1 ill find out wednesday!!!

Thanks girls,
I will make my way back in here bit by bit. I am still a bit tired today.
Went to where we spent our honeymoon for DD's anniversary. We took butterflies with us and released them with friends up there and their kids. They were also kind enough to make her a birthday cake and light candles, we sang happy birthday...well we got through most of it. We light a fire back at our cottage and read her books, looked through her photos and took many more. Bought her a tree to plant in my mum and dad's garden. Read my journal from when I was pregnant with her. God it took us back and made us really take note again how much we wanted her. Not that we needed reminding but it was nice to go back.
Friend had her baby this morning, little girl, home birth and all are well. xoxo Two down and two more to go..both SIL- One due now, and the other in a month.
xoxoxo

thats sounds so so so beautiful hun!!!

Question- I would love to know what your experience with your obs was. Ours is supposed to be highly regarded in syd but she was there just after the birth and I haven't heard from her since and that was almost 7 weeks ago. No follow up call. Even now after my stressful week with my elevated hcg and I went for an u/s and blood tests and I asked the receptionist if the dr could call me but she never did. The receptionist always called withthe results. She's obviously very busy with other patients but my next pregnancy will probably have quite a bit of anxiety attached and I don't know how understanding she'll be if I can't even speak to her now. Do you think I'm expecting too much?

Ok, dinner time.

Happy Anzac day
xxx

welcome to the thread hun, im so so so sorry for ur loss.....

i kinda feel bad saying this coz after reading ur experience i dont want to make my OB sound like a god!! lol

basically my OB was amazing!! he was worth every dollar we spent and will spend as much as we have to with him to get our bub.....
he called me after 10 days to see how i was and then told me he wanted to see at 2 weeks after and has been nothing but a fantastic dr and a great support..

Gigi - It sounds ike you had a nice peaceful day for DD's anniversary. It is such a hard day to get through..

Thanks everyone for your supportive words.. I am going through HELL at the moment. And dreading up and coming mother's day. Not only is it without my children, but without my children's father. At least last year, he knew Mothers day would be a hard day for me.. I don't know what to do this year.. I will keep stalking in here from time to time and I will definitely be around other threads

big hugs hun i hope someone does something really special for u on mothers day

[CharlieB]

I just dropped in to tell you that I am an IDIOT!!!!!


I caved in and tested this morning - was a BFN after a couple of minutes so I went back to bed in disgust. Can't believe i couldn't wait it out.

But (here's where the idiot part comes in), I forgot to throw out the test and went into the bathroom a couple of hours later - 2nd pink line, faint but obviously there. And it's pink not grey.

I have NO idea if it came before the 10 mins or if it's just an evap line.

I realise that anything that you see later than 10 mins is considered negative, but now I just cannot get the idea out of my head. Like I needed anything to make this any more difficult!!!

I will obviously test again tomorrow, I wish AF would just show up and put me out of my misery. I don't think I'm pregnant, have no symptoms at all.

sigh...

Lemondade - I'm glad to hear that your HPT was negative, hopefully it means your levels have dropped and there is no chance of having anything retained, bring on ovulation now hopefully?
I haven't seen my OB in person since the delivery (we delivered at a different high risk hospy) but he did ring me multiple times over the 2 hellish weeks before we delivered our boy, just to see how I was going and discuss all the test results with me. I hope you feel better after your appointment.

crumpet - good luck for Wed, I hope it's good news!

Chez - hope it's still AF free zone!

Big hugs to Gigi, Teni, blessed and anyone else who is having a particularly tough week

[crumpet]

I just dropped in to tell you that I am an IDIOT!!!!!


I caved in and tested this morning - was a BFN after a couple of minutes so I went back to bed in disgust. Can't believe i couldn't wait it out.

But (here's where the idiot part comes in), I forgot to throw out the test and went into the bathroom a couple of hours later - 2nd pink line, faint but obviously there. And it's pink not grey.

I have NO idea if it came before the 10 mins or if it's just an evap line.

I realise that anything that you see later than 10 mins is considered negative, but now I just cannot get the idea out of my head. Like I needed anything to make this any more difficult!!!

I will obviously test again tomorrow, I wish AF would just show up and put me out of my misery. I don't think I'm pregnant, have no symptoms at all.

sigh...


crumpet - good luck for Wed, I hope it's good news!

oh hun dont u hate that?!?!?! cant wait to hear how you go tomorrow!!! ill be stalking for the results!!!

thanks hun, ill be sure to let u all know how i go!!