Crumpet - There's a lot of research on cervical incompetence, and some of the figures are really promising. You'll get there! I am the subject of a big debate - do I have incompet cervix or not? Can that be the cause of my preterm labour? One school says it's not clear - I don't fit the classical definition and some of the classical indicators are not there. It's not ruled out, but it's not clear cut either. The other school says - asbolutely. Get a stitch and get it early. One of the very concerning risks for me is risk of infection following the proceedure. One school days, no worries we'll knock it out with a good dose of i/v antibiotics, the other says, with you? Not so sure. Anyway, the end result of all of that, is there are no clear answers for me and I am going to be faced with a big decision fairly soon. A bit scary really, to have the future of this pg so squarely in my hands, and experts at 20 paces not able to offer a clear path.
oh wow u poor thing, that makesit hard for next time to make the decision to stitich or not!!!
my OB has said i have all the classic indicators and when i had the D&C to remove the retained palcenta he said my cervix is definatly not in the condition it should be....he said he would expect someone who had things like cone biopsy's, or laser surgery or 6-7 terminations to have a cervix like mine, but ive had nothing at all done to it.....
we will be stitching at 12-13 weeks when im preg, on the recommendation of my OB, who we trust whole heartedly, with that a night in hospy on anti biotics to help reduce any risk of infection..... id rather not have to do it, but we have been told its our only chance of carrying a bub long enough to have it survive or to get to 37 weeks.......
have u got a OB u could speak to rather than hearing 2 different things>??
Hi again ladies..

Well, DP and I are still together.. I had the place all ready to move into but I just couldn't bring myself to pack my stuff and leave.. We do love each other but communication is a problem.. I do it too much, he not at all.. We both don't want the relationship to end and both agree there needs to be changes. We are going to try counselling. I am all for it, he said he would try it, anything to try and save our relationship.. We have been through so much together with our babies and DSS too, since I have been around since he was 1. I guess this is one last shot.. I don't know if I am playing the blame game here but I do feel that he is the one that needs to make some changes. I'm not saying I am perfect, but I open up where as he shuts off and lets things build up.. It's like he lives in a state of denial sometimes as opposed to dealing with the problem..Anyway, thanks so much for your support ladies.. Wish us luck with our counselling..
so glad to hear things are a bit better, and its great u guys are trying to sort things out!
Hello ladies,

My pussy cat went to heaven on Tuesday, she died in my arms. I cried like a baby and still can't belive she's gone. I expect to see her any minute coming in to ask for food (her favourite) or to see her basking in the sunshine (second favourite). I'm going in to hossy next week on Tuesday, but it's been so hard getting excited. Don't think badly of me girls, I will be excited, and I know deep down I am, but I'm so heart broken ATM as I miss my furbaby sooooo much. Thanks girls for your lovely words

CharlieB and crumpet, I'm so sorry for your losses girls . I've lost my precious angel boy Joshua at 21 weeks in October 2008, the road to recovery was tough but you get there in the end. I'm now expecting my second baby soon and wanted to let you know life does go on, but please work on your grief as it's so important for this to be resolved before you move on.
im so sorry to hear about ur cat......

and thanks for ur thoughts...... its definatly a long road but im feeling good, things are a lot better now than even a week ago!
well BFN for me. So just waiting for AF to arrive, I think this has made us more determined to try again, being so close but so far away. so full steam ahead from now on!
sorry it wasnt the result u were after hun!!1

ho to everyone else!!!

AFM: not much going on here really, just wating to O which will be sometime this week, proably after wednesday id say......