thread: TTC AFTER Late Loss/Recurrent Miscarriage/ Stillbirth Sept 2009

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  1. #1
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    Jun 2007
    1,638

    Hey Cheryl,
    Good to hear from you. Sorry you had a neg this month. It sounds promising that you are considering all options though. It is hard to base these decisions on previous experience when each cycle is a fresh look/start. I hope that the coming months make things clearer for you and that whatever you do brings your dream to reality hun. Good luck and best wishes to get fit and ready too. I hope the best for you, i really do.
    oxox
    Beata,
    The very best of wishes for you on Tuesday. How very exciting. You have come all this way. I hope you are as proud as we are! A subsequent pregnancy after loss would have to be finding a NEW normal for yourself, i guess. I admire you and look up to your strength. I hope that your beautiful cat is looking over you as your family grows. Good Luck sweet and enjoy the moment of true love. xoxoox Will be thinking of you!

    Aries,
    Good to hear from you hun and to know all is well in your world. Keep us in touch when you can. Love and wishes xoxo

    Crumpet,
    I think i mentioned a little while back that i tend to binge and feel my most down, the first day after my husbands weekend. I still find it hard sweety. We have a 24/7 relationship. We have often worked together and really enjoy living in each others pockets. We give each other the necessary space we need. So when he is away, i feel quite lost in deed. We haven't been away from each other much other than one night...that was hellish for me. We don't have an unhealthy need for each other...i just have such a closeness with him...no one else can fill that. I think it is very normal how you feel hun. I am glad it worked out. GO the Dildo Cam...not ever very nice...but hey one very good advantage, no full bladder necessary! I think that is worse.

    Charlie B,
    My cousin in Perth has been trying to get me to go over there...from brisbane, to stay with her for a bit. No way Hose! She thinks we are too dependant on each other and it would be good for us to spend some time away once and a while...um Bu55er off. She thinks it would be relaxing for me. I have no idea where people get off with this advice. Talk about unravel me! Another planet! I know your friend is not suggesting this...it is just my cousin beign pushy. Sometimes well meaning friends can throw you for six. Just be as honest as you can sweet and your friendship will survive it if it is strong enough. You do what you are comfortable with, stay close to your heart and listen to your needs hun. Stay strong and do whatever it is your heart tells you...no matter how crazy.

    I am hoping i didn't get Crumpet and CharlieB mixed up at any point. You lovely ladies are really good at 'quoting'. I have no idea how to do it...it gets me confused. So apologies for any mix up on my part...i can be a bit slow. xoxoxo Hugs

    AFM-
    Hmmmm, a few things this week. I went for this appointment up the coast. Anyway some things have been confirmed. I have a few issues to contend with. I have two viruses in my system, some opportunistic bacteria and Lymes Disease seems to be present. To say i handled this well would be overkill. I have no idea where of how i got these things as I am bit of a health freak. I look after myself well although the last year has been up and down. It explains why I am so damn tired all the time and why i feel out of whack. Although at any point, these things and others that you can't really put a finger could all be caused by grief. I do feel 'not myself'. They all leave you with symptoms like chronic fatigue syndrome/glandular fever and pelvic inflam disorder etc etc. Fun...get yoursefl some, it is a blast.
    Had another panick attack around my health stuff so I will get some more checked out and look at come counselling i think for the anxiety. Hmmm, i am so frustrated and upset over this. I have never 'had' to stop TTC for so long. I want to scream.
    On the flip side, it gives me time to be well and a better chance of a safe pregnancy. I can get a bit fitter and feel good again.
    Yesterday was DD's anniversary for her death. My mother rang all high pitched and chirpy. I could have hung up then and there. So I am hiding right now. My little cousin was down from Cairns and she came to visit today. It was lovely to see her and she just wanted to talk about DD which was perfect for me today. Selfishly, that is all i wanted. I am hiding and sewing and writing for the rest of the day. My SIL sent us flowers on Friday which was lovely of her.
    I am tired and headachy so i am off for to meditate and rest. HOpe you are all well out there.
    Love to you all

    Dory,
    Only a couple of days until you see your bubs, thinking of you. xx

  2. #2
    Registered User

    Feb 2010
    Perth
    44

    Hi everyone

    Hope your weekends have been enjoyable!

    Hi Gigi - no mix ups as far as I can tell!! Your post made me laugh, I think crumpet is another level ahead of me, I have no idea how she does the multiple quoting in one post thingy, very impressive!!!
    I'm so sorry about the health issues you are facing, but hopefully finding out about what's going on means you are one step closer to solving the problems and getting on with your TTC journey

    Chez - sorry about evil AF showing up. I hope the next few cycles can bring some better news, be it IVF or natural.

    beata - all the best for Tuesday, I will be kppeing you in my thoughts this week.

    crumpet - how did the appointment go? ROFL at the "dildo camera"!

    AFM - we went out to see some friends last night for the first time since we delivered. It felt so strange, everyone acted like nothing at all had happened, and didn't mention anything about it. I was acting like I was the same as before, but I feel like a TOTALLY different person, this HUGE thing has happened in my life that nobody will mention! I think having had a baby and meeting my beautiful little boy has changed me so much, and yet I can't express this to anyone. Does this make any sense?? Sorry I am rambling away to myself here!

    Otherwise a quiet weekend, I have to start doing some proper shifts at work from tomorrow and pulling my weight a bit more, hope it goes ok.

    Am anxiously awaiting my AF, have no idea when it will show up, could be weeks away I guess. But would love to TTC next cycle so bring on AF!

    Take care ladies
    xx

  3. #3
    Registered User

    Sep 2009
    watsonia north victoria
    2,161

    crumpet - how did the appointment go? ROFL at the "dildo camera"!

    AFM - we went out to see some friends last night for the first time since we delivered. It felt so strange, everyone acted like nothing at all had happened, and didn't mention anything about it. I was acting like I was the same as before, but I feel like a TOTALLY different person, this HUGE thing has happened in my life that nobody will mention! I think having had a baby and meeting my beautiful little boy has changed me so much, and yet I can't express this to anyone. Does this make any sense?? Sorry I am rambling away to myself here!

    Otherwise a quiet weekend, I have to start doing some proper shifts at work from tomorrow and pulling my weight a bit more, hope it goes ok.

    Am anxiously awaiting my AF, have no idea when it will show up, could be weeks away I guess. But would love to TTC next cycle so bring on AF!

    Take care ladies
    xx
    my appt went well thanks hun....
    everything looks normal, my cerivx is just a bit shorter than a normal persons which is no great suprise!!
    ovaries were full of eggs so we are all systems go!!!
    lol..yeah dildo cam!! i unfortunatly will have to have dildo cam every scan and every preg i have!! dam cervix!!!!

    i know what u mean about being a different person..... for me its easier if ppl pretend nothing has happend, but i can understand if u did want to talk to them about it.
    i think a ot of people dont know what to say or how to act after soemthing like this has happned. even now i wonder if i would know what to do to help out someone if they went through what we did...

    ooh and to quote..... down the bottom right of posts there is a symbol with MQ in it, u just hit that for every post u want to quote!! easy as!!

  4. #4
    Registered User

    Mar 2010
    5

    I tried to post a thread, but for some reason it didn't come through. I just wanted to know if anyone can answer my questions...

    Hi, some of you may have read my story https://www.bellybelly.com.au/forums...-6-months.html
    3 weeks later I was curious to see if I was ovulating because I had read that you can ovulate 2 weeks to 3 weeks after giving birth and that you are really fertile, ect after giving birth. The first test stick come up that I was not ovulating, but the next day both lines come up both being the same colour no line was darker or lighter than the other. They both were a faint pink colour. When I done my last ovulation test the C line was darker than the T and that month was the month I feel pregnant. So anway I took it that I was ovulating. My partner and I TTC from that day. I tested the next day and same thing. Third day come up with th T line dakrer than the C. I now feel really guilty because I feel asthough I have rushed into things to fast, and thought maybe if I got pregnant that fast it would take a bit of the pain away. If I fell pregnant this month could I potentially put this child at danger too? My partner is a lot older than me. He is 53 and we want to have a child so bad befoe it gets too late for him to experience being a father again. That is the main reason of TTC so fast. Do you think that the ovulation test could have been wrong for some reason seeing as the 2 lines were exact same colour, but very light?