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ok, sorry ladies i am being a bit selfish today, but i know this question has been answered before but what levels should I be looking for/at with the results this afternoon? considering the test was taken on 19 dpo. ok so only a couple of hours left now, then we will know for sure, c'mon already
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Watch out- its been awhile its gonna be LOOOONG
Hello Beautiful ladies!!!!
Welcome to the best thread in the world new comers!!
Sheree- Your story sounds as sad as all of ours. One thing that hit a spot with me was how you said you get confused because your body can make the baby, but not carry it... Welcome to my world!!!
I have concieved without troubles three times. I have lost in the first, second and third trimester for all different reasons. I know that i had aniticardiolipin antibodies in my most recent pregnancy (My daughter Zahra, lost at 36 weeks) but there is no explaination for my miscarrage or for my sons organ abnormality (my pregnancy was stopped at 18weeks as he was not going to make it)
And after hearing about your successful pregnancy, perhaps a test for anticardio could be on the cards for you as it is a blood clotting type issue thing.
And please, never ever ever talk down your saddness and your pain. Take it from someone who has lost at every stage, it hurts all the same. Our pain is not measured by weeks or days, it is universal love and you no doubt have felt the same sorrow as all of us,no more and not one bit less. Big Hugs to you and welcome to our world.
Ellie- If you are still lurking, please dont be afraid to come in and just talk... it says TTC thread, but as long as we dont mind you can stay i think. I lurked around for months before i felt ready to actually start trying again!! The ladies are all very supportive, and its this kind of support we need to help us get back on the horse and try again. (when we are ready... you are doing what is good for you by waiting) i know i needed to spend time in the pregnancy thread becuase i was still sort of dealing with how i handled my pregnancy with Zahra. Even tho i wasn't pregnant, it wasn't hard for me to rememebr how those women were feeling in a pregnancy after a loss, and i still had some issues to talk about becuase those feeling were still so much in my heart.
And then once i was ready to start trying again, i already had my support network here and waiting, coz they were the gorgeous ladies who helped me to feel better!! So i just wanted to let you know that if there is anything you need to let out, you are welcome to do it here!!
CeCe Says- Hello!! I am soo sorry that your friend was so insensitive. You did well not to bop her one over the head! Now to me, a nice thing for her to have said would be "Thank you for the maternity clothes, how are you coping with all of this today? If you need anything or i can do anything to make you feel more at ease,please let me know." But hey- thats just me. i hope your nice clothes give her a rash too!! As far as what to do at times like these, i tend to just start crying or walk away. And i have to admit, i dont think anyone has been that insensitive to my face like that. In your case i might have said REALLLLY loudly, "Oh yes, i wouldn't want my miscarrage to put a damper on your day!!! How rude of me." and see what happens from there, but i can be a bit of a sh#t stirrer sometimes.
Good luck with your OPKs, i am getting my first delivery some time this week, i have a brand spanking new digital thermometre and i have no idea what i am supposed to do with either of them!!?? i will be doing alot of peeing while i figure them out!!! Maybe we can help eachother out!! LOL (and no- i am not peeing on my thermometre, thats just silly, or is that what i am supposed to do?? LMAO LOL)
Jo- it is sad to know not many people will get the chance to see Storm, i would be honored too to see her if you would like me to. Not many people have seen darren either, maybe we could show eachother. I would have to figure out how to scan pictures etc, actually i would rather do it in person, face to face so we can really share and cry and hug and be there for eachother, but failing that i will find a way to scan pictures in here, i would like to have one of Zahra's pictures in here too, i am sure there is somewhere to put them where we can look at them. Lets try and work something out soon.... I do remember now you saying that you spent time with her, i think i had just missed exactly how far along you were when you lost her. Did you have any trouble being allowed to take her home and bury her, i remeber the dr's saying either we couldn't or we didn't have to for Darren. I think i was that much of a mess i was more grateful to have it out of my hands then to worry if i was honoring him. Looking back now, i wish i had done something more significant with his body. Does that sound weird?
I too know your feelings of isolation. Small towns are great, but they do get lonely and the chances of finding someone else in your shoes is highly possible, but not highly likely. just remeber you have us, and you can share your most insignificant thoughts with us, (at least i hope we can, coz i do!!!!) and your most deep and sad thoughts too. But i guess too its like what i was saying before, its nice to have someone right there with you who is there for you who can really hug you and be there face to face. And it weird sometimes when we post and then we may have to wait a few days for a response... i have combatted that by swapping numbers with a few of the girls so i can text them and get that support back right away. If you'd like i'll pm you my number and i will be there whenever you need me!!
Auntie M Hellllloooooo all the way in America!!! I just saw the last episode in the new Dr Who series, they defeated the evil Time lord and saved the Dr!!! Go MArtha!! I'm not sure when the next one will be on, i may have to go down to the video store and rent some of the old ones, i am a new fan.... but i like it so far!
Your description of how the bad days get on top of you is exactly how i feel!! Well actually everything you said was spot on. Thankyou!
How are you feeling today? Is your morning sickness still reminding you everyday that you are on your way to success??? How are your plans and decisions going?
Big Hugs to you from me, while your journey will be hard, it is one that will be worth the wait! Take care!!
MEL Hello stranger!! I have been off the planet a bit lately! (Whats New?) but i am feeling much better. I had a great weekend, we spent most of Saturday doing exactly what i wanted (watching telly and doing nothing!!) and we went out for breakkie on sunday and then went to see some friends. Still waiting for my tests to arrive (they would only have recieved my mail order today, so i'll give them a few days) and then i am going to the dr next week. I have noticed you have been missing from here again, is everything ok? Did you go back to work at that place again? Big hugs if you have! Hope all is well with the family! Take care!!
KLEE i have left you till last coz i am still pacing and waiting to click on those green men. Sore throat in one spot hey??? I like the sound of that!! Making yourself sick, i understand that!! So I am inpatiently waiting...... Sending all the vibes i have your way!! Its beautiful that DF was asking how strong your line was, i think that is gorgeous!! Are you leaving work early today? i am filling in time, but i was silly and started posting first and i cant pm while posting or i loose the post (found that out the hard way!!) But i started this about 2 hours ago!!! I am gonna check if your still here, and if not, i will be here late tonight and i would love the honor of making any announcements needed. BTW have you got my pressie yet?????/
Wow, that took ages!! I bet i have missed some posts while i have been typing this novel!!
Hello to anyone i have missed.... love to all!!
StarBright!!
xoxoxxo
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Tapping fingers *** twirling thumbs *** I feel like I should be pacing the floor waiting for Klee's results! LOL!
Just a quickie from me, I'll be back real soon!
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Ha!!! i knew i'd miss someone!!!
Judy, how are you my love? Have you ever heard of Mullumbimby? Its called the biggest little town in Australia. Billinudgel is a stones throw away from there. It's north of Byron Bay. There are a few small towns on the coast called Brunswick heads and Ocean Shores which have shops and banks etc and they are only 10 minutes away and Mullum is inland about 20 minutes away and in amongst all of them are mountains ranges and properties. And tucked in amongst all of them is a little town called Billinudgel. We have the Pub which i work at, the local shop, the post office and, um..... well... thats about it. There are a few industrial buildings, but nothing too exciting. Everyone knows everyone from Mullum to Brunz to Ocean Shores and Billi. Its one really big community!! Its really pretty here, and when i used to live in the mountains i lived in a little shack with next to no electricity and i had to heat my water up in a drum over a fire. But i looked over the whole valley and i could see the ocean and it was so peaceful. Now i live on the road between Mullum and Billinudgel, im around the corner from the pub, but still on some land. And we have electricity now!! You should have seen us when we first moved here, we were light switch crazy!!! We have chickens and ducks and we have two sheep being raised for us to have soon. Plus our dogs and cats and fish (which is sadly just one now, we had a casualty) I have to go to ocean shores for my weekly shopping but thats about it. If i ever want to do some real shopping i go up to Tweed Heads with my mum, but other than that, i am usually happy in my seclusion. Its all pretty craetive and full of peace loving hippies who talk to red neck farmers and we all seem to get along pretty well.
Where are you?
Would anyone be interested in organsing some sort of get togehter?? This is the first internet forum i have ever been part of, and i wouldn't normally go around wanting to meet everyone i have met on the net, but while this is all so close to all of our hearts i would love to really see all of you and have a day where we could all share our stories in the flesh, am i being too sentimental?
Let me know what you think!
Love StarBright
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Thanks Starbright..I'm still lurking!
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Klee????? twiddling thumbs here too.... in between hassles from a houseul of high maintenance guests...
Wow Kat that sounds like an idyllic life. We have a mountain getaway we go to that has no electricity other than a generator but as it is inside a National park we can't run it for long.
A meet up would be fun but no way could I make it over
I knew it was too good to be true.... ***sigh** I'll try again to post tomorrow
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howdy everyone.
Ellie- hope the break is just what you need!
CeCeSays- lol on the sex in the bathroom comment! seriously, though, i think humor is one of the best ways to deal with it, if you have the wit. i can't manage that. i usually just look at people like they are crazy, and walk away. i suppose the healthy thing to say is "wow, that really hurt." then at least they will know, and maybe perhaps some will care. there is no protection, really , from hurtful comments.
Sheerejoy- i'm so sorry for the losses of your four angels. your love of your four angels is no different than your love for your son, and it is so right to grieve them.
Jo- my town is small too, i drive hours for a once-a-month support group that is canceled every other month due to no one to show up. honestly, bb is better.and i found a counselor who has also lost two children, so i can call her when i am desperate for someone to understand me.
Judy- here's hoping for you this month! am still tired and m/s, so am not crazy with worry yet. i am scared to go to the doc, though.
Kat- lol re peeing on the thermometer! if i figured it out, i know you can too!
Klee- ???? i'm madly calculating the time zones to figure out when i should check back. my electricity is from solar panels, and we don't have quite enough panels, so i try to keep the computer off as much as possible. but i so want to hear from you!
we had a lovely fall weekend up in crested butte, with loads of color and blue skies. went to a friend's wedding, and did so well until the ****tails after. so many babies and mommies and daddies. and then one lady and her baby i hadn't seen since we were both newly pregnant last year. couldn't stop the tears and had to escape for an hour or so. why can't i just be happy for others without being sad for Yeti and dh and myself?
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Auntie,
If you didn't get upset everynow and then and didn't miss your little Yeti... thats when I would be worried about you. The hardest day I have had since losing Eli was the happiest moment for the rest of my family. My twin sister delivered a beautiful baby a little over 6 weeks after we said goodbye to ours. My mom lives with us and has since her stroke in '01 .. so I had to reaaaalllllly work on putting on a happy face while she celebrated another grandchild's birth. Its hard to deal with the dark sides of our hearts sometimes... envy... hurt.. and that not so publically accepted kind of grief that isnt contained by a tissue but soaks your shirt in tears and chafes your nose from snot. But ya know... red chapped noses and red eyes ARE beautiful! You are beautiful... because you are willing to be real. I can't imagine the balancing act it must be to grieve the loss of Yeti and celebrate a new miracle. I want to have that chance one day. And if/when that time comes I hope I handle it as well and REAL as you do! Hugs from Ohio.
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goodmorning ladies, sorry to keep you suspended lol, those two beautiful girls mel and kat wanted to leave it to me to give the news, ok so here goes, ok breathe, its a bfp, we have a little "joey". i don't know why but i've been calling it that since we got the first faint line, joey as in baby kangaroo, i really have no idea why. just feeling very hesitant at the moment, so want to be excited, just realise there is a long road ahead. they didn't get the levels just checked whether or not i was. sorry bit of a selfish post again, i will do some personals later.
whats this about kat p'ing on the thermometer?, lmao have to read that
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Yay Klee! CONGRATULATIONS
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Oh Congrats! Klee - how exciting so pleased for you.
Thank you to all for the warm welcomes. I am still trying to get to know everyone so I apologise for not directly replying to everyone, but I did read and was nodding my head so much it wasn't funny.
AuntyM - I see you are pregnant, I hope all goes well for you, my thoughts and prayers are with you.
I am the same though, if I fell pregnant again, I am sorry but I really can't be positive, I will just take each day as it comes and see what happens. I was so confident this recent pregnancy and I was miserably dissapointed. I know that is really bad not to stay positive, but I just don't feel that I can. So I know where you are coming from.
Starbright - I was really touched by your message, thank you so much, you are a wonderful lady.
I feel so welcome ladies and just wanted to say thank you. I look forward to getting to know you all. Mwah
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WOOOO HOOO KLEE!!!!!!!!!!! I am so excited for you! I don't know how to do the green dancing guys but I am thrilled to see you have a BFP! Here's info on Hcg levels.
An hCG level of less than 5 mIU/ml generally indicates you are not pregnant.
Week from the Last Menstrual Period (LMP) Amount of hCG in mIU/ml
3 5 - 50
4 4 - 426
5 19 - 7,340
6 1,080 - 56,500
7 - 8 7,650 - 229,000
9 - 12 25,700 - 288,000
13 - 16 13,300 - 254,000
17 - 24 4,060 - 165,400
25 - 40 3,640 - 117,000
Pregnant women usually attain serum concentrations of 10 to 50 mIU in the week following conception. A max is reached by the second to third month, followed by a decrease in the third trimester.
** AFTER about 6500 MiU the doubling takes longer than 2 days so DO NOT FREAK OUT if that starts to happen. ( I did) **
Good luck hun and, if its ok with you, I would love to pray for a healthy Joey in the months to come for you.
Blessings!
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Congrats Klee! So happy for you
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I'm jumping up and down!!!
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thanks so much ladies, this is only the first step though. cece hon - i would love you to pray for me, we need all the help we can get. i just hope and pray we can get through this one
i am not going to disappear on you ladies, I am going to hang around, not so much like a bad smell, well possibly, you ladies have been my lifeline. thank you my sweethearts.
heres to many more bfp's from here in the next few weeks
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Klee
I'll be back.. busy busy just wanted to say congrats to Klee.
Judy
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Klee - you better not disappear on us! LOL!
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Klee - I knew it!!!!!19dpo and no af!!!! I am so excited and happy for you babe.
Big big congrats babe to you and DF.
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