Hey Klee, I am sorry to hear about the party and that you and DP had an argument (god DH and I have many of those lately, he is such a grumpy bum and of course nothing to do with me ). I think us girls are just different to the men, they are more peace-keepers than us and I am more like you (as you know) I find it hard to understand how I should have to be the one to make all the effort, after everything we have been through they should at least try. One thing I have found is that my confidence was sent for a 6 when I had Nicholas and it was extremely hard in the early days to make any type of "move" in terms of contacting people and actually because of that reason there are people I have not had contact with since his funeral. Also I agree with you, you shouldnt have to sit around a listen to others whinge about their children at all but especially without any acknowledgement on their part of Phoebe. I think people are afraid and I really do see it as their problem, and unfortunately your DP may be right and you may end up losing them as friends (or at least as close a friend as they were iykwim) but if they can be there for you at the time you need them most then maybe acquitance is a more appropriate term than friend anyway. I dont know if that makes sense but this is just the conclusion I have come to, I believe that with everything that we have all been through we have grown as people, it probably doesnt feel that way but we have, we have grown and changed and although we are the same people outside we are different in, and unfortunately that change sometimes means we dont have the same things in common with people that we once did. My DH and your DP are very similar in the way they are when people talk about their babies, he just kinda goes along with the convo nodded and saying oh right but deep down he is hurting but just doesnt want the argument.
LOL @ him drinking your uterus water, am I allowed to rib about that or is it secret?
OK I think none of that makes sense but I dont have time to go back and read over so I will leave it - and prob read back lately and be horrified and what crap I can talk!
Before I go - saw FS this morning, he has put me on Clomid starting today. So exciting about this month now, but also wondering how big the fall will be when AF arrives next month but for now I just have to roll with it. Hopefully your uterus water and my meds will make us both fall this cycle, and we are still only a couple of days out from each other too
Have a good day (and also everyone else hello have a good day).
). I think us girls are just different to the men, they are more peace-keepers than us and I am more like you (as you know) I find it hard to understand how I should have to be the one to make all the effort, after everything we have been through they should at least try. One thing I have found is that my confidence was sent for a 6 when I had Nicholas and it was extremely hard in the early days to make any type of "move" in terms of contacting people and actually because of that reason there are people I have not had contact with since his funeral. Also I agree with you, you shouldnt have to sit around a listen to others whinge about their children at all but especially without any acknowledgement on their part of Phoebe. I think people are afraid and I really do see it as their problem, and unfortunately your DP may be right and you may end up losing them as friends (or at least as close a friend as they were iykwim) but if they can be there for you at the time you need them most then maybe acquitance is a more appropriate term than friend anyway. I dont know if that makes sense but this is just the conclusion I have come to, I believe that with everything that we have all been through we have grown as people, it probably doesnt feel that way but we have, we have grown and changed and although we are the same people outside we are different in, and unfortunately that change sometimes means we dont have the same things in common with people that we once did. My DH and your DP are very similar in the way they are when people talk about their babies, he just kinda goes along with the convo nodded and saying oh right but deep down he is hurting but just doesnt want the argument.
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