When did I start thinking about it? Before DS was even born. As soon as we heard he'd died, I turned to DH and informed him that we would be trying again straight away. I think it was shock, to be honest, but we did start as soon as we felt we could. DD was conceived about four months later.

Everyone's different though, a lot of people hold off for quite a while to process the death. For me personally I think TTC gave me a distraction from having to face up to it all