Hey
It's a really, really tough time.
It is certainly possible to night wean once toddlers are a bit older and don't necessarily *need* the milk overnight. There are some more ideas here.
Having night weaned both my kids at 14 months and 18 months respectively, I have to be a real downer and point out that they may not sleep any better just because they're not feeding back to sleep. Very often breastfeeding gets the 'blame' for babies and toddlers waking frequently, but it's usually not the source of the problem, but rather a useful tool for getting back to sleep.
Obviously it's up to each mum to figure out the right balance, it all has to work for you too, so setting boundaries is really important, just like any other aspect of parenting. And of course they will protest, because they love the comfort and security they get from the breast. There's nothing wrong with that, and it's not wrong to give it to them, either, unless that doesn't work for you.
Mother-led weaning generally does involve some crying and even screaming. But so does saying no more lollies or put your seatbelt on, sometimes.
Many mothers find that once they get a bit of space and put some boundaries in place (no tweaking!), then they feel a lot better about things and actually are happy to continue feeding.
Good luck.
Thank you for that link. I read it while lying down, feeding to sleep (lol as you do ) and I got up pretty quick when I read that part about the long feeds. I tend to let it go on for longer than it needs to because getting up and rocking her to sleep is tiring as she's not a little bitty baby..but she went off without protest, so FX she may do the same at her first waking. So thanks for that prompt.

I felt the same about the prospect of my DD1 sleeping better when she stopped feeding - I doubted it. But seriously, the first night she didn't feed to sleep, she did not wake up screaming for me after her first sleep cycle. She slept 5 hours straight! I just about died with shock. My very frequent night waker was sleeping through!!!!

I didn't think I would see an obvious connection between the two events, but it was there! I would like to think it would happen again for me, but only time will tell.