Thanks girls. Some very useful advice

How do i explain it? I love the man like crazy. He's my best mate and I can't imagine life without him. I know neither of us are going anywhere, we are in it for the long haul. I accept him with all his faults and he accepts me with mine.

But I guess it's those faults that are giving me cold feet... I think i imagined marriage to be perfect and that's what bothering me. He is not perfect. We are not perfect. We fight like cat and dog. And we do have some trust issues there- while I know (I think I know) he would never cheat on me, he has been caught lying about who he's with, where he has been. We're woking on it. I'm taking heart in the fact that this is still relatively new- we've been together less than three years, and neither of us expected things to move this quickly. All relationships are a work in progress and he knows what he's done.


BTW, the answer I got when I asked how do I know was - imagine he is in an accident & you have to care for him for the rest of your life. Can you imagine doing it? Can you imagine walking away? Would he do it for you? - (I found that a really daunting thing to be thinking about! but it was an interesting idea)
Such a good question jasp. And the answer is... yep, we would do that for each other. And we'd find a way to laugh about it too

ETA- hehe Nic PM your number, I'd love to show off a piccie