I didn't get cold feet. I knew there were problems and there would be problems, but I knew we'd get through them together and be old together and be grumpy together.
Yes, there have been times I have wondered why I did it - but he's my husband and we do work well together - when we have to! We're looking forward to a Liebling-free weekend next month so we can reconnect properly: dates are VERY important and the lack of babysitters has not helped our relationship at all.
Marriage isn't that scary. Mortgage was scarier for us!
I had major cold feet and in hindsight (which as Lulu says is a wonderful thing) I should have listened to the little voice (which wasn't so little - it was screaming at me).
If you have mechanisms in place to work through your problems and realise that you work on a marriage each and every day - then you have the building blocks in place to make this a success.
LR - I never got cold feet, so I don't know how you feel, but I did want to say that from what you've said in your last few posts, I reckon you and your DH to be seem to have a real relationship! And real relationships are the best kind!
You love each other
You work on things
You care for each other
It doesn't get any better than that. And can I please see a wedding pic too. I LOVE wedding pics. I'll PM you.
You already have kids together!! Marriage is the easy part!
I felt no different the day after I got married and didn't really even feel like it was that big a deal. I adore my DH and I'm very happy we are married but really it doesn't change much.
The prospect of having a child with him is so much more daunting and definitely permanent. You've already done that, so whats the fuss? Since you already have kids together, you're already bound for life regardless, so your marriage is just a beautiful, symbolic act and an excuse for a bloody good party. Enjoy it!
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