I agree that the type of wedding you want reflects the type of people you want. We wnted a very small classic wedding that looked elegant. We had sold our first home so we had quite a nice profit so spending wasn't really an issue however we as a couple aren't into spending unnecessarily. We had a beautiful breakfast reception with 40 close friends and family, we had one wedding car that picked up the bridesmaids from a nearby park where we had pre-wedding photos then came back to pick up me, we had my sister take photos (regret this as the photos weren't what we really wanted) All up this cost $7000, reception, dresses, suit, flowers, car

We then spent about $4000 on our honeymoon (on whch we took our 6mth old DS) which we still talk fondly of, the best holiday ever!