caixin: the one thing that i know for sure out of having 4 kids is the "pay now = pay later' theory. Its one or the other, there is no way of getting out of it!

So you give the dummy now you and it might buy you some more sleep!

You persist now and dont give then dummy and whilst all your friends are stressed out about taking a dummy away you can breath easy!

No right answer, pay now, pay later. But best of all pay when you have the energy to do so!