Thankyou everyone, no im not offened because you are all very right, how long do i have to keep hurting myself and as well as ash also when hes old enough to undertsand his dad is messing him around. He never ended up msging me yesterday.

One other reason i wanted his family to know besides so ash could know them was so he can start taking responsibility for his actions and start having some family pressures, so i guess at least he has some of that i guess...maybe..

ok time to move on and just get on with me and ash..hes NOT getting my new address when i move anyway, so dont have to worry about that.

thanks so much everyone...

susan, hope Tiger gets over this round of croupe asap...poor bubba