Babies Born February 2008 #4

[jenjams]

My Little girl from about 4 weeks to 8 weeks would NOT sleep during the day unless she was in my arms.
I still wrap DD but during the day I leave her arms out as she gets her arms out anyway. During the day after she wakes, we feed then we play for awhile. When she starts to get a little grumpy I put her in her cot, put her dummy in and wrap her and then leave her. Sometimes she grizzles for a bit.
We have had the same night time routine since 2 weeks. She has a bath at 930. I feed her, I wrap her and she is put to bed. She seems to associate bath with bed.

Maybe Jackie you could try massage?

As for tummy time, we are getting better here. She isn't crazy about it but she is getting better and strong! She is rolling onto her side now. This morning was good because one of the cats came and sat in front of DD so she stared at the cat while being on her tummy! I try to put a toy on front of her too.
Prama- I love the new pic of Lakshman too
Sue- I hope your poor DS gets better. Nicholas?
Jackie- DD went through an unsettled patch last week so I do put it down to the 3 month mark. Luke will get better... and your sanity too!

Bun- Where are you? How is Catherine and DH?

Hello to everyone else. Nearly all of our bubs are at 3 months. HOORAY!

[Sueby]

Hi Jen,

Yes Nicholas is sick. He has been Febrile Temps of 40 plus for 4 days, he has been having panadol and nurofen regularly and still has a Temp of 38. Poor little fella. He is miserable and not eating and just wants cuddles. We have been to the GP twice and he is sure it is just viral so we are waiting it out. Hopefully today will be the last day of the temperatures. I have another appt on Friday to see the GP (couldn't get in earlier!) so If he isn't any better I will take him into my work ( Emergency Department ) to see one of the Drs there.

Yes I too can't believe that all our bubs are reaching 3 months.

With the sleeping problems, I found with my two boys they get used to things very quickly so if you are rocking and patting etc they will associate that with how to go to sleep. My 1st DS was about 3months and we were rocking and patting etc but we stopped and put him down into bed happy and awake and after two or three days he was going to sleep much better. We would have to go back in and settle him just a quick pat and its ok and then leave the room. It is hard and I hated him crying but I was determined with DD that she would learn to self settle. Sorry for the ramble sometimes these posts are my only Adult contact for the day until my DH gets home.

Have a good day everyone

Sue

[jenjams]

I know what you mean Sue. I have DD or the dog or cats to entertain myself until DF gets home from work. Do you have a mothers group? I dont. My maternal health nurse said one was starting up and they would get some info to me... but I am still waiting.

I agree with the settling. No I put DD to bed awake and she is learning that is the time to go to sleep. Sometimes she will grizzle and I go in and pat her until she is quiet then I leave the room again.

I hope Nicholas is feeling better.

[Jacki]

Sue - just read your post in the sleeping thread - OMG I am so jealous. Your Sophie sure is a sleepy head. Does she sleep just as much when you are out and about or just at home. So sorry to hear about Nicholas, hope his temp comes down soon the poor little mite.

Thanks all for your replies on how your settle your bubs to sleep. With Luke I don't put him in his cot asleep just sleepy. Generally try to catch his tired signs, pick him up have a cuddle for while, pat his bum etc and when his eyes are all heavy I wrap him and put him to bed. Once there I if he doesn't drift straight off, or wakes after a couple of minutes and grizzles etc I try to pat his bum etc in his cot and not get him out.

I'd like to be able to put him in his cot a lot earlier though. I'm not big on the whole self settling / control crying approach but I just seem to spend way too much time settling him to sleep during the day and then only get a 45 minute sleep. Aaaaaaarrrrrrgggghhhhh !!!

Jen - hope you get the mother's group sorted out soon. I really love mine. We meet once each week and have been doing so for the last 2 months. Usually just rotate whose house we go to and eat cake and chat for a couple of hours. Its great to get out of the house and chat to 'adults' - even if the conversation is mostly about babies.

[prama]

sue - sorry to hear nicholas is sick, poor baby. hugs and cuddles from me.

tried ahvign a routine but it always goes out of whack when we are out, feeding time, sleeping time. i also tried doing feed, sleep, play etc but it doesnt always work that way. i try to include tummy time, playmat time, nappy free time between feeds. i mean one of each at different feed times, not all once. but it's a bit hard sometimes when you're doing other stuff or he's not interested, and i get stressed that im not doing all the things for his development. so i play it by ear, sometimes i cant include all of it.
we try to stick to the night routine. bath, feed in bed, cuddles with steve and me, and wrap and we put him in his bassinet. we let him look at his mobile and laugh himself silly, then turn off the bedside light after 10mins if he's still awake and he usually just falls asleep.
so far he hasnt been fussy about going to sleep at night. they say things change a gain at 4mths. he's sleeping less and less duringthe day. if he does, just 30mins or so. i dont put him to sleep during the day, only if he gets sleepy himself. he falls asleep in his bouncer. if i were to wrap during teh day, he will just wake up and not sleep.
i know what you mean about adult company. im just doing baby talk all day, sometiem,s till steve comes home. at least mondays i have my exercise class and now tues motehrs group. it makes such a abig difference/

jj - thanks, they just grew up so quickly.

jacki - hope it gets better hun..
my house is int oo much of a mess to have ppl over!

[Bun]

Hi guys,

Sorry I haven't posted in so long, I just haven't had the time! DD and I had a really bad cold all of last week and I was bridesmaid at a wedding that weekend and everything just got crazy busy! Thankfully we are finally getting better now. Unfortunately DD's night sleeps have gone crazy since she has been ill!

It sounds like everyone had a great mothers day! I got brekky in bed and a lovely card and pressie so was a very happy mummy indeed!

DD still doesn't like tummy time but is improving. She will tolerate it on me or on her change table but doesn't like it much on the floor. She is getting very close to rolling over at the moment and will do it any day I think! She is super smiley and getting better at entertaining herself with her toys so I can get a few things done! A big improvement!

I have to rock and sing to DD to get her to sleep after wrapping her really tight, she very rarely manages to get herself to sleep. Somtimes it is easy and she falls asleep straight away, and other times she needs a LOT of rocking before she goes down. Sometimes once I get her to sleep and put her down, she then wakes up five mins later screaming. She gets reflux and I am never sure if the screaming is because of that or because she just wants a cuddle. Sometimes I will pick her up again and she will go straight to sleep (so obviously just wanted a cuddle) and other times she does a big burp or spew so I know that was the problem. The trouble is how to tell which it is and whether she really needs to be picked up or not! Grrr, sometimes I wish I spoke Baby!!

ania - I can hear you on the wond issues and reflux, and the fighting sleep! DD loves to fight it; just like her daddy!

sue - sorry to hear your little boy is sick; I hope he gets better soon.

jenjams - thank for asking about me; it has just been so hard to find the time to post lately! I am sorry to hear you don't have a mothers group, mine has been a lifesaver! We meet once a week and go to swimming together once a week and one of them came around last week. We have started a mothers group on facebook and keep in touch all the time. Maybe you could phone your child health nurse and ask about it again? Mine forgot to mention it to me at first and then called later, so maybe she just forgot? I would definitely recommend joining if you ccan find one.

Hi to everyone else, I will try to write again soon. I hope you are all well!

Bun xx

[Sueby]

Hi Everyone,

Jacki -- To be honest we don't get out alot apart from the kinder run. I find it too hard to shop with three of them. We do catch up with friends on the non kinder days and the boys have a play with other kids but we haven't done this for the last month as either Nicholas or Benjamin has been sick. If we go out it is usually in the afternoon. If it weren't for Internet Banking and extended trading hours I would be stuffed. I really don't know how my Mum did it with 3 under 4 and no internet banking or longer supermarket hours!!
I am also very spoilt atm as my MIL will come up early Thurs/Fri mornings so I can take Benjamin to Kinder so if sophie isn't awake I don't have to wake her. This won't be happening forever as they go away to QLD for 3 months very soon so I am making the most of it.!!
Mothers Groups are great I still have 3 really close friends from my mothers group which was nearly 5 years ago.

Thank you all for your thoughts about Nicholas. He is a bit better today but still has a Temperature! I am a nurse but when my child is sick all of my instincts go out the window lol.

Hello to everyone else.

Prama -- Happy 3 months today!! I remember as Sophie was born the day after Poopy! Have a lovely day
Sue