Hi ladies - just in a bit of zombie land here. We have such a beautiful day outside - wish I could take the kids out but afternoon sleeps make things are little limited.
I'm keeping in touch with you all, sorry for not posting much tho. April is generally doing well. Not up so much at night and either sleeps a lot between feeds or not all during the day. The jaundice keeps her a little lazy still at the breast but the LC guided me to just bfing so - so far so good. DS loves his sister and can't get enough of cuddles and kisses but is a handful still and goes running off crying for no reason so that is a little hard to handle at the moment but all in all ok.
April's cord came off after 7 days - it bled for a few days but is fine now.
I'm hardly bleeding at all now - just a yucky coloured discharge mainly but most times nothing to be seen.
April is feeding really well - she latches on well which is a big change from how it was with DS. I feed her in bed sometimes at night but find that my milk doesn't drain as well in those feeds so prefer to get up and feed on couch if i can. Also, I found it interesting that even tho i am bfing exclusively, I went to bed last night without a breast pad and didn't leak at all - hmmmm....
I had a jazsling all lined up to use but when I used it last Sat i realised it is way too big so have sent it back for a smaller one which hopefully will be the right fit. I also changed the colour from black to a stone colour - the black i think will show lint and muck a lot easier.
welcome officially deb, kim, purplemamma, seena, gincasa - looking forward to getting everyone's imput about their babies in here. I am not a first time mum but still feel i have room to learn.
jo - love your pics of your family on fb!!!
seena - going to try and totally bf April only cos like jo i don't want anything interfering with bf, and things totally were stuffed when i had DS - we were all over the shop. Hopefully my aim is to feed less at night with adquate bf supply and more during the day.
gincasa - how are you hun? I took April to local shopping centre when she was 9 days old and bf at gloria jeans with a muslin wrap to cover - I felt good about it all. Then we took her to my aunt's 50th last weekend which was fine cos lots of family were there for cuddles - feeding pattern went a bit out of the window tho. Looking forward ot catching up.
As for DTD, I am strictly waiting for the 6weeks go-ahead. We have not yet talked about contraception, whether we want more kids, etc etc. Just not ready for all that yet when sleep deprivation is not making me think too clearly.
kirsten - glad you do not feel guilty about ff ryley - as you shoudn't. I had a terrible time with DS and almost asked my mum and sil for permission to stop bfing at 10 weeks - I was a wreck - so I applaud you doing the right thing early for your bub and you.
Big hugs to everyone - my little one is screaming her lungs out so I guess it's milk time!!!
Well JD's cord has just come off completely. DH sent me out for a quick trip to the shops to pick up a few things and when I got back he had this ****ty look on his face and I know why cause JD was gutzing his milk down again and projectile vomited it everywhere, the couch, DH , the floor , all over himself and we honestly dont know what to do. How do we make him slow down?
Also I stress when he cries, I freak out thinking why can't I help him. Is he hungry, tired, sore tummy, lonely... Is this normal for me to be so overwhelmed? Also I guess it doesn't help that I missed my nanna nap this afternoon. I just can't settle when the house looks like a bomb hit it and I feel incredible guilt for having to rely on DH so much.
Are you using a newborn teat? It will have a smaller hole in it than 3-6 and 6-12 month teats. I think you said you were using the NUK ones? I have a NUK pump that came with the bottle and I couldn't use the bottle for Noah because the milk came out way too fast for him. How about feeding JD for half a bottle and then burping him and then feeding the other half and burp as usual. Xavier is a big spewer himself and apparently you don't need to burp a b/f baby but I find I need to for him unless I want to wear the milk. Try not to stress too much about the crying, it is the only form of communication they have. Just go down the list, has he been fed? Has he got a dirty nappy? Does he have trapped wind? (try burping for a minute or gently cycle his legs to get rid of farts ) If all of the above have been tried he may just need a cuddle. I feel you on not being able to rest with a messy house either so I can't help you there I know exactly what you mean about having to rely on a partner though, I am going to freak when Juz goes back to work. We can freak out together
Plc1805-Thanks I am glad I made my decision early..Glad BF is going well..
LMS-hehe..Thanks love..
Quick question (sorry girls) its going to be warm in Melbourne tomorrow what should I put on Ryley so I don't overheat him or anything..I need some suggestions about the packing the nappy bag besides the essentials: nappies, wipes, nappy sacks, sudocream, bottles, formula dispenser..What else do you suggest we be gone for a couple of hours and going via public transport..Thanks girls..
Gincasa I took Belle out the day we got home in fact we have been out every day since we have been home. She has been to the local shops (walk), supermarket, Park, BMX track, my parents, friends and relatives, medicare and a tile shop. That's quite a lot of outings for 1 week so no I definitly don't think 10 days is too early to take her out.
Puppies In the 'old days' mothers where told to used metho, but they tell you to only use water now. Not sure what the reasoning is for not using metho anymore though. I guess nature takes care of it and you don't need it ???
Don't feel guilty about relying on DH. It's nerve wrecking and hard going being a first time mum I remember feeling anxious quite a bit when we first got home with DS, but I am sure you will soon feel more relaxed about it. LikeLMS crying is the only way they can communicate so try not to let it upset you too much.
1st time mum09 Just dress bub's in similar clothes to what you are wearing. If it's shorts and singlet weather dress bub's the same. Nappy bag ~ I cannot live without hand sanitsing gel for when you need to do nappy changes and there are no taps around. Muslim/cloth wraps for swaddling, protecting from sun, covering when bf'ing, a change mat protector, spew cloth ~ they have many uses. Spare clothes and extra bottles & formula incase you are longer than you thought. That's all I can think of at the moment.
Is anyone else's bub's loving the bath? DS hated it when he was a newborn, but Belle is so relaxed and blissed out in the bath that she just about fall's asleep. DS is having a sleep over with her tonight (in the bed next to her basinnet) he refused to sleep in his own room he had to be next to his baby sister. He is being so gentle and caring with her it's AWESOME.
Kirsten the girls have already given you some great pointers on things to take. I love having muslin wraps as they are soft yet protection from everything as well. I always go with bubs needing one extra layer than us and then they are right, so am dressing Ruby for hot weather but will have a wrap perhaps loosely draped over her..am continually feeling her hands and feet to see if shes too hot or cold.
Amanda its so normal to be overwhelmed and it definately can take time to work out what bubby is communicating. Like LMS has already suggested, check the teat as it may be coming out too fast for him. I still tend to burp Ruby over my shoulder inbetween sides just to make sure she hasnt gulped too much as I have a fast let down, so maybe the burping inbetween a feed will help JD. Definately no metho either...OUCH
Seena Ruby loves her bath as well. She has had two baths with Livvy and Sammy as well and has enjoyed that more than in her little bath. I think they like being quite submerged..like in the womb!
PLC thanks for the photo comment..very proud mummy here!
Gincasa we got out of hospital when Ruby was 3 days old and went out from 5 days old. We have been to the shops, park, and cinema already. I put her in her sling and she just seems to look around and fall asleep so is quite relaxed. She doesnt mind the car at all...have window covers so the sun isnt able to get her and she just sleeps in there. Weve also gone walking with her in her pram as well locally and she is quite happy in there as well. Its nice to get out when you feel ready.
Little darling is sleeping soundly..kids are watching a movie..Darren is djing a wedding...all is quite..bliss!
Things have really picked up in here! Good to hear everything is going well for everyone. I am typing with one hand whilst DS naps on me, so I will keep this pretty short
We are going really well, so busy tho! BF'ing takes up so much time, but i am determined to persevere. Sleep is pretty limited, but we are hanging in there. All in all cannot complain - our boy is bringing us so much joy! Oh and the constant phone calls and visitors are starting to slow down now - thankfully!
A question for the BF'ing mummies - last night DS wouldn't settle after one of his feeds. I tried burping him for ages and nothing would come up. He kept making like a gasping sound and a few grunts like he was trying to burp but nothing would come up? That is the first time he hasn't gone straight back to sleep after a night feed. Any ideas what i could have done to help or should i just chalk it up as 'one of those nights'??
lilcosmo - it could very well be one of those nights.... how long did it take for him to settle in the end? if the sleep gets the better of me, I have found bringing bub in bed with me helps - mainly from a comfort point of view which helps to settle them. If you tried that and he was still unsettled, im not sure what to suggest over than walking him around. btw I have found a great fool proof burp getter is to pop bub's chest sort of high on the shoulder, keep their legs long and just push bottom up gently and back into you gently. basically this helps the oesophagus to straighten for want of a better way to say it..... let us know how you go.
So til i can find alot of time theres going to be a few 'me' posts...sorry in advance!
Zach is going well. Had another check up today....up 140grams in 2 days since last check..now 75 grams off birth weight. His jaundice is now at K1....was K2 on Saturday so boobie is helping him alot
He is a champ at sleeping....rarely cries...a really boobie boy and hates bottles with top up formula in it...LOL
His umbilical cord dropped off today...so day 4 and im sooo much happier. Looks like he will have an outie button due to when he was passed between my legs it was pulled a little...so got a umbilical hernia....but is ok....his cute a cute belly
Im going to write up my birth story tomorrow and really looking forward to sharing it.
Thanks everyone that gave me tips about the Nappy Bag..
Kim-glad Zach is settling in well..
seenabeena-Ryley likes the bath one minute then he hates it It's like when I am changing him he can be quiet but sometimes he is screaming. Lol.
Jo-glad things are going well..
lilcosmo-glad your okay..
Hello to everyone else..
AFM-My first outing went really well getting on and off the train was a bit hard but I had dad's help I hope I be okay when I go out on my own because the platforms are pretty low..Good to see my nan after 20 years and she was smitten with Ryley as well and so were his 2 great great aunts. Glad to be home its so hot and I think I be in for a bad night cos Ryley hates the heat and speaking of Ryley his has the hiccoughs at the moment Have the MCHN coming tomorrow for the first visit and then I be going down to see them I am going to ask about the mothers group thing I wouldn't mind joining one.
Sorry I've been a bit quiet, just had so much on with visitors and all! Having 2 kids now is keeping me lots more busy!
Well we had a bad night for the first time, Harley woke for a BF at 7.30pm, was on for a good half hour, managed to get him down and have a shower and got into bed and no more then 2 mins later he is upset and wouldn't settle. Thought he had wind, so tried burping him, but no such luck, but he was sucking away at my arm and his fingers, so I thought maybe he didn't get enough, so back to the chair we went and tried again, was on for prob another 20mins and fell asleep, I thought great, we might all get some sleep now...and again 2mins after getting into bed he is upset again...so think hmmm maybe try the other side... cos I know he falls asleep abit on the boob, so went in for another 30mins on that side and again hes falling asleep at the end and I thought surely this time he will go down...but nope, then I thought maybe he had to much and had a real belly ache, but he just kept sucking at his fingers and the dummy was getting a good workout..and then the tears just came..my baby blues kicked in...I started feeling like a failure again, that I wasn't giving him enough and my boobs just hurt so much and my nipples are cracked...but I just really wanted to give this a shot and I have my SIL who seems to look down on me and I just had all these images of her saying I'm a failure... Rob was just so good, was calming me down, and I said, I really wish I had got a tin of formula just to be on the safe side, and we had no 24hour chemists around. Then it came to me that Nina next door had formula cos her lil boy is now on the bottle...I just wanted to give Harley a top up..so looked to see if their lights were on...was 11.30pm and yeh the lights were on. So called Nina and she was like I'm over right away, cos I just burst into tears...she came over and we topped him up and she then showed me how to wrap him in a muslim wrap (didn't get shown at the hospital) and he settled nicely...although after a good burp and poop!
So I was so greatful for Nina...she said anytime...
I got a breast pump today and well the right boob got all this blood coming out...and then when the blood part had gone thru, I only got 30mils from that side and about 40mils from the other...Looks very watery, like I'm not getting the thick stuff. My midwife is coming tomorrow, so will talk to her about it...This happened last time, my supply just wasn't enough... So looks like I'm heading down the formula trail again...but I'm not going to beat myself up over it...will wait till she comes tomorrow to decide on anything...
Just a question though, will it hurt him to have a bit of both? Like I'm thinking I'll give him the booby juice I got out next feed...Just don't want to upset him...
So glad everyone is going well with their babies... so wish we could all meet up... Are there any other mums here in Brissy? I don't think their are... Oh wells, I'm just glad we have support thru here
Ok well I'm gonna head off...time to do a few things.. oh just before I head off, went to the shops for the first time today and boy do my joints need some exercise hehe
Is it normal to take up to an hour or hour and half to settle after a feed or nappy change? Do you think JD is picking up on my lack of confidence?
We have his ultra sound tomorrow morning at 9.45 for his kidneys, not looking forward to that at all! i hope he is in a good mood tomorrow. It took me ages to settle him this morning. He woke for a fed at the usual 4am and it was 6am before I got back into bed. I would settle him so I thought and then 10 minutes later he is winging again and I have to pick him up ad cradle him some more until he falls asleep again. Is this normal.
I am going to try and get a nap in now before DH comes home from work. He is going to do the night shift tonight so I am looking forward to a sleep tonight.
As for the feeding. Its a new born teat, and it doesn't seem to matter what teat I use especially my breast. Cause he gets impatient if it takes too long to come out and my nipples were squirting milk like a water pistol down his throat so he was gagging on that. Now I am pumping and feeding him via bottle so I can regulate what he is getting and stop and start him for burp breaks about 5 to 6 with each 100 ml feed.
Also little bugga hasn't done a poo all day yet, hope he is not constipated... but he is sleeping nicely now so off I go for a nap.
Hey Amanda...I'm using the Karicare Gold atm for Harley, and he seems to enjoy it..although had some nice spews from him hehe
Hope the ultrasound goes well... and yeh it can take over an hour to settle bubs.. and yes they do pick up on any stress u have...I know that was my problem last night with Harley, after a few feeds when he wouldn't settle I just was stressing bad!!
Harley went a couple of days without pooing but that was before last night, and I was told breastfed babies can either poo every nappy, or go up to 10days without poo, cos they don't get constipated...
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