Babies Born January 2008 #4

[Mad Scientist]

Hi ladies,

Amy has fed every two hours for since 4.30 this morning. How can so much food fit into such a little person....oh that's right, she's pooing every two hours too! Hehehe. She seems to get bad wind too but I do get burps out of her every now and then. Before she poos she squirms and sometimes has a little whinge. It makes me worry she's constipated but when it comes out it's runny so she just musn't like the feeling of her bowels moving. Poor little thing.

Now, may I vent a bit? I'm starting to wish I hadn't tried so hard for this breast feeding thing because Mark is putting so much pressure on me. I'm thinking that I might try to make it to 3 months doing the whole breast then top up thing and then wean. When I said that to him today he made me feel guilty. He keeps saying even if there's only a little bit of milk in there we should be making sure Amy is getting it, but seriously it's taking forever to feed her and I don't think I can do it long term. I only gave her a bottle last night at one feed to see the time difference between both and it takes half an hour less if I only feed her formula. She's starting to take bigger and bigger top ups too so it's not as if my milk supply is increasing. Men just don't understand even a little bit how difficult it can be to breast feed and the pressure you feel to perform. I don't know what to do because everyone would just say "talk to him about it" but I've been so emotional lately that I think he would just get frustrated with me because I've tried so hard to get here and he doesn't understand why I want to give it up. I'm sorry to vent all this here but I just don't know what to do. Maybe I can talk to Mark's mum (who's a midwife) and she can hint to him or something that maybe she thinks I should think about weaning......It's not as if this is a big deal in the whole scheme of things but it's making me really unhappy and I just want things to be as normal as possible so we can enjoy Amy rather than feeding continuing to be such an issue!!! He keeps saying that I should eat more but I just don't feel like it! I've never had a huge appetite and things haven't changed. I feel like he's always watching me!Ahhhhhhh!!!

Sorry for the vent ladies. I just really needed to get this off my chest to some women who are actually at the same stage of motherhood as me! I feel like I have no one to talk to about it because no one truly understands even if they try to!

Well, after all that, I'm going to go because I've overdone it properly. Thanks ladies for listening xx Luv Nik and Amy

[Mad Scientist]

Jess - I love Jaylen's bath pics. So gorgeous. He's a very handsome little boy :-)

[_JeSs_]

nik - aw u poor thing, dont worry, u can vent here, thats what we're here 4!!! i know theres sooo much pressure for woman to breastfeed! its not as easy as everyone thinks! yer maybe talk to his mum? my mum would be putting pressure on me if it wasnt going so well, cuz she breastfed me and it was very easy for her, and she breastfed me till i was like 3 lol AND she didnt get sore or anything.. and she always says to me she doesnt know why ANYONE gives their babies formula... somehow i dont think i will ever be able to get jaylen off the boob without a lecture from her.. i dont know how long i will wanna breastfeed for, even though its going well its still hard? like i have to watch what eat, cant have a drink every now and then, nipples stick out all the time and rub on my bra (well the breastpads lol) and hurt.. hurts most time when he latches on for a few seconds ect ect ect... guys and people who havent had trouble wouldnt understand!
thanks bout the pics!! lol he does look pretty cute in the bath

[jenjams]

Nik- Vent away. It may make you feel better to get it off your chest. You have done everything possible to breastfeed successfully. Breastfeeding is not for everyone and as Jess says it is HARD. You have the initial sore nipples when you are trying to work out how it all works. Then you leak everywhere, even through the breast pads. And then the first few sucks makes you want to cry. Some people would have given up a lot earlier than you. I say talk to Marks mum. She would know what you would have done to keep up your supply. Plus I am sure Mark would rather a happy wife and DD as opposed to sad ones. There is nothing wrong with formula and you have exhausted every angle. Plus wouldnt Mark giving Amy a bottle give him pleasure?

Jess- How is your leakage going? If Amber goes 3 hours or more without a feed, I am leaking all over the shop. I even leaked through the pads last night.

[_JeSs_]

aww the v8 supercar driver ashley cooper died b4 so sad he left behind a wife and two little kids...

jen - totally agree with everything u said about breastfeeding lol! my leakage is annoying lol, i too leak through breastpads if he goes too long without feeding, and when i put my bra down to feed him i have to latch him on quickly or i leak all over his face or arm or something lol

[_JeSs_]

well we're all quiet in here 2night! getting some sleep i hope lol...
Jaylens been pretty unsettled all day, not wanting to go to sleep after a feed... o well i cant complain, hes good 90% of the time hehe!

omg has anyone seen that speeding ad, where they show pics of people who have been killed by speeding and its got their parents ect crying and a sad song ect? omg i just seen it then and balled!!

well i might go lie on the couch, jaylen usually goes to sleep at about 9 or 10 but hes starting to settle now i think, and i wont get to sleep if i go to bed now...

[JCE0810]

Jess- yeah very quiet in here. Ive been spending quality time with Chris he's on night shift until Wednesday night and Sophies been sleeping between feeds so we've been watching House DVDs AGAIN haha, thankgod theres only 2 more discs to go and then he'll have to wait for season 4 to come out on DVD. Whincup godd@mit!, Holden cant seem to shake him haha, RIP to the driver that died and hopefully the other drivers that are in hospital get well soon.

Nik- vent away dont hold back. Mark needs to understand why you cant keep BF, you need to make the best decision for both you & Amy. Chris hasnt been pushy with me BF he just wants me to Sophie for as long as i can and has agreed we should give her formula if i'm not full enough or if she needs a top up.

Jen- Sounds like Amber has had a better day today i hope she kept it up over the afternoon and that she has a good night for you. Bummer that you cant give anything to Amber to help with the wind, hopefully she passes it all as Sophie was bawling the night she had bad wind. Today when ive fed Sophie and gone to burp her shes brought it up herself and ive tried to burp her anyway incase there was more but nope shed done it herself. Last night she pushed the bottle out of her mouth and to my suprise tried to put it back in.

Where's Kate, Tiff, Mel and several other lovely ladies i havent seen in here today.

Sophie's asleep now so going to try and have my chops & Mash potato that i managed to cook while she was dozing off and Chris was still home. Will bbl.