No I agree Bel, about not letting them run riot, I know there is a few honest cases of ADD, but in my opinion a lot of them are really ADD ( Anti Discipline Disorder) On the days I am unwell, or tired, I dont seem to be bothered to keep an eye on the discilpine, and they turn feral, and misbehave, if I am on the ball, and monitoring their behaviour, correcting it as needed they dont seem to get too far gone, and are fairly well behaved. So I figure if you cant be bothered at all ( and it is easier to do nothing than discipline, as healthy discipline is hard work) I think your kids would be feral all the time YKWIM??????
Anyway that is just Mine and DH's opinions, its hard work to discipline with love and understanding, but it is also one of the most important things we can do for our kids.

Bel, good luck with the trying / not trying, I hope Coby is better real soon, ans that the antis work.

Oh almost forgot, It wonderful (NOT) but Dion ( smartypants) has learnt how to open the back door ( sliding) we installed a security door, to keep Rianna in, but if she's in bed, I dont always have it closed, and Dion got out today, Dh was in the back yard cleaning out the guines pigs cage, and who comes a crawling!!!! So gonna have to keep the security door shut 24/7 UGH!!! It took the other kids til they were nearly 2 to figure it out!!!!