Bath - love the new ticker, the countdown is on. Are you excited to be turning 40? Do you have any exciting birthday plans? Marley, Oscar & Nathan are all on Friday, not sure if there is any in between.
Tali - new place sounds beautiful, all that space. You might have to take up quad bike riding lol!!! Good luck with the packing, it's not fun but your new life awaits.
Had some sad news today. My nan passed away this morning, peacefully in her sleep aged 90. She had her 90th birthday in April and had a ball. Glad she got to celebrate that and I'm relieved she went peacefully. I'm just really hoping that her funeral is not on Friday. I didn't want to have to celebrate a birthday the same day as a funeral. Nan was very adament about her resting place. She wants her ashes scattered at Port Melbourne pier. She always told us for as long as I can remember. Even my brother remembered (and he doesn't remember much!!!). My other major concern is seeing my mum at the funeral, who I've had absolutely nothing to do with in over 10 years. Its a very messy situation with her and I really don't want to have to see her again. My brothers are both worried too. I don't think I will be taking the girls with me as I don't want my mum seeing them. I have told Chelsea that my mum died a long time ago (well she is dead to me really) as it was far to difficult to explain to her the real situation. I don't want her to cause trouble, which is more than likely and I don't want the girls being any part of it. Is that horrible???
Tricky situation, Mel I hope it's not on Friday. Given what you've already told Chelsea, it's probably best not to take her, or else you'll have some explaining to do before-hand and leave it up to her to process adult logic, KWIM?
Bath - was Sale just lovely? Great for Niall to celebrate with family
Tali - even though it's rented, it sounds awesome!
Just uploading photos from my camera, sinking back into real life. I got home tonight to a very grateful but sick little boy. I guess I must have missed him! He got some goodies out of the trip, anyway
Have to get to bed soon...
Mel- I just wanted to say that I am really sorry to hear about your Nan. I also would not be inclined to take the girls given the situation. Maybe you and the girls and DH can have your own goodbye ceremony for her that is more kid friendly and less involved in family politics. Maybe once her ashes are spread at Port Melbourne you could go down with the girls at sunset have dinner, and maybe float some flowers or some candles out, or get the girls to write her a little note or draw her a picture and put them in a bottle and send them out to be with her ashes. Good luck with it all.
The funeral is on Friday, my poor aunty forgot that it was Marley's birthday. Oh well, we'll just have to celebrate her birthday on Saturday. Lucky she isn't really old enough to work out what day her birthday is. The funeral is at 2pm, over the other side of town and thankfully MIL will look after the girls.
Maya - your pics look fantastic, you look fantastic! Loving that baby bump. It looked like it was nice and sunny for you. Did you enjoy Eumundi market?
Ali - that sounds like such a beautiful idea - thank you! I will definately be doing that.
Still freaking out about seeing my mum after all these years. My brothers and I have all decided to just stick together and keep out of her way and if she tries to speak to us, then just walk away. Last thing we want is to cause a scene, but she will probably enjoy that!!! Fingers crossed it all goes ok.
Mel: about your mum, I would love to chat over a cuppa with you about her. I can so very relate. My relationship with my mother could so easily be similar to yours. Most days it also feels like I have no mother.... and every time we spend time with her it hurts, because she basically lacks compassion... everything has to be about "her" and in her mind children are not as important as adults and should learn to fit in with the needs of adults (not the other way around ). Some days I wonder if it wouldn't be better to cut her out of my (and my children's) life but from experience i know that that makes it harder for me to live in peace. I don't want to go on about my sitch too much in here but please know that I am here to talk to. With the school hols coming up you and the girls are most welcome to come over. I'm sure Verity wouldn't mind taking them outside for a while so we can chat. Like Maya said, it's a tricky one... all i can do is share my experience... and offer you my understanding
Thanks so much Bath - your kind words always make me feel better. I'm sure we could talk for hours about it. It will be nice to talk to someone who understands it, most of my friends have such wonderful mothers its hard for them to relate. They sound very similiar with regards to being selfish and its one thing I have made sure I'm not (along with all her other bad traits that I have tried to avoid!). I keep thinking its only one day I have to be near her and then that's it. I always knew this day would come and was hoping she would still be living overseas and wouldn't be able to afford to return - wishful thinking! I would love to catch up over the school holidays. I am hoping to get a few days off so will let you know.
Mel I just wanted to drop in and wish you all the best for today, i hope you are able to find happy tears for the wonderful memories you have as well as the sad tears for what you have lost. I also hope that your mum realises this day is not about her, but about someone loved by everyone and allows you to say your goodbyes without any drama. Will be thinking of you today!
I hope it's not on Friday. Given what you've already told Chelsea, it's probably best not to take her, or else you'll have some explaining to do before-hand and leave it up to her to process adult logic, KWIM?
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