Babies Born May 2006 #3

[~Kim~]

Oh Adam, sweety hope you feel better soon. WHose idea was it to have a baby right before winter??? We all seem to have bugs.

OMG the IL have just told DH that they think they should be seeing the baby more, looking after her one day a week, I should be visiting their family more, we are underfeeding her and that she should be on solids and formula, that I shouldn't be seeing y family so much, that we should let them hold her more, that I should be home when they want to visit, that we are keeping her from them and that we didn't buy his brother an engagement present! DH is so upset (and sick) he is not coping well. I want to ring and say how dare they make their child so upset just because they aren't getting what they want. Who are the parents? I want to say how dare they tell me how to parent and whom I should see and when (their own children are ALL obese - so we'll be listening to their dietarty advice - NOT). As as for they should be looking after her....MIL is so fat she can't put her own shoes on or carry out the washing and FIL had a hip replacement so reckons he can't walk anywhere (Yes they have a disabled pass)...would you leave a small child with her??? We got in trouble for patronising his sister who only speaks in a baby voice and does everything we ask her not to, and they expect to hold the Christening when none of their children are chirstend baptised or otherwise nor have god parents! She said why do I spend so much time with my mum and that she's a mum too? She's not my mother nor did I ever ask her to be - they screwed up their own children (besides DH) she's not haivng a go at mine. Added to that they seem to have forgotten that in the last ten years DH gave them $30000 cos they had no money and bought them a car and a washing machine. They've never offered us anything cos they think we're rich cos we have nice things. Not to mention that we've worked hard for those thins and some weeks only have $10 in the bank...

I am so sorry, but I need to get it off my chest. Aren't parents supposed to be more concerned with the welfare of thier own children rather than hurt them to get what they want? My mum can't believe they are being so childish and neither can I. Now poor Cam everytime he looks at Darcy he is reminded how awful they feel about me. I've told hime they aren't coming here anymore and I wont' be going there. The poor thing wants to go and find a country spot to get away from them. I can't believe how different he is from his entire family.

Really sorry again. Feels better to let it out. Don't know what we're going to do about it though. Do you think it would be rude to write them a letter?