What a gr8 morning you have had Shazz - whahoooo............
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I take my hat off to you Shazz, studying is not easy, esp after so long, that is what I found.
Tania - what a bugger on the bad night, hope you get to go home at lunch and rest and hope you both get better soon. Your scan is coming up, how exciting.
Sara - same thing happened to Wade's Aunt, had all the pains but had so many tests and she was fine. Could have sworn she was getting close to a heart attack or stroke, but nope all good and that was a year ago now. I think it is like breast cancer even though you have pains in your boobs does not mean you have breast cancer IYKWIM.
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What a gr8 morning you have had Shazz - whahoooo............
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kim - yeah, i kep trying to convince myself that i wont suffer any side effects, although weight loss is a side effect i think i could live with LOL
sheree - yes they are anti depressants, its god to hear that they helped you and didn't give you too many side effects. I think thats what we payed for our Dyson as well, is yours an upright or a barrel? We have the barrel and love it
shazz - looking at the work is so daunting isn't it! There are always ttors that you can talk to though so you will be just fine. Fantastic weight loss and great news about the voucher!
sara - how did the girls go at Brent's aunty's? I am so not going to cope when cc starts in a week and a halfI have to be strong though as he needs cc just a much as i do. Gggrrr at your selfish mum, some people!! how exciting about the new computer, bet you are hanging ut for broadband now
tania - i dont know how onearth you can function on so little sleep. i hope you and Jayden start feeling better soon, give all your germs to Chris, he deserves them atm hehe he, although then he'll probably whinge and whine all the time if he's anything like Jay!
i have had a great morning, went to the library and playground with Archie who behaved very well. Not sure what we'll d this arvo though, i am very bored.....
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I've come home for lunch but as usual I feel guilty if I don't go back and say I'm sick.
I just got off the phone to Chris, I burst into tears as soon as I got off the phone....He frustrates me so much! I told a guy at work that I think I'd be much better off without him....I am such a calm person until Chris is around, as soon as Jayden does something I'm the one getting in trouble over it. Last night it was my fault he was crying, I should have calmed him down quicker! I know I keep saying it but I don't know how much more I can take....I don't want to be with him anymore, he is obviously not going to change. Sorry for the vent, I'm probably sensitive from have no sleep and sorry no personals.
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Ours is a barrell Elissa.
OMG Tania you poor thing, stay home and rest. I didn't realise things were so bad between you and Chris, but only you can make that decision honey to break up. I am always here for you, if you need to talk, please call me - I am so worried about you. xoxo
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tania - :hugs:, things don't sound too well between the two of you atm. We're here to listen and provide support.
sara - glad your mum's ok. The getting angry bit sounds like my sister. Just ignore it.
sheree - I brought a new vacuum yesterday. Nearly got they dyson but at $1000 for the one I wanted, couldn't do it. We could have got it for $200 less but instead I went for a similar one but electrolux. Managed to get it for $600 and that was with a discount. Gotta love having friends in electrical stores. The vacuum is fantastic and so quiet. God, I need a life getting excited about cleaning things.
elissa - sounds like the Drs visit went well. Lucky finding the toy again too. Hayley has a bear that we have lost a number of times but always managed to get it back. Its been lost at the shops, park etc but is always there when we go back. Good thing too cause she never like the back up bear.
shazz - well done, sounds like a lucky day.
Nothing much happening here. Just cleaning my pigsty of a house.
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Sounds gr8 Vic. There was a special on ours where you paid $749 and we just have to send a coupon away for 3 extra attachments. A blind cleaner, an over the edge cleaner and deep stain cleaner attachment. Don't worry I am excited about ours too now, only wish lachlan wasn't so scared of Vaccum cleaners, I could go rank atm!
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tania - just remember that we are all here for you to support you always, huge hugs
vic - Archie had a toy Tigger that went everywhere from birth til a couple of month ago, then all of the sudden he saw this toy dog and Tigger was out, him and the dog have been inseperable ever since! Talk about pigstys, i haven't actually gven this place a decent clean or vaccum for wel over a week, will ahve to do something about it saturday or i might go insane.
had a great day today, anxiety was nothing like it has been i have been able to stop the anxious thoughts as soon as i start thinking them, really weird, haven't been able to so that in so long, i just hope it keeps up. Bit worried about tonight though as Jay isn't home from work til 4am, im sure i'll be fine.
gggrrrr Archie wont go to sleep
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It is gr8 you had a good day Elissa, one day at a time.
lachlan put on such a big turn 2nite, would not eat his dinner. So disappointing cause 2 nights in a row he has eaten what we were eating and I thought we were on a roll - NOT TO BE. He spotted his milk in the fridge and wanted it right nor wrong, we ignored his crying for 15mins, but he got so worked up that even when wade gave into him with the milk he didn't want it then as he was so worked up. He looses the plot sometimes and gets so worked up he doesn't even know what he was thumping head on the ground for. Geez....... He has done this twice of recent times, and some milder cases too, but similar - THE TERRIBLE TWO'S ARE UPON US I THINK!!!!!
Bought some newborn outfits for Riley when I was in Mackay last and got to wash them today. Ohhhh so nice, I love that smell.....
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sheree - lachlans huge tantys sounds exactly like Archies huge tantys at times, they just lose all control and end up having no idea what the reason for the outburst was! And so many parents have told me the the threes are even worse.....it must be incredibly frustrating for you when he wont eat his dinner. oooo at the newborn outfits, there is nothing like the smell of your own newborn baby.
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I need some advice.
My sisters just don't get me these days, nor do I get them. They both live in Brisbane and I am so on the outer. It doesn't worry me too much, but at times, like what I am about to explain - it really peaves me!!!
Anyway the sister I don't get along with the best, in the next one under me (Nik), but then Mel the youngest we normally get along well. It is Mel's birthday on 18th April and she is having a party on the 26th. I keep asking her if Kids are allowed and she said it was my call but it is at a pub. My sister Nik is having her baby (we were both pregnant together and I m/c) on roughtly the 14th April so by the time the party comes around she will have her nearly 4 year old and new born. I keep asking Mel if I was to come what happens with Lachlan and giving me absolutely no options and yet to this point she has nagged and nagged me to come. I normally stay with Nik, but there is no way I am staying with a newborn when I have more time to get sleep before Riley arrives. My aunt and uncle will be there too and Mel is quite close to them and I asked Mel - well what are they doing and she says she doesn't know and doesn't offer to find out. At this point i am annoyed that I want to organise myself now or I am not coming. It is hard to take Lachlan out with me these days (I end up chasing him the whole night) and I don't want to leave him with anyone either (not that that option has been given to me anyways). If I was to take lachlan I would want to go home early, but relying on their transport that is impossible hence another reason why I wouldn't be able to take lachlan either. I just know my sisters too well that this will all blow up in my face later and they will ask why I didn't come. I need to organise flights now not later and I need to know in advance what is happening. I texted Nik tonight and asked if She was taking Amber and Aiden and she answered back a straight no - then I said well ok, now you have said that I won't be coming and she answers "oh". WTF!!!!!! I thought she may of atleast said her partners mum was looking after the kids and lachlan could stay there but nothing!!!!!!!!!! So I am sick of this crap and put my foot down - I AM NOT GOING!!!!!!!!! Is that unreasonable. There is alot of history with my family but mainly have issues with Nik not Mel, but it just irks me how she nagged and nagged me to come and now nothing. The thing is I had planned to go onto Warrick from Bundaberg after a Wedding and then go onto Brissy for the party. Now I am going Bundaberg to Warrick and then home and boy if my sisters get wind of this they will be at my throat - I can just see it - esp seeing as Nik will be upset I came that far and didn't come to see her Newborn. Arrrggghhh I know what I want to do and that is not to go, but I am afraid they will make me look like the bad guy - yet again - when I am doing my dardnest to come now...........
SORRY FOR THE VENT - had to get it out - hope it makes sense I am very flustered and furious at present!
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Sheree: Either the gestation or the chesty thing I have developed! I haven't been sick in ages so hopefully it only lasts a couple of days. Chris doesn't realise things are so bad between us, he chooses not to listen when I tell him how I'm feeling and when I am trying to work things out. Hope Lachie snaps out of all this not eating thing soon! I haven't bought anything for the baby yet except a box of nappies....too hard when I don't know what it is. Is your sister's bday a special on like 30th or something? I wouldn't worry about going if its not, if they don't understand that's their problem....Its a long way to go.
Kim: Well done on your 3000th post, but looks like they have done a clean up and you get to do it all over again.
Shazz: Well done on your weight loss! Are you going to go through IVF? Well done on getting that guy caught! Did you buy yourself a lotto ticket??
Elissa: I can only function on so little sleep because I have to, no one else here will help out...despite what Chris said (Jayden hasn't slept a full night in 1.5yrs!) It isn't often that I get only a couple of hours sleep. Yay for the great morning!
Vic: Yay for the new vacuum! I'd love a quieter vacuum but there is nothing wrong with mine so no excuse to buy one yet.
I went shopping last night and bought Jayden his first (new) doona cover and sheet etc, just waiting for his car bed to get here so I can put it on, I am so excited! I spent up a bit last night, I seem to do that when I'm angry at Chris haha.
I got a full nights sleep last night thank goodness! So I am not as emotional today but Chris & and are barely talking still, suits me ATM. Scan isn't far away, I'm prepared that I will be going on my own as Chris doesn't want to take an hour off work...I won't push him, I'm beyond caring now. Sorry...TMI warning.........I went to bed with terrble stomach pains, I eventually went off to sleep but woke at 2.30am with the runs! Not sure why but is ok now. My niece and SIL both were vomiting the past couple of days so maybe I caught something from them?? As long as it stays away now haha.
Thank god its Friday!! We are going to the pub after work, drinks for the new service manager (lets hope he stays), no drinking for me obviously...but should be good anyway.
Have a great Friday!
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sheree - If your going to warwick then I would probably just stop by to say hello and see the new baby. If they ask why your not going to the party just say that you have no-one to care for lachie and you don't want to spend the night chasing him. If they don't offer a soloution then thats their problem. I'm over my family atm too.
tania - probably just caught a bug or something. Don't worry, DH and I aren't talking atm either. Must be something in the air. Apparently its a full moon.
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Sorry yes it is her 30th Birthday, forgot to mention that. There is alot of history with me and my family and I am sick of chasing them and they never come to see me so that is in the back of my mind. I knew my emotions were taking over though, hence why I asked for advice - THANKS GIRLS. See realistically in the back of my mind I am being spitful too cause I know for a fact Nik won't come and see my newborn, nor does she ever come to any special occasions (like Lachlan's birthday) and previously I have made every effort to be at all of her special occasions, but of recent years I have put a stop to it as I am sick of being used. See I just wish that the bubs hadn't been born yet either (spiteful I know), cause then it will look like I am yet again doing something for Nik. Sorry I told you there was history and lots of it, I could go on 4eva. To get from Warrick to Brisbane I will have to hire a car, then I don't know my way around, all these things by myself with Lachlan just scares me too. But I guess somehow, someway I will have to find a way to go, just wish Wade was with me!!!!
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sheree - the situation with your sisters not ever making an effort to come and see you sounds so familiar, my mums family have very rarely come over here to visit us, its always us going over to them even when we cant afford it etc. I think some people are just 'takers' and some are 'givers', its unfair but it is so common in friendships and relationships! If i were you i wouln't go. My goodness you are going to be very pregnant, you have an extremely energetic toddler, you wont have anyone to help you, you dont know your way around, if i were your sister i would certainly understand your not going. I think its sad that you feel they would be upset at you for not attending the party, there will be plenty more parties in the future where you wont be pregnant or have young toddlers that you will be ablet o attend much more easily. If you do go can you see yourself being able to relax and enjoy everyones company anyway?? theres not much point going all that way if you are just going to be exhausted, frustrated and too busy with Lachlan to be able to enjoy yourself. Sorry you have found yourself in theis predicament, hope you dont ofence to anything i have posted here, i seemed to have had a bit of a rant myself
tania - hope the runs dont continue for you. great tht you got a better nights sleep last night. Enjoy after work drinks
Had fun at playgroup today, Archie wouldn't go to sleep afterwards though, so i let him play out the back for a couple of hours, all of the sudden he just starting bawling and couldn't be consoled, he had somehow fallen over and whacked his elbow on something, there is quite a decent lump poor thing. Just put him down for rest, he went straight to the land of nod.
Dont know if i can go through with childcare again
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evening all
Tania ~i'm here for you too remember that ok and nope not doing IVF again we had 2 attempts fell pg both times first one i MC and 2nd is our bundle of joy Ryan
sheree ~ if you went from warwick to brissie you would probably go straight past me and me i wouldn't chase anyone i know whwere your coming from i've been the chaser for years i would much prefer to be the chasee
well i have been studying for over 12 hours today and OMG i'm drained and i'm only 1/4 the way through the first assigments holy crap
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Gosh and now i will be in trouble for not coming to see you now Shazz will I? Hehe.
I spoke to my dad tonight about it and I said to him "they are making me feel like I making a drama out of it" and he said no you are not! Surely you can get better answers out of them he said. Like when Mel said it is my call if Lachlan comes or not and then Nik answers a straight no answer to my question of askign if her children are going or not and then I say well you have made my decision clear now, I guess I can't come and she says Ohhhhh. I mean seriously they don't care nor want to care. They are use to the Brisbane lifestyle and it is so alien to me. If I was to drive from Warrick to Brisbane, I wouldn't know my way, but would try. I would have to hire a car and not sure if they hire car seats as well with it. Will have to find out. Then I found out tonight, Mum and Dad will be there, so atleast that makes me feel better about taking Lachlan, now it is a case of where do I stay??? Mum and Dad will be sleeping in Nik's lounge room, and we normally stay there, so will have to ask Mel if I can stay there!
So I guess I will now go to the Wedding in Bundaberg for the weekend of the 12th april, then stay for the rest of the week, fly onto toowoomba, wade's sister will pick me up and take me to warrick for 5 days then I will hire a car and drive onto Brisbane and then fly from Brisbane to Emerald at the end of my stay.
I guess I have to be thankful that I don't have another bub and I am better doing this while their aint two, but gee am i gonna be tired.
I totally respect everything you said Elissa, I totally agree, and if I was going to be stubborn like I normally am, I would do exactly what you said, just at this point in time with knowing mum and dad will be there (they can help me) and the fact that my sisters always make me look like the bad guy and I shouldn't stoop to their level - I WILL GO..... I think!!!! hehe
Still trying to work it all out really with regards to car seats for each occasion.
Just to give you a little more idea of the way my sister treats me at times, esp Nik (mel is normally pretty good - but with them both living in Brisbane sense they talk and gang up on me at times). On my visit to Niks in Brissy in December when I went there she told me that I have changed and Mel thinks the same! What tha...... Dad even agreed tonight if anyone has changed it is them. Dad even said Mel will get a big wake up call one of these days when she has kids, she just has no idea that you have to make plans and organise yourself esp seeing as I travel alone these days and like you said Elissa I am pregnant too! Her time will come.....
There is so much more history then that but I think me pointing out these little things gives you all a rough idea.
Anyway changing the subject it was 36 degrees here at 5.30pm this arvo, I would hate to think what it reached thru the day.
Sorry for the big vent lately and thanking you so much to you all for helping me and contributing some ideas, I really appreciate it. Love ya's
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Nah sheree i would hold it against you lol
nite i 'm putting the books away and going to bed pity they didn't give marks on hours put in
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