elissa this worked for us i brought one of the toilet seats that fits over the toilet and it has handles and stairs that he can climb up by himself he loves it casue he is a climber i suppose and as gross as it it is i never shut to toilet door and every time i go he wants to go though now he just goes and puts his seat on and goes by him self then runs out so so proud of himself he hasn't mastered poo's yet he'll hang on until he gets a nappy on it is hard yacker this toilet training and luckily DC has a Toilet training program where they do 3 kids at a time every 15 mins they take them to the toilet ( not sure i would have the patience for that) for the first couple of weeks now they are on to half hour toilet times it seems to be working good luck with it and i'm sure he will get soon enough