Gigi have you found someone to possibly do a birth debrief with?? it may help tremendously and i'm still considering doing that myself, though i do feel heaps better as time passes about my birth, although not a bad birth, just regret having pethidine. feel free to vent whenever ypou like!!
WHO do you do a birth debrief with?

i have asked the midwives (who saw me during preg and for six weeks after labour), i have been told the obstret. who did the emerg. c would not see me (cos i was a once off, not a regular of theirs), so who should i ask?

i feel like no-one who was there (on the day) is interested in telling me anything.

i would LOVE a birthing debrief, don't know how you get one.

Kristy, i have had some interesting "encounters" with ChildYouthHealth in my state too, needless to say, i won't ever go in there again UNLESS i am feeling great, looking my best and bubs is happy. Anything else, i have learnt, 5 min judgements by strangers can be very dangerous. Thank the godess for my parenting support network worker - total opposite, very supportive and not regimented.

lots of other personals i wanted to respond to as well, but parenting support worker will be here in a tic to take me to "Getting to know your baby" class, so must go.

Thanks for making THIS a safe place to talk out wot we need to get out - i appreciate my cyber gals here SO MUCH!!!! (hugs)