Babies Born November 2006 #41

**christy** · June 22nd, 2008, 03:56 PM

Tara IKWYM. I find that is one thing that scares me so much, that PND can go so pear shaped. I think thats why being open & honest about everything we are feeling is the best, that way when we do go a bit "funny" we have each other's support.

**taralee** · June 22nd, 2008, 07:01 PM

well allow me to be open and honest because i just cannot stop worrying at the moment. I feel like if i just write it all out i'll feel better. so feel free to respond or whatever

1) i'm so worried about evie when i go into hospital. so much so that i have really considered having a c-section just so that it can be done in the day and she won't be without dh at night. she only ever wants me and i know how upset she'll be if she wakes in the night and i'm not there
2) it seems that everyone's toddie is chatting except evie. i know she understand everything that is said to her and her comprehension levels are beyond, but she just won't say many words. I feel like thats my fault for some reason
3) i feel guilty because i am so fat and sore and uncomfortable that i can't play with evie as much as i usually would and she seems quite put out by that. i spend ages sitting with her and reading and such. But this last week or so she has become so defiant that i feel like its her way of acting out due to "lack of attention"
4) the pains i have been having lately are soo making me question whether i can do this whole 'giving' birth thing again

ok i think i'm done...screen is blurry from tears so i guess i am!

**tiggerandpooh** · June 22nd, 2008, 08:04 PM

oh babe

I wish you were closer to where i live Hun, I would come and give that hug in person.

Have you been reading her any books about mummy having a baby, and becoming a big sister? That can help. I do know what you mean about only wanting Mummy - Aston has been like that, even before he was sick. I walk away and its "mummy's gone" or "where's mummy gone" in this tiny little sad voice. When I picked him up from daycare on monday, he did a little dance of glee, and then said to me "Mummy gone" to which I replied, yes mummy did go, but she came back. Does anyone else have evie for you? or can they? just for her to get used to being with someone else and mummy not being there.

As for the mummy guilt hun, you are being very hard on yourself darling. Don't forget that she is right in the middle of toddlerhood, and her antics have more to do with that, then you being pregnant. She is testing your boundaries and seeing what she can and can't get away with. Aston is doing it too - and I'm not pregnant. He has started looking straight at me and doing something that he knows he shouldn't do. I have started using the naughty corner, and leaving him there for a 1min when he does something again after I have told him no. much to my surprise he stays there. initially he didn't but it only took a couple of turns for him to get it.

The talking - how much do you think everyone's elses toddies are saying darlin? I know aston comprehends heaps, and can make his point to me with lots of sign language and body language, more so then words actually. But if you are really concerned, check with your child health nurse. and for the record Einstein didnt' speak until he was four apparently!

I know that it may appear that having a c-section is convienent, but you won't be able to lift evie when you get home for about 6 weeks. Have you thought about having some hypno birthing? I dont know much about it, but they are supposed to be good.

have you done some drawing/playdough/gluing with her? they are all activities that you can do sitting down with her. as I said I wish I was closer, then we could meet at Pioneer Park, and I can run around after the two of them.

There is a goldcoast group of mums that meet up regularly, have you thought about catching up there? they meet regularly, and there are lots of mums that aren't pregnant that I know would be more then happy to give you a hand.

HUGE

darlin.

**taralee** · June 23rd, 2008, 07:32 PM

Thanks guys, my rational brain knows all these things but my female, hormone driven brain is just going nuts!
you know when you just have a feeling that something is going to happen..i've had it all afternoon and am finding it very unnerving.

**christy** · June 23rd, 2008, 07:36 PM

Tara I'm glad you said it. Those are all the same fears I had when pregnant with Jovie. I was freaking out about going into hospital at the "Wrong" time... we survived, Matilda survived better than anyone!!! She went to bed & I went into labour, she woke up and a friend was over & she climbed into bed with our friend. There were jealousy issues, but as Matilda was used to me not doing heaps when I was enormous, she wasn't as worried as I would have thought.

One thing I did was always make sure Matilda had special time with me every day. Even just to go to my bed & read a story together & have a cuddle. Just alone time with mummy everyday. That way I didn't feel terrible when my attention was split.

Jovie chatters heaps more than Matilda ever did. They all develop differently, but Matilda only said 2 words together when she turned 2.

ETA: Man how far away are you? If something happens I'm happy to come down & help.

**Olive** · June 23rd, 2008, 08:16 PM

tara i starting to worry about stuff as well, but thats for another day!

like the others have said kids seem to cope better than us! will evie be looked after in your home while your in labour/hospital? im goinf to make sure my mum looks after sophie here rather than her house so i know she'll be ok.

sophie babbles heaps but most of it completely jibberish! maybe teh last word i'll understand, she sounds just fine to me!

i dont think she minds what games you play, your there with her, thats probably all that matter to her, just do what you can!

i hear you on the second thoughts re labour! OMG waht was i thinking!!!! you can do it!!

US sophie did 3 wees on the potty saturday and one today!! very proud, but sad that she is growing up ;( she's still my baby girl though

**taralee** · June 23rd, 2008, 09:56 PM

Oh Christy you are so sweet! thank you for your offer! you have so much to be dealing with as it is!! but i will keep it in mind

Thanks Jols lol, just know that in 8 months time i'll be able to help you!!

Evie will be looked after her, my MIL will come over when i'm having the baby and she loves nanny so that should be ok. DH will be with her the rest of the time and i've decided worst comes to worst she can stay with me at night in the hospital!
still having some pains..might go have a spa..night everyone

**visitor1** · June 24th, 2008, 02:33 PM

Hugs Tara...you can do it babe....have faith within your body. Your lucky you have family support too.

As for us...Jasmines is sooooo sick...poor thing is coughing, crying spewing, wont sleep, wont be held.

I think the weekend really hit her hard and now 100 times worse then she was on Sunday.

Baptism went sooo well. She passed out (drugged on Nurofen), got some pics on Facebook. Ill be putting them on her main site soon enough for those who dont have FB.

Im not doing to good either, so hanging low for a while....life is hectic and im not good. Craig will be back home full time from mid July..has handed in notice at work.

**taralee** · June 24th, 2008, 08:19 PM

Have faith in your mind Kim

thats good that Craig will be home full time for a while.
All quiet here, mega BH and the feeling like my insides are going to fall out (eeewwww) lol but otherwise all is well

**Olive** · June 25th, 2008, 11:17 AM

how are you today tara?

kim good having Dh home fo r awhile, how long is he having off?
glad the baptism went well!!1 was thinking of you!!
have you told your family about the new bubba yet? and when the scan must be soon!!

**visitor1** · June 25th, 2008, 12:58 PM

Cheeky you Tara....thanks for the SMS too *hugs* How you feeling today.

Kimberley Marchant's Photos - Jasmines Baptism | Facebook (Link to Jasmines baptism pics....remembered there is a public link). Baptism was fantastic. Jas slept, everyone enjoyed the food back here, cake was delish and was good to see the IL's and my olds once again. My friend flew down from NSW to be here and it was special.

Jols Craig will be back home full time, IE: resigned from work...so back to being a SAHD

Only family that know about BumbleBee is my MIL. This is because she wanted to book flights iin Dec so after the girls have been up there for the week, we would fly up and bring them back....but i wont be able to fly then!! So Craig said 'its got to do with your dream Mum'...and then the penny dropped and she got all excited. not sure if i told you the dream..but MIL said to Craig 'Was i dreaming or did Kim saying she was having another baby'....not so long ago!!

I am 12 weeks tomorrow but not getting a scan until 20 week..so ages away!

**Olive** · June 25th, 2008, 01:11 PM

awesome pics kim!!!

are you waiting til after the 20 week scan to tell your folks?
why no 12 week scan? i was getting excited!!

**visitor1** · June 25th, 2008, 01:16 PM

Once we know the gender we will tell family....no 12 week scan as i dont believe that its neccessary for me. Im young and low risk of downs, and if anything was found id still continue the pregnancy. So rather save my money for something else. Sorry to dissapoint :P

I also dont think its a good excuse 'just to see bub'.

Have a hossy appointment tomorrow....i know its just a booking in one..but might see if they will give the doppler a go and hear a HB....but not fussed if i cant.

**nelly** · June 25th, 2008, 03:57 PM

hey girls

hope all is ok last week was a bit pear shaped for me - it was mum's 5 yr anniversary since she died and it really hit me this year. The funny thing is it was the lead up, not the actual day that I was messy. jake has been up and down with his asthma / cough thing - and I thought last winter was ourb bad one!

He has also started testing - sounds exactly like aston vicky! he has had his bike put in "the box" twice this week for riding on the road or looking straight at us and pushing it onto the road. Little bum face.

anyway hope all is good

xx

**visitor1** · June 26th, 2008, 02:19 PM

*hugs* Nelly

Well hossy appointment went well today. Was granted midwife and OB care at the hospital due to increased BMI....was dreading going through shared care again so im pleased. I go back on 18th July when ill be 15w1d.

**taralee** · June 26th, 2008, 07:49 PM

Glad that worked out how you wanted it to Kim, one less thing to worry about!
Started feeling a bit more like myself again today. Washed 1 out of around 10 loads of baby clothes so i think that helped! evie was a lot happier today too.
One thing that made me feel better was that i just happened to catch the end of a show on foxtel about a couple that had a baby and already had a 19month old. anyways, they were saying that a couple of months before the baby was born that their son decided he didnt want to sleep in his cot anymore and started sleeping in their bed!
It was like they were talking about me! so it made me feel better to know that someone else is doing the same as me and it's not the end of the world (i know you said Jovie's back in your bed Christy, but this couple had another baby too

)
LOL so i felt better simply by watching TV..i think there's something in that for all of us
Sorry all of my posts have been 'me' posts lately, everyone. am back on the wagon again now.
Anyone heard from Ann or Gigi lately?

**christy** · June 26th, 2008, 10:01 PM

Tara for a while there we had Matilda at 2.75 yrs in our bed & Jovie in the hammock, then Jovie would move to the bed with Matilda in it

there are heaps of us out there doing it. We have no children in our beds atm.... at least this week.

Gigi is still in the hospital with Bilby, I miss her.

Kim thats great news

YAY!

Us.... things are going well. Jovie was a pain in the bum last night. She's not entirely well, but her eye tooth came through last night.