Olivia you are not the worlds worst mum!!! MCHN's have a way about them to put guilt on the mum's like you are supposed to know everything the minute you get pregnant!!!
One thing I've learnt in the past 3 years is every child is different. Somethings work best for some children and don't work at all for others. You are Mum & you know best for your child!!! Okay??
Jovie went really well in her cot last night, todays sleeps are awful but I think its more to do with her big sister running around and screaming a lot...now I got Matilda to sleep & Jovie won't go to sleep I really wanted a break today too.
Thanks Christy I appreciate that ....I must sound like a bit of a whinger ....pat yourself on the back ...two !!!!!! ...you're a legend....actually all of you November mums with more than one ...hats off to you.
oh no you are not a whinger at all. In fact I think the first time around it is heaps more difficult because you haven't been through it & often you aren't surrounded by people who have children so you are sort of going at it blindly or with out of date advice. This time, although we've had our difficulties, is much easier because I know that things will change in the next month or two developmentally and then again when walking starts so I can sort of plan for things to come.
Olivia, i had the exact same feelings today. you are not the world's worst mum, the fact that you are looking to baby buddies for help is proof of that!
When I read your post, i could've swapped Lugh's name for Evie. She is EXACTLY the same! when she is awake she smiles sooooo much that people cant believe it when i tell them she is a nightmare to put down for a nap! I never stopped swaddling her although i need to bind her with a rubber band to stop those arms coming out! it drives me nuts! anyways, i think all you can do is to rest when you can - even if that means laying next to them when they are having floor time, or perhaps putting some music on and laying on the bed together. evie loves watching the ceiling fan, it's a good distraction - maybe you have something that could keep lugh occupied while you rest?
i know it's tough and i am just telling myself that it's not forever and that it will get better. just do what you have to do to get through each day - no matter what it is or what anyone else says about it. Enjoy those happy times during the day and when you are trying to put him to sleep, close your eyes, breathe deeply and relax your muscles as much as you can - lugh will feel you relax and it may help.
remember that you're not alone and keep smiling! i'll be thinking of you and sending good vibes!
Olivia - How did it go with the sleep with Lugh after rewrapping him? I hope it was successful for you. Like Taralee and Christy have said, don't pay too much attention to CHN...every child is different - and once you have another one (lol) there is nothing like that to really make you aware of just how different they all are. If this makes you feel any better, I was feeling really bad when I got home this evening...Wednesday is soccer training, so we have easy dinners. Went to the fish and chip shop, and while I was waiting a lady who was wearing a Noosa Bubs shirt poked her head in the window of my car and said "do you know that you have your child seat in wrong?" well let the floor open up and swallow me... "would you like me to fix it?" very meekly...yes please. It was all I could do not to burst into tears. So for the last four months aston has been sitting in his seat, and it hasn't even been put in right! You would think I would know how wouldn't you...I mean this is my THIRD! So you aren't allowed to have the worst mum prize, I think it should go to me...
btw to all you lovely mummies that are having trouble with babies sleeping, and are still doing the wrap thing, are you wrapping them in the enormous muslin wraps? I didnt buy the ones I have, a friend made them for me. The ones you get from the shop lasted about 2 mins...and then aston was too big.
Enjoy your night girls - i'm off to get ready to watch House...
ahhh ...Vicky, Tara Lee, Christy and Kim ...thanks heaps for the encouragement. Same back to you all.
I will try to relax, strangely just like Evie, Lugh loves the ceiling fan so we will have a go laying down tomorrow I think that is a good idea.
Vicky ..no the wrap was no better for an attempted afternoon nap, but I am trying again now ..so far so good, but normally he will stay asleep for the first hour ...I only have two big wraps ...yup all the others I got were WAY to small ...lol about the car seat ....once I forgot to clip Lugh's at the top ..when I realised I just about died ....it was nice of her to care so much to tell you ..a lot of people would hace kept on walking.
Good job staying positive Olivia! you are sounding happier already!
Vicky - I think i wouldve been just like you and wanted to cry! but i guess it's better to be embarrassed than sorry! and it's true, a lot of people would've walked past...actually how long did she have to look in your car to realise it was in wrong?! did she have a checklist or something?! i can just imagine someone driving along with their carseat attached to the roof.. lol...oh well, made myself laugh!
i think i may have to invest in bigger muslin wraps. Here's my entry for worst mum - when i was putting Evie down for a nap today she kept wiggling her arms out and i was holding her dummy in my mouth by the handle - i put TEETH MARKS in it i got so frustrated with her!! another time i was so frustrated i started 'ssshhh'ing' and i purposely shh'ed a little loud and it startled her. I feel really bad about those things, but then i see that dad slapping his daughter around on the news and i ease up on myself. we're only human - when we deal 4-5 times a day with a wiggly, irritable and tired baby we're bound to get upset, and at the end of the day we could be doing worse!
LOL sounds like we all have a case of the mummy guilts.... *hugs* all around.
Jovie was so tired all day & everytime I put her down for a sleep her big sister would run in her room and scream at the top of her lungs. I tried explaining to my 2 year old that she needed to be quiet, but she just would go next to Jovie's cot all day & try to scream quieter Grrrr..... LOL I got so frustrated today as well. But mainly at my oldest.
Vicky I made my own wraps because the store bought ones wouldn't fit around my 2 month old the first time around I wrap Jovie's bottom half but not the top.... maybe putting her arms in would help, but I think it has more to do with her sister than anything else atm.
These babies are beautiful but can really drive us crazy eh?
Olivia - I know exactly how you feel with the sleep issues. I hope both Logan and Lugh sort it out soon so we can function properly
Kim - You defnitely deserve a "super - mummy" medal wih all the stresses going on in your life right now. I can't believe the GP is just leaving your hubby and not doing more?!
How's Chels now after her shots? Dreading getting hem done but need to do it next week.
Vicky - Glad your pup is better. At least if things get tough you can look out the window and take a deep breath. Must help with relaxation
Christy - How frustrating for you with Matilda's screaming. You must be very paient to deal with it all.
Bad night again last night but the boy is sleeping well this morning so I feel a touch better. Wish I just had more energy to use the time more effectively
Chelsea went ok with her needles. Was very unsettled after them, nothing would calm her.... but she was ok the next day.
She had her 4 month check up today and is going well! Mybhealth nurse is very pleased with her progress. I was going to tell her about the new bub.... but i resisted!!
Sophie has finally broken the 6kg mark!!! shes 6.320 kg!!! putting on weight again, very happy mummy!!!!
we stopped wrapping sophie at around 10 weeks but whenshe was wrapped used and looovvvvveeeeed my muslins wraps they where huge 140cm x 200cm, perfect size
must be the change in seasons that means a change in sleeping habits or is it a full moon!!
Cooper weighs 8.1kgs lol but he is older of course but only by a month compared to Chelsea
I tried Cooper on pear today and he liked that and loved the mashed banana yesterday, so will start him on just once a day and a few mouthfuls for a few weeks to get him used to it then start more when he is closer to 6mths, which isnt long at all!
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I really wanted a break today too.
I wrap Jovie's bottom half but not the top.... maybe putting her arms in would help, but I think it has more to do with her sister than anything else atm.
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