hey all

bit of a marathon post coming up, i think.

so, saturday afternoon dh's phone beeped - turns out a dear friend of ours (aged 29) died on friday night. he was in hospital with pneumonia, they discovered by accident that he had testicular cancer and had one week to live. he didn't even make it another day. worst of worst, his lovely young gf is 6 months UTD and now has to raise that beautiful little boy without a daddy. he was a cool dude and it has just ripped DH to pieces.

saturday night, he downed 3/4 of a bottle of grants, dressed up in the clothes (including coat) that he used to wear out with his mate back in those days, and hung out at the letterbox in the dark, drinking their scotch, smoking their cigars under the stars. i just went in and out to check on him but it was nice for him to give joely a send-off the way he would have wanted.

dh came to bed but lasted about 2 minutes until he hurled up all the scotch (not a big drinker these days). under any other circumstances i'd be dark about my husband having a big p!ssed hurl on mother's day eve, but yanno, i figure, if you can't get thoroughly blind and hurl when i good friend dies, when can you?? i put him in the shower and that was that.

mother's day wasn't exactly any fun because of the situation. that said, james bought me some new walking shoes so i can take him for faster walks, and a new cashmer jumper and pashmina for winter. dh made me french toast with berry compote :drool:

then later i made him a fry-up because you can imagine how rank he was feeling after the scotch incident.

james made me a huge card. he is very good with textas... amazing actually. i thought he'd be flat out doing anything but he scrawled all over it, and himself, and his suit.

he hates real food, btw. he loves cereal and anything to do with EBM but despises all recommended foods for kiddies his age. meh.

his new move is 'downward facing dog'. he does it all the time. still does the dead-leg crawl but it won't be long. i think he's sleeping better for having cracked at least a partial crawl. i think it was doing his head in.

his nap structure has changed. he does 3 hours awake, 2 hours asleep now, with me occasionally helping him between sleep cycles.

we're working on the night time thing..

hope you all had a great mother's day.

i've got that funeral on friday so i guess i'll just be working myself up for that...