Babies Born September 2007 #3

[MamaPan]

Supa and Arte - I went for Indian a week or 2 ago and Noah was quite upset that night and the following day - I think it was the spice - so I am now avoiding it for a while - not easy as I love spicy food... sorry I dont know any remedies... for me I just had to wait out the time...
Hope everyone is well today - I am looking fwd to hearing from some of our 'regulars' who havent been around much - hope everyone is OK and just too busy being mum to write...

All well here - Noah had an extremely disturbed night, i think he had some wind and then even when that was 'cleared' so to speak he just wanted to be up with mummy and sleep on my chest - gorgeous but tiring.. i was up most of the night... we dont have much planned today - an old friend from school who now lives in Scotland is in town so we are meeting up for a walk or coffee this afternoon and that's it so I think we will take it easy... I may get her over here for coffee if he isnt more settled later... Gymbaroo was wonderful yesterday - he loved it!!! And even at 4 weeks most of the things we could do together which was great... for me it was excellent as it gave me some things to do with him play wise - I havebeen making things up but it is hard to think of things to 'do' with a newborn and he is getting more active and alert and seems to want to do things so this was great. I am looking fwd to next week already!

[Cally]

DD has been up since 6! She catnapped for 15 minutes, but that's all. I'm really missing my morning nap.

With the HAB can bubs be in it swaddled up? We have a baby bjorn, but I'm worried if I put her in that and she falls asleep, because she isn't swaddled she will wake up again when I take her out. My upper back is so sore from lugging her around all morning. DH wanted the baby bjorn, so it is all sized up for him and it seems tricky to make it fit me.

I hope Ella is OK, she didn't sound happy in her last post. With my massive cracks, the thing that made the biggest difference was feeding lying down for 2 days. The change of position made a huge difference and they healed up straight away.

Well I still have that lump under my arm. Went to the doctor on Friday who gave me an ultrasound referral (go in tomorrow), but he also found another one on the other boobie!! And that one hasn't gone either, so I have to get both sides checked out. I asked him what they could do if it is blocked ducts that won't clear themselves and he had no idea. That article Sherie linked too talked about therapeutic ultrasound, so I have left a message with the nurse asking if she knows anything or if I can talk to the LC.

Pregpan - when do you do a nappy change in relation to feeds? We do it after the first side, so she wakes up and is interested in the second side, otherwise she wouldn't go on at all. DD is typically 4 hours between feeds, but who knows if that is related to how much she gets to drink!

Bit worried about these Indian stories - I got a curry out of the freezer last night for tonight's dinner. Sounds like I might have an unsettled night ahead of me!

Arte - bummer about the change of clothes, what a pain! They never seem to spew on you when you have a cloth covering yourself do they??

Sherie - wow, 12 hr sleeps at 6 wks!! I am so jealous. I am really struggling with the sleep deprivation still and I have it so easy compared to some of you others. 4 hr feeds, sometimes longer, no other kiddies to look after, DH helps out heaps around the house.

MD - I can second the recommendation for Stephanies in Kingston. That's where I'll be heading when I next make it up to Canberra.

[Ozstar]

Been busy in here.

We went to the pead yesterday for Logan's 6 week check up, all is fantastic and Dr very happy with his progress. I am off to the OB for my 6 week check up this afternoon.

Found DH has to go away for work on Thursday. He has a mate here this week so I am hoping he will be gone before then, he is a nice guy but I dont really know him and it will be weird having him here with out DH. We are flying to Sydney on Friday night and DH will be cutting it close to make the flight, I may have to go on my own.

I have a quick question. Logan started feeding every 2 or so hours for the last couple of weeks, I put it down to the heat. He is also wasnt sleeping very much durring the day. I started to worry about my supply and if he was getting enough so I gave him a bottle of formula on Friday afternoon. He had the full bottle (he had had a BF 2.5 hours earlier) and went to sleep. Woke up 4 hours later for a feed. I aslo did this on Saturday and the same thing happened. Do you think he is not getting enough from me?

[Trillian]

Katie hun, please don't think that you don't have enough milk for Logan. Remember that formula is harder for babies to digest, particularly if they are BF and it stays in their belly for longer, meaning they often sleep longer or are content for longer. BM is a lot easier for them to digest, so they often need more feeds sometimes - it is completely normal for a BF baby to feed up to 12 times a day - even if it is exhausting for us. Despite not sleeping, is he reasonably content between feeds? My second was a very frequent feeder and grizzled a lot between feeds when she wasn't sleeping and eventually my milk did run out (but this was due to me being under a lot of stress at the time) and when on formula she didn't change at all - still was grizzly so it was just her temperament. You have done so well to establish BF and I would hate for you to be lulled into a false sense of security by the formula feeds and lose the BF relationship. And the more he feeds the more you make, but in saying that, you are the only one who knows your baby best.

Cally, gosh I hope they can sort the lumps out for you. I assume that the 2nd one is painless if you didn't know it was there? I thank my lucky stars every day that I have always had great sleepers. Mind you, i didn't get 12hrs sleep, it was great to have time to myself/ourselves at night.

Pregpan, I'm glad you liked gymbaroo, it will be a great social network for you. I wish we had stuff like that out here, we really miss out on a lot. Don't you just love it when they want to cuddle all night? When mine were like that I would lay on the lounge with them and at least I could doze and they were happy being held.

Arte and Supa, I know some BF mums will 'pump and dump' if they know they are having something that will upset bubs, but you have to have some EMB for them instead though.

Renee, Lindsay was 6mths old before I left him anywhere LOL, it was so strange being somewhere without him too. That is one thing FF makes easier though, we can leave them with other people for a while kwim?

Jaz, that's a huge list! Well done both you and Arte for compiling it.

I have a tired little man here this morning. He hasn't had a sleep since he woke up at 8 and he is nodding off, but can't quite get there kwim? He is happy enough though, but I think I will have to give him cuddles to sleep soon or he will be way over tired.

[Leemar]

Morning Ladies,

Pregpan- I am happy you and Noah had a wonderful day yesterday.
Cally- Good luck with the ultrasound tomorrow.
Katie- Sorry I cannot help you I only ever FF and dont know much about BF.
Renee- I hope you have a wonderful night out.

I hope everyone has a wonderful day

[supablondie]

Hello Everyone

Sherie - thanks for your help recently. Also what is EMB?

Cally - i hope those lumps aren't anything serious. Glad U R getting it checked out.

Pregpan - its SO good to hear its not just me being foolish with the curry! I love curry too and totally forgot it may affect her. My mum said once she had like a half punnet of strawberries and i screamed for the day or two also.

Artechim - Weird, cause DD was happy to feed, maybe it wasn't the curry? I have no idea..

Queenie - Love ya belly love! I can't wait for U to have your baby n to find out what you name him/her. hee hee.

Noni - I hope everything is okay. (Hugs)

Ella - I hope U R ok too. (Hugs)

Marydean - How R U today?

Leemar - How R U today?

I just fed DD and she had like only 15-20 mins and fell asleep and there was NO waking her, similar to earlier this morning. Will my milk dry up because of this?

What a day yesterday. Poor DD was crying nearly for 8 hrs and was inconsolable (sp?) except for b/feeding. I am feeling a bit like i have broken my routine with her - i must be hard-nosed hey. She had so many feeds yesterday and no sleep, i am amazed she only slept for 5 hrs last night.

I want to apologise for my selfish posts recently, I think tiredness & grumpiness has set in.

This house is a pig-sty and I have a work friend coming over - yikes!!! clean clean clean!!!

[ele_ven27]

Hi everyone...

super stressed out today

i'm not sure if it's just that stuff has piled on me the last few days or whether its the onset of PND....could be either or both.

Broni has been a super-sook lately and is constantly whining and whinging all day. She has to fight and argue against everything i want her to do which doesn't help either....plus she's always asking for daddy...."where's daddddyyyyyyyyy?"....even though she knows he's at work....she whines it allllll day. Totally getting on my nerves! Jasmin is also a bit funny with her feeding atm. I'm trying to get her used to bottle feeding i will be working a lot between now and xmas and she will need to be looked after by someone else other than me. She's been struggling with it, but seems to be getting the hang of it the last day or so. But....she's also been a bit difficult....lots of crying....lots of little feeds/naps instead of her big ones. Probably a growth spurt....and most likely picking up on my stress too.

I had a huge screaming match with my partner last night. It didn't last too long but it was a 9.5 on the richter scale. I had 2 screaming kids....the dinner dishes were crusting over and piled up in the sink....the bath needed to be run and the garbage put out.....and he toddles off after eating into the garage to play with his new wood-cutting saw Meanwhile, i was desperate for a shower and an early night...not to mention a break from the kids. He came in a couple of times, just for a few minutes.....but was out there until about 9.30 until i cracked it. Then of course, it's all my fault for not asking for help! Jasmin's screams were almost window shattering so i dunno how he didn't figure it out for himself Anyway....he's not speaking to me now (great conflict resolution skills) and he slept on the spare mattress in another room.

Guess we'll see what happens when he gets home this evening...

[Ozstar]

Thanks Sherie. Yesterday I decided to try and change the way I feed a little and am trying to get him to take both sides at each feed so he is fuller for longer. I have a feeling he was just getting a little lazy and I was putting the bb away to quickly. He is happy between feeds, putting on weight and overall thriving. Think I was just having a moment of self doubt.

Supa your day yesterday sounds terrible, I hope your dd is doing better today. No need to apologise for your posts. We all understand what it is like.

ETA Eleven we were posting at the same time, I hope things are better at home tonight.

[Leemar]

SupaB- I am ok. I hope you are having a better day today.
11- I hope everything will be ok tonight.

I am sending all you girls heaps of hugs cause I know we all need them.

[Artechim]

SupaB, don't worry that T only had a drink for 15-20 minutes. It definately won't dry up your milk. Will will only drink for 20 minutes max, usually less. I still have plenty of milk and he is growing like a weed so I don't worry about it. Is T three weeks now? They often have a growth spurt around three weeks where they want to feed all day for a day (and night) or two, then they will have a couple of really sleepy days afterwards. Maybe that is what is happening? I was told to watch for it at 3 weeks, six weeks, three months and six months.

Cally, I feel for you with the missed morning nap. Will used to sleep 8-11 every morning for a couple of weeks, then he decided he didn't want to any more. I don't usually get a nap during the day now, but I remember it fondly.

You ladies with other kids are my heros! It is hard enough to get anything done with one baby, don't know how you manage with more than one. By the time I had W changed, fed, changed again, nappy bag packed it took me about 45 minutes to get ready for the bus, then I got puked on and had to come home again to change clothes. Can't imagine the extra drama with a toddler (or two) as well.

[Trillian]

Supa, I meant EBM LOL - expressed breast milk. If T has a quick feed and then sleeps, it wont affect your supply hun, and you may notice that the next feed when she wakes is a bit longer. As they get older too, they get very efficient at draining the breast, so 15-20mins may be all she needs to get her fill. Don't apologise for self centred posts, I think we are all entitled to have them ATM, it's hard to keep up somedays.

11, IKexactlyHYF ATM. The other day I wished the ground would just swallow me whole - it certainly wasn't the best day I've had that's for sure. I hope you can talk things over with your DP tonight and that you can work through it all. The kids behaviour is an issue here too ATM. If you need to vent at all about how you're feeling, come in here and do it - don't bottle it up OK? *hugs*

Leanne, how often are you working atm?

Katie, it's hard when we aren't sure if we are doing the right thing or not, but trust your instincts as they are almost always right.

Arte, I remember the day naps too *sigh* I really need to have one soon I think.

[Leemar]

Art- I am finding it very hard at the moment. My house looks like a bomb has gone off in it and I feel totally stressed but I am sure it will get better soon... lol
Sherie- 4 days a week. However I am lucky that I run my parents and brothers businesses and get some flexiablity.

[Patooties]

Afternoon everyone -
Pregpan - i hope you have a better night tonight. Hannah was unsettled last night too (too many Lemon slices from Coles i think) I slept on the couch with her on my chest from 3:30 until about 5:30, then went back to bed and she woke at 6 :00 for a big poo. (not going to buy anymore slices for a while )
Cally - re the HaB, maybe you could swaddle Katie, but you would have to use the position where she is laying down. I find that Hannah sleeps so soundly when she is in it, that when i take her out she stays asleep. (she isn't used to being swaddled though) I hope everything goes ok with the ultrasound.
Katie - good to hear that Logan is doing well. Hope you had fun at your ob appointment today. I've got mine on Thursday. (hoping he doesn't want to do a pap smear, as i had one a year ago)
ele- i hope your day is getting better now. One thing i can't stand is when Zoe whinges as soon as she has woken up. Really starts my day off on a bad note. I hope your DP is a little more understanding tonight.

[Artechim]

Are we meant to have appointments with Obs or just GPs? I don't have a gp at the moment, refuse to go back to the one that I saw when preg. I tried another dr for the one week check up but we were only in there for 3 minutes, he didn't ask how I was at all just did a basic check for W, then told me to go across the road to the chemist to weigh him as they didn't have scales. Guess I will have to try out another one, good GP's are so hard to find.

[Patooties]

Arte - i'm pretty sure that you could just have the checkup with a GP.

[AnyDream]

Hi ladies, just wanted to pop in for a quick big .

Sounds like a few of us are having bad days - and I just want to say to everyone - Don't doubt yourself! You are all doing wonderful things nurturing your gorgeous bubbas. It's perfectly normal for bubbies to be unsettled from time to time (who knows why) and not a reflection on what you are doing at all! How lucky all these babies are to have such a caring, clever, switched-on mums bringing them into the world.

11 - well I think I would have been shrieking too hun - hope you can get it sorted out with DP - he needs to show a bit of initiative!

Leanne - I think you are an absolute hero working 4 days - I don't think I could handle one right now - remember to ask for help when you need it because you don't want to be running on empty all the time

[*noni*e*]

hi everyone
havnt been on for a bit had a few really bad days.. sunday i was up from 4am Asha was really unsettled she had really bad wind... i tried everything but she cried nearly all day long except for a few short naps but we couldn't put her down or shed start again.. i ended up giving her some infacol which didn't really help that much... since then shes been really wingy crying alot and not wanting to be put down sleeping so lightly that when u do put her down she wakes and screams... her feedings messed up too with her drinking half and then staying awake because shes not full but refusing to drink the rest until an hour or 2 later to be honest its really driving me insane..
dp is really good thank god hes still off work he gives me lots of breaks and is keeping the place clean and the clothes washed but i still find myself getting frustrated with him just because i am sooo tired and frustrated in general... its really draining when she cries so much she was such a good baby but now everything has changed and i dnt know what ive done wrong... stomach is still awful to which just adds to the stress....
we managed to go out today, she seems to be better behaved when we go somewhere think its because she really likes the car.. we ended up buying an air conditioner which dp is going to install soon and a coffee table coz the baby bonus came through today so that was nice but as soon as we got home it was on again with the crying... she seems to be bringing up alot of wind though so hopefully she will get it all out and we might go back to normal because she wasn't burping at all after some feeds...
anyway sorry for the totally selfish post just wanted to come on and vent lol i feel so silly because i think after having a breezy few weeks i came to expect it and now that its getting a but challenging i feel like i am cracking under the pressure

[Cally]

Noni - you might be going through the 3 week growth spurt, maybe that's why she's unsettled.

Arte - I'm just seeing my GP for the 6 week checkup, we have a 'shared care' system here and only see the ob a couple of times during the pregnancy.

11 - Sounds like your DP has selective hearing not being able to hear the screaming - hope you sort things out tonight.

I had a go with the Bjorn today and it wasn't too bad. Meant I was able to hang out a load of washing which was good. DD fell asleep in it and I managed to get her out, unfortunately she woke up when I put her in the bassinet, I think if I had held her for a bit longer after taking her out she wouldn't have woken up again though.

Well I had my shower today at 4:00!! I had opportunities for it earlier, but kept hoping she would fall asleep and I could go back to bed. At least because she had a busy morning she slept for a decent amount this afternoon.

Hope everyone gets some decent sleep tonight.