Babies Born ~ November 2011

[Lolpigs]

Lolpigs – yes thanks – it’s kind of where I had gotten to. I couldn’t see that the little man would understand why I was leaving the room and coming back in… I’m really not sure what to do – it doesn’t sit right with me to have him crying so much but if I get him up after 45mins then by midday he is really cranky and overtired and all out of whack with feeds and then feeds poorly etc.. I’m hoping it will just start to improve by itself and in the meantime I will attempt each time to resettle him gently (eg replace dummy and pat bed etc) if he seems to need it. I am def learning the difference between all of his cries! These books that say no baby should cry if it knows whats happening and what it can expect have a lot to answer for! (breed insecurity in parents!)

And thanks AMANDA – those wing things sound worth checking out as I have also been thinking about how to transition from his swaddle (Lovetowrap) into a sleeping bag now its getting quite cold at night. He is actually usually quite fine at going to sleep the first time but wakes after 40mins and won’t re-settle for any more sleep.. so ends up catnapping all day but hey – maybe he’ll outgrow this?! Having said that he had disrupted sleep tofay bc I decided I needed to get out of house for once this week and went shopping for some winter PJS (those night feeds are cold!) and some more singlets etc for him – so he got a 45min before we left, wouldn’t sleep in pram at shops, 30mins in car on way home and at 4:30pm he has taken nearly an hour to go to sleep. He I think is way overtired.

What’s everyones favourite toy or book for their bub? Gus loves his Lamaze calamari (one of those ones that dangles with crinkly bits and a rattle etc). Also love the cardboard books like Where is the green sheep? Hungry Caterpillar and Dr seuss J

Been there done that. I know how you feel. All I can say is keep perservering with it and he will get the idea eventually. Another thing I did with Lilly is if she wasnt too upset I just left her in the cot until 1 hour had passed and then lengthened it, but this was only if she was grizzling and I was in an out comforting her. If it didnt work I would just get her up and try again later. I wouldnt read those books if I were you. None of them will help you if your baby has reflux. Everything takes alot longer for them to adjust to. Is his pain under control? The reason I ask is if it isn't then this can cuase the 45mins waking. Its a sure sign Lillys is going to flare as she will start waking and crying suddenly all the time at 45mins. If his pain is not under control, dont bother with sleep training it just wont happen till it is in my experience.

Reflux babies seem to be clingier than others, and want constant reassurance. I found that by always reassuring her, she eventually learnt that I would come if she needed me, but her cot was a safe place to be if that makes sense? Just takes awhile. If I had left her to cry, it would have made her worse, I just went with my instinct and perservered. Read through the old threads I was at my wits end more than once LOL Dont get me wrong we have had sometimes when she is so tired and just cries and cries but its becuase she wants to sleep, not becuase she wants to get out of her cot anymore. She settles really well for me now, so working on her being comforted by dad, because thats still causing issues.

I'm happy to chat if you need support, they are a different kettle of fish those reflux bubs.

Edit: I am really tired, but I think I read that Gus has reflux.. if he dosent sorry! But still dont read those books they just make you crazy