We don't have a shallow pool either. They have benches in the water that the kids stand on, or in the other pool there's a little ledge on the side, I think we move to that pool when she's by herself.
Olive- We like taking DD1 too
Nai- how awesome! you will have a great time!!
det- yay for getting into kinder! DD1 is not ready for it yet, I'll send her when she's 4.
OP- again, chasing you round the forums today, lol.
Yeah as det said we're sending DD to kinder. So that'll be fun. I think she's just about ready in every way apart from TT. There's a kinder readiness list on the kinder's website - says things like how social they are, how vocal, how independent and all of them I can go "yep yep yep" excep for TT.
I just had a chat to a friend of mine here at work - the one that also owns cotton bottom, the cloth nappy business in Melbourne - and she reckons I need to take a Monday off work (damn shame that ) and give it five solid days at home where I say to her on day 1 "That's it, no more nappies." and then deal with it. So be more proactive about it as opposed to just letting her drift along.
She gets it, I know she does - after the bath for example she'll run around nudey for a while and often stop and say "Ooh - I need to do wees!" and run to the loo and away she goes. We rarely have accidents when she's nude. In undies, different story. She is just too busy with life to make that connection. So maybe if I give her a nice solid 5 days where I am there every day, we are at home (the inconsistent care between me, DH, nanny and grandparents is probably not helping) and we can just focus on TT.
So I'm going to give that a try.
ETA: Olive I think in our area its more likely the other way around - DD and det's DS are the two youngest in our MG and we are the only ones doing kinder. Oh wait, I think one other will be but only because that's what their child care does. So I think our two will be young in comparison.
The speech therapist cancelled the appointment - because she was sick. DS has just come out the other side of the cold/flu just great. it seemed to turn around for him when I started to come down with it - still breastfeeding so I'm not sure if that helped him... but DH and I are still feeling the after affects. my ears are blocked, I'm on antibiotics, haven't heard anything properly for a week. Kept walking into walls, but now I only get dizzy when I close my eyes and move, or when I go around a roundabout driving the car or put my foot down a little hard on the accelerator.
But have got a new round of appointments coming up. Going to see a psychologist to test the water about having another baby. I'm not sure I can cope, DH wants one and he's pushing, but I know I'm the one who will have to do everything. We have had the big talk about me doing everythign around the place, and how he needs to pull up his socks to do things, but I'm not sure. I'm pretty much pushed to my limits at the moment and I remember my last pregnancy - hardly any sleep because everything hurt and needing to have osteo appointments for weeks so I could get a little sleep and then the labour went all pearshaped... hmm.. not convinced.
Malyna - you guys have had it tough with being sick! I hope you are all recovered now! Dizziness gone?
Have you rescheduled with the speech therapist?
That's a good step on seeing a psychologist before you TTC again. And good that you're talking about it with DH... has he stepped up over the weekend? Helped out a bit more? I had a friend who was similar - found #1 quite tough and then DH started pushing her for #2, so she basically did what you did - told DH to pull his socks up. And he did! So I really hope you guys can work it out - if that's what you want.
AFU: We are out of nappies for days!!!! As I posted above, we gave her a big talk on Thursday afternoon about being a big girl now and not wearing nappies and she said "Ok!" and off we went! We had a pretty big weekend and only two accidents!!! Fantastic! Don't know how she's going today... she's with the nanny, which was not entirely my plan but DH decided it was time so its all happening.
Which is really good because... in case you missed it, I'm pregnant again (YEAH! ) and having THREE in nappies would have just about done my head in!!!!
So call me crazy but yeah we're adding another one to our clan. It feels right - both DH and I didn't feel like we were finished. The reactions I've been getting have been priceless - we've only told my parents, ILs and my sister but all three of them were great. My ILs were shocked, then delighted, they teared up and it was hugs all round... lovely.
My parents are in France holidaying, so I skyped them early Sat morning and said I had something to show them and held up the HPT... Mum goes "Is that two pink lines? IS THAT TWO PINK LINES??" and Dad's there going "What is it? Huh?" Mum asked if I was happy, excited, I think basically trying to decide if it was planned? Anyway I said yes and then she cried and dad's still there going "Is she pregnant? What??"
Then I told my sister and let's just say she was less than impressed!!! She actually didn't believe me for a few minutes. Thinks I'm making a mistake - she said "I just think you're really struggling with what you've got on your plate now, why would you want to make it worse?" Thanks for the support dear sister! She'll come around.
OP - Congratulations. How exciting to have three little ones running aroucnd. (and I'm serious, I love kids and I often have DS's two little friends around to liven up the house).
It's interesting you mention that you and DH don't feel like you are done yet, because when DS was under 12mths, I felt like I was done, but now he's 2.5, I think he's totally adorable and cluckiness has kicked up a gear. Unfortunately I don't have time to procrastinate or see if I'm still feeling this way in a year. I turn 41 in October and am feeling my energy wane and know it's taking me longer to get over illnesses - gosh I sound like an old woman. Most of the feelings about having a second child is that we don't want DS to be on his own, so he has someone to play with, but I don't feel like that is the right reason.
And yeah DH has picked up his act, but he's done this in the past and it doesn't mean anything, because he's done this before and just gone back to his old ways.DH thought that having children wouldn't interfer in his life. Yep. I know. So I can just see us having two, me running around trying to be supergirl, and him just slacking off and whinging about why the house isn't clean or why I haven't done this or that yet.
Malyna - thanks for your kind words! Any further thoughts on #2? I know what you mean about doing it for the right reason...
I have some exciting news - we have been nappy-free, day time, for almost two weeks now, and no accidents since Tuesday! We still put her in one for day sleep but the last week or so it has been dry when she wakes, so I might give that the flick soon... and still for night time, though this morning when she woke up it was almost completely dry!
I'm so thrilled by this. She's a stubborn little thing - just needed a bit of a push I think.
Going ok here. Studying taking a lot of my time. So a bit busy.
I also have to have knee surgery in late Oct, and will be off for work for about a month.
I am also in trouble with work, so am glad for the time off. I sent a very angry email to the department of human services (all truthful) and now am in trouble. They want to meet with me. tempted to tell work and DHS where to go, and quit.
Yeah and typical DHS style, they are taking weeks. So I don't even know when the telling off will be! With the knee, hurt it 11 years ago. Turns out the surgeon did a botch job. So I need a new ACL replacement. Will be off for about a month. Not sure how I will go with the kids. It will be hard to make sure they don't jump on me.
I've been such a slack poster! Read everything then usually too tired to reply!
Meg- ouch, good luck with the surgery. And good luck woth the meeting, if you were just being honest isn't that a good thing? Could they want to meet to discuss concerns or are they just gonna get their backs up?
OP- yay! Thats great, Ash is 5 and still wakes up saturated! And congratulations with the pregnancy news! When roughly are you due? How exciting! Hope your sister comes around. I think no matter how many you have or don't have there is always going to be times when life is a struggle, if it feels right to you then who cares what others think.
Malyna- Ikwym about other half life not being interfered with post kids. That was big problem here, still is I guess but now the girls are 2.5 and 5 its not such a struggle. So I know where you're coming from with wanting him to lift his game if he wants another. Good luck with your decision, see what feels right for you.
Were only just starting swimming lessons with Emily next term, better cut down on the junk food if I'm expected to get into bathers!
On a positive note TT here just worked itself out no probs! I had waited til I started annual leave so I'd be home, made big deal about undies so she really wanted to wear them. First wee she did on the floor after that says I want toilet and off she goes! Thats it, even if were out and I've popped a nappy on she still asks to go. Just gotta work on poo tho.
Lilima - sorry to hear that you are having issues at work - that totally sucks. :hugs:
Shell - congrats with the TT.
I've uploaded my book to Kindle. Those of you on facebook will see my post. Did it last night. Have spent the last week staring at it, coming up with a ton of excuses not to upload it and then last night, I just decided to put it up and be done with it. (well apart from the marketing etc. )
It's Pulse by Acacia Green (I'm the only Acacia Green on Amazon. You are all there on the acknowledgements page. (so if you download the sample, you'll see your name - Kindle PC is free). (not sure if I can post a link on BB)
Malyna - congrats on your book! It's very exciting!
Shell - great news on TT
Lilima - i'm sorry you've got work dramas. That seriously sucks. I work for a state govt dept and am getting sick of the need to play politics just to get my job done. I think you're awesome for telling it how you see it and I hope the delay is cause they are taking a serious look at the issue.
OP - how has your sister been lately? I hope for both you sakes she is able to be happy.
Can't remember any further back sorry!
Feel slack here too. Still waiting for DP to have another blood test. Scans were clear but blood results VERY ordinary. He has been more tired than normal lately which is worrying and to make matters worse our batty, gossiping, inappropriate, no boundaries next door neighbour has been telling half the town that DP is dying so that isn't helping. I'm usually against violent but I seriously feel like assaulting her atm and she wonders why we won't talk to her!!!!!!! Can't wait to get this house ready to sell so we can get the hell away from her!
Malyna - wow! That's fantastic, a real book! I want to give it a read... might need to get Dad to buy it for his Kindle so I can read it! He'd probably like it too... Congrats hun, that is awesome. Well done
Shell - woohoo on TT! I'm due mid-late May. Hopefully not June
Lilima - so sorry about your crummy work situation. ACL replacement, ouch. Can you get someone round to help with the kids a bit? Family??
Kaz - arghhh about your neighbour. That's so what you need right now! When are you selling? Moving far? Exciting!
Really sorry DP hasn't been feeling well. How is he ATM? What's the plan?
Kaz - sorry to hear about your neighbour, at least you have a plan to get out of your house. Hope DP is okay. Maybe his bloods are just picking up on him having some sort of virus or cold or something. DH's bloods often go a little crazy when he's got a bug/cold/virus and everyone starts rushing to action stations, but when he has the next round a week or so later, it's back to normal - DH's fluid levels also affect his blood levels, when he's running a little dehydrated, his numbers go crazy.
OP - why not june for bubs to be born.
AFU: Well the fertility doctor basically said that if we do have another bubs, there is a 2 in 3 chance that it will be born C-section (because of my age and previous history - and yes I know that there are a lot of women who have VBACs but I know my luck and it will be a C-Section), then we'd have to decide who many eggs we defrosted and then how many eggs we implanted, because the odds of me falling pregnant with one embie is pretty low - I wanted to remind him that my mum had me naturally at 43, but I just let it go. He was hinting at putting in two, but then said the chances of twins are small - I couldn't cope with twins. Then there is the fact that my cycle is still up the creek because of breastfeeding and Doc would want me to wean DS.
We both came away thinking - aw crap. Maybe if I was five years younger I'd do it, but I just don't have the energy anymore, no support network. Yeah there are ways we could get around it, but I really don't want to go through the 9 months it took me to get my adominal muscles back to a point where I could lie on my stomach for a minute without being in agony.
So it looks like DS will be an only child. It breaks my heart though, everytime DS sees a little bubby and gets very excited.
Malyna- Sounds like there was alot to consider with the decision, I guess now it prolly feels like a grieving process. There are positives to just having one if that makes you feel any better.
Kaz- Any further news on the blood results? And omg at yr neighbour, seriously she sounds like she needs a good slap!
so so so so happy for you OP!!!! we're going to aunties again!!
Mylana chicken must be such a tiough time/decision for you both xxx
Lilma ouch on the knee make the most of resting up!
shell how is the TT going
Kaz how is DS?
not much happening here...having surgery on november..thread about it is in platnium, dont want to discuss out in the open..getting scared not looking forward to it at all
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again, chasing you round the forums today, lol.
) and give it five solid days at home where I say to her on day 1 "That's it, no more nappies." and then deal with it. So be more proactive about it as opposed to just letting her drift along.
you guys have had it tough with being sick! I hope you are all recovered now! Dizziness gone?
As I posted above, we gave her a big talk on Thursday afternoon about being a big girl now and not wearing nappies and she said "Ok!" and off we went! We had a pretty big weekend and only two accidents!!! Fantastic! Don't know how she's going today... she's with the nanny, which was not entirely my plan but DH decided it was time so its all happening.
) and having THREE in nappies would have just about done my head in!!!!
Thanks for the support dear sister! She'll come around.
make the most of resting up!
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