Not a lot of time since I need to get my jiggly butt on the eliptical machine while Eva is down for a nap!
Alison, I would ne annoyed too, but DH seems to really be doing it out of niceness so whatever. Girls will always chase unavailable men (you like him, so other women inevitably will - or else you would have married an ugly fat dog ) I think the important thing is to explain to DH without being hysterical that doing what he did put you in a really insecure position and that you feel like his priorities are a bit mixed up. You should be careful not to yell at him or shut him out because thatis exactly the kind of stuff that might make him complain about the relationship to other people (like stupid cows getting picked up at the airport!) who might take advantage of the weakness to do something...
In the end darling, it is all about trusting your partner. I am not sure how your DH functions but I know that yelling at mine gets nothing done. I usually just say something once in a rational way and he always does what I want without me having to give orders...He has been working late a lot lately (again, his ambition is something I love, so I also have to accept that just like if I find him handsome and another girl hits on him - which I have seen happen many times in front of my eyes, especially when he is out for work since he is the owner of the company!!! - when he is working I let it be and have to trust him - but this girl is def sounding troublesome...) so instead of yelling at him at the end of the day, I wait until he gets in early and say wow, it is great having you here since I can get ready for bed and looik how happy eva is spending more time with you etc....so instead of yelling at DH for being nice and going to pick up the girl, try saying something like, You know we need you around...what would we do without you here, you help me so much especially when we have to go out with lugging all the heavy stuff etc...and also explain to him that you feel insecure enough as it is and that you don't know why he has to offer to pick someone up when he has lots of friends that can go...tell him that you always put Amelia and him first and that you are a bit surprised that he would go out of his way for someone who is not family or close friends by being out in the middle of the night.
If that doesn't work - throw a plate at him
But really, don't get mad, just try to explain it to him but if it happens consistently then you need to yell. Guys just don't reason like us and it can be frustrating...
I have to get Eva's vaccinations this week, she turned 2 months yesterday! Time flies! My stupid pediatrician never picks up the phone! He also works the maternity ward at the hospital so is not very available - I am changing doctors...but then I called the other one I wanted to go to and he never answers either....
Went to get eva's american paperwork in order yesterday and am doing the french today and israeli tomorrow! What a jet set little girl!
) I think the important thing is to explain to DH without being hysterical that doing what he did put you in a really insecure position and that you feel like his priorities are a bit mixed up. You should be careful not to yell at him or shut him out because thatis exactly the kind of stuff that might make him complain about the relationship to other people (like stupid cows getting picked up at the airport!) who might take advantage of the weakness to do something...
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