humm its such a hard one isnt it. Thanks for the articles Prama, they were really good.

I find the balance of gentle parenting and not raising a child that gets their own way to be difficult. I dont set unreasonable barriers and only really have a problem with behaviour that is nasty or hurtful. Really she is neither at the moment, but i worry that this smacking may get out of control if i dont teach her that its unacceptable.

I actually dont like the idea of 'time out' in her room at all as i NEVER want her to see her room as being a place of punishment, its for sleeping and play and getting dressed and i dont want her to associate it with being in trouble.

Prama to answer the question, yes initially i shut the door, but it was too much for her, so i stopped doing that and she walked out. I dont know how time out will work really... i think i agree Prama - she is still too young... Bron, Skye and Trina - other advice (as you have done this more than once )