What would make you want more sex after having a baby?

[The[cookie]Doctor]

I voted sleep.

But I'm really not sure it was my top answer. I would appreciate having to do less (so more help) which would lead to more sleep. I would appreciate more alone time so I could go to the gym and improve my self-esteem and energy levels. And some of it is simply that if he stopped the horny attitude maybe i would be more interested but when the attitude is sex-oriented rather than affection-oriented it honestly put me off straight away.

I am also struggling with needing my own time and space to make the decision and think that is to do with birth crap too.

Beansbeans post really resonates with me also.

[kateo]

I said more affection and touch.......he seems to have transfered that to our LO....not that I mind but I'd like some too.
I would also feel more "in the mood" if he recognised that being home all day and running my small business as well as keeping house and farm together and looking after LO is equal or more hard work than a full time job.
I would be a lot more "encouraging" to advances if I had the same number of hours a week to dedicate to my hobby as he dedicates to his hobby..........it seems my work on the week-end is the same as his "playtime" on the week-end........

[Astrid]

Can't really answer one. For me it is understanding, the rest kind of flows on from there. Understanding that I am tired, touched out, overwhelmed by housework etc I suppose acknowledgement of what life is like at that point in time.

[~ Mylitta ~]

Ok, I'll admit it. If my hubby looked a bit more like Will Smith I'd jump him more often