What would make you want more sex after having a baby?

[Bella29]

I'm with beansbeans and mylitta. I feel touched out. I also have a hubby who spends minimal time physically with the kids. So he isn't touched out at all. And I also struggle with both he and I nt looking great atm. We have both put on weight and I love him to pieces, but don't feel as attracted to him as before.

[wysiwyg]

I voted More time with girlfriends / own passions or hobbies but it wouldn't be time with girlfriends it would be own hobbies because they also tend to give me alone time. I thought about sleep because definitely lacking sleep post baby - but actually thinking about it I don't find lack of sleep a hindrance to sex because I find sex helps to wind down and get some good sleep - so is extremely rare that I would feel too tired because I know I always sleep better after.

[Calluna]

Is there an option for "all of the above"? The only one that doesnt apply to me is more attention/ touch. They are all equally important to me too so m not sure I could choose just one...

[meow]

I think hormones is the biggest factor for me. After both pregnancies I have had no libido until my period returns. I voted for sleep though as that seems to be the second biggest factor. Sometimes I will desperately want to have sex with my husband as a way of being close to him and demonstrate my affection but I can't even bring myself to touch him because I'm so dog-tired I just want to roll over and sleep.

[~clover~]

I think after mine, sleep, followed by more help around the house were the biggest things.

More understanding & attention from your partner to bring back self confidence, & time to yourself/with girlfriends & to just do the things you love are big too.

I've now pretty much been 18 months without, so if someone looked at me the right way I'd probably be good to go!
But self confidence is a huge thing here & a big reason (ok, probably the only reason) I've been 18 months without...