I'm very sorry that you went through this, after so long trying, :hugs: it would be devastating!, i also have irregular periods about 2-6months apart, i have PCOS, and thats one of my symptoms of it, have you been diagnosed with PCOS?
I lost my son on 3rd May, at 20wks1day, he was also my first,so i do know the pain it is to lose a very much wanted/loved baby! i really do hope you get pregnant again, and that you carry full term, i wish i could say you will, but i dont want to give false hope and theres no way i can guarantee, but i do hope for you.
I wish i could give you a successful story, but i have heard from many that after a m/c it can be quicker and easier to get pregnant again, i hope this can be the case for you!!
You are in my thoughts today, and please keep updated on how your feeling, its good to get it all out and we are here to listen and help.
Hi AlwaysBlessed, I am very sorry for your loss it's a heartbreaking thing to go through no matter how far along you are. I lost a daughter at 19-wks. I can imagine it must be difficult given how long it took you to conceive the first time. On the emotional front, everyone is different, but I did find it has gotten easier with time, although I have my moments. On the physical front it is taking me longer to conceive this time then last (although its only been 7-mths) and I have been doing a lot of reading about acupunture and actually started it this week. I have read that it can help women who have hormone imbalances. If you are interested, perhaps do some research for yourself. I did read that its best to find an acupuncturist that specialises in fertility. All the very best to you & I pray that you are blessed with a healthy sticky baby next time that you carry to full-term, & I hope it happens nice and quickly for you. Take care.
I am so sorry to hear about your loss .
I also had a m/c. I had been with a partner and not using any concreception for YEARS then I fell pregnant. My husband (now but he was partner at the time) and I told everyone then I had a m/c. That night at the hospital laying in a room by myself knowing that I was loosing my baby was one of the worst nights of my life .
But now (7years later) I have three beautiful and healthy boys. They are aged 6, 4 and 3months.
The pain of m/c is the worst pain i have ever felt. I could not have ever imagined that i would deal with it so 'badly'. To this day it suprises me the depth i sunk. I feel sick remembering it now.......
But somehow at some point, im not sure when but it got easier and easier.
I have had two beautiful children since, so i am lucky enough to have three kids ages 5, 2, 10months. But still i have feelings of, 'id love a 4th, but do i risk another m/c"? I guess that i want you to know that whilst its the worst place i have ever been, it is worth the risk, because the benefits (kids) make it worth the fight!
I am intensively private about my m/c, but share my story when i feel it might help someone, as i had some amazing friends that were there for me when i needed it!
Have strength, seek support, forgive yourself and do try again.
Ill be sending you all my support and friendship your way!
I am so sorry for your loss hun. Having had a loss myself, I can tell you that yes, it gets easier, the grieving takes place and then it eases, life goes on and normality returns but not completely, you start to hear the birds sing again, you notice the sunshine, you hear your own laughter. But it took me months to get there, and I am still grieving to some extent. I am however now ready to try again and even though I will be very anxious and scared, I am going to go there again as I would love to have an earth baby.
So stay strong, stay focused and get some help if you need it with councelling or support from partner/family/friends/support groups. It really helps.
All the best for you and I hope you don't have to wait long for your beautiful earth baby.
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it's a heartbreaking thing to go through no matter how far along you are. I lost a daughter at 19-wks. I can imagine it must be difficult given how long it took you to conceive the first time. On the emotional front, everyone is different, but I did find it has gotten easier with time, although I have my moments. On the physical front it is taking me longer to conceive this time then last (although its only been 7-mths) and I have been doing a lot of reading about acupunture and actually started it this week. I have read that it can help women who have hormone imbalances. If you are interested, perhaps do some research for yourself. I did read that its best to find an acupuncturist that specialises in fertility. All the very best to you & I pray that you are blessed with a healthy sticky baby next time that you carry to full-term, & I hope it happens nice and quickly for you. Take care.
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