DH and I have different views on how to remember our babies too. I have some photos in an album and I keep them in my bedside drawer. They are for me. I don't expect DH to look at them, and to be honest he doesn't. It's OK to need things differently from your husband. There are some commemorative sites that you might like - To Write Their Names in the Sand, To Say it with Flowers - Rory's Garden, and Waterfall Angels. There are other sites too - ones that do memorial jewellery, ones that write names in coloured chalk on the sidewalk and take a photo.
Carly from To Write Their Names in the Sand and Rory's Garden, does some simply amazing and beautiful work. I only recently stumbled across Waterfall Angels, but it is similarly beautiful. It's a way to remember your Ellen, but not necessarily have a photo of her displayed.
I really like your idea about improving the waiting room at the hospital... how very moving and thoughtful.
I am also in the dark ages with technology, but I hear that the blog pages are relatively easy to set up and maintain. Still I haven't made the leap yet.
Here are some other links, less well known than Bonnie Babes or Sids and Kids, that might help......
I am sorry that you feel you have lost friends... some people just don't know what to say or have preconceived ideas about what grief should look like and how long it should last. You will always find an understanding soul in here. You are not alone.
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