oh and kate can i add due to you feeling like you have lost your friends..

My BFF lost her daughter 9 months ago in very similar circumstances, and i went to the babies funeral and too visit but for about 6 weeks i sort of moved away not because i didnt care but because i really had no idea how to comfort her and to keep my feelings hidden, i woke up to myself and ran to her straight away and was so relieved when she understood and we had the biggest D&M and cried together and now again we are inseperable but i felt soooooo bad i couldnt explain, i am now due on the day her lil angel was born with a lil girl as well and i struggled to tell her that i was even pregnant let alone due on that day with the same sex... dont feel isolated cause people around you are probably just scared but as for the people who have walked away and dont have time for you YOU are better off without them believe me your much better than that and deserve better surroundings mwaaaaaaaaa