BW i really don't believe that anything you did hastened Caterpillar's exit - s/he just had to go. BUT i do think it is VERY important to listen to your gut at times like this.

There is nothing to be lost by seeking another opinion. If you don't, you will wonder forever and you will be terrified after your next FET. All the fear isn't worth it. Another loss isn't worth it.

Seek the second opinion you NEED to continue down this road. Follow your heart, we will all be here to carry the rest of you when you need it.

Love

Bx